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    Growth #Thankful2017

     

    The Recovering Pessimist: Growth #Thankful2018 -- Growth is a combination of progress, setbacks, and doubts. The growth I've made in 2017 have prepared me for 2018. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

    I made progress on a lot of my goals and ideas this year. I also had a few setbacks, which allowed me to determine if the goal or idea is worth reassessing or if I should scrap it altogether. I also doubted myself, wondering if I was doing the right thing.

    I would’ve quit, however, quitting won’t get me where I want to be. I refused to give up. With my goals in mind, I restrategized and carried on. I’m thankful for the process of growth that I’ve experienced this year. The progress, the setbacks, and the doubts were all learning experiences that helped me better myself and sharpen my focus.

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    Live.

    Learn.

    Grow.

    Repeat.

     

     

     

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    Intuition #Thankful2017

    The Recovering Pessimist: Intuition #Thankful2017 -- Not only did intuition get me through some potentially sticky situations, but it also reminded me to trust my decision-making. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistI love talking about intuition (click here and here for earlier posts). This year, intuition helped me avoid some potentially sticky situations. I had opportunities that appeared to be awesome on the outside. My support system would give me the green light of approval, but I couldn’t knock the feeling that something wasn’t right.

    Intuition reminded me to trust my decision-making. That feeling keeps nagging at me for a reason. Clearly, it’s trying to tell me something, right?

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    Listen to the feeling.

    Trust yourself.

    You got this.

  • The Recovering Pessimist: Support System #Thankful2017 -- What I learned about my support system is that it's about quality, not quantity. What's the point in having 10 people in your support system if only 2-3 are always there for you? | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist
    The Complexities of Life

    Support System #Thankful2017

     

    The Recovering Pessimist: Support System #Thankful2017 -- What I learned about my support system is that it's about quality, not quantity. What's the point in having 10 people in your support system if only 2-3 are always there for you? | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

    I understood the importance of having a support system long ago. I needed people around me who had my best interest in mind, even if their honesty was brutal. This year, I learned another lesson about my support system:

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    I had a small support system of 5-6 people initially. When I reached out those 5-6 people, only 2-3 would always show up. What was the point of having those extra people if I can’t depend on them?

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    After trimming the fat, my support system now consists of 2-3 people. When I was too stubborn to listen to their thoughts and opinions, they could’ve let me drown in my stubbornness. Instead, they waited patiently for me to get my shi*t together. They cheered for me when I couldn’t cheer for myself. Most importantly, they genuinely care about my well-being.

    My appreciation for these people runs deeper than words can express. I’m thankful for all that they’ve done and continue to do for me.

    xo

     

     

     

     

     

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    Persistence #Thankful2017

    The Recovering Pessimist: Persistence #Thankful2017 -- When I get thisclose to accomplishing a goal, the Universe will test me. I could've quit, but persistence wouldn't allow that. Don't allow anyone or anything, including yourself, get in the way of your goals. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

    The Universe went out of her way to throw some curveballs my way this year. When I decided that I wanted to “Stay Ready” this year, I’m convinced that Universe not only heard me, but she was testing me.

    I would get thisclose to checking off a goal and then WHAM, an unexpected expense would pop up. Don’t you hate that? I could approach this situation in two ways:

    One: I could wave the white flag of defeat and wallow in my failure.

    Two: I can figure out how I can check off the goal AND how I can handle the unexpected expense without it negatively affecting me.

    I ain’t gonna lie (yes, you read that right), it’s way easier for me to wave the white flag of defeat than it is to carry on. But because I promised myself that I was going to make this goal happen, I’m hellbent on seeing it through.

    Here’s where persistence comes in.

    Persistence is a skill that I didn’t always appreciate. Why? Because it required me to keep going, even when I would rather throw my hands up and quit. But, when I want something, I want something. I do research, create a master plan, and even a few “just in case” contingency plans.

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    Time is ticking.

    Make moves.

     

     

     

     

     

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    Welcome to #Thankful2017

    The Recovering Pessimist: Welcome to #Thankful2017 -- I'm thankful for the four things featured in this series because they all got me through 2017. Without them, this year would've been a hot mess. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistNovember is a significant month for many reasons. It’s the kickoff of the holiday season. It’s the countdown to the end of the year.

    It’s also a time to do some reflection.

    It’s necessary for me to reflect on the good, the bad, and the meh of the current year before I begin planning for the following year.

    This month, I’m doing a four-part series called #Thankful2017 to reflect on the things that got me through 2017.

    Enjoy!

     

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    Holiday Fatigue Strikes Again

    The Recovering Pessimist: Holiday Fatigue Strikes Again -- It's October and the holidays are in our faces already. It's ridiculous and I'm already fatigued. Did I mention that it's only October? | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistI’ve written about my strong dislike of the retail aspect of the holiday season before (see herehere, and here). This year is much of the same with a not-so-surprising twist: I already have holiday fatigue and November isn’t even here yet.

    A few observations this year:

    • In many stores, Halloween items were at least 40% off by November 15th. Halloween displays made way for 6 foot tall Christmas trees and large plastic candy canes complete with lights.
    • My favorite stores started sending me emails featuring gift sets and other seasonal items to consider as gifts mid-October.
    • I’ve seen Elf on the Shelf displays.
    • People are counting down how many days are left until Christmas.

    In all honesty, I can deal with everything mentioned above MINUS the countdown. The counting down is high-key annoying as hell. Can we put the turkey in the oven first?

    Be strong ya’ll.

     

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    No More Tomorrows!

    There are 29 days left in this year.

    TWENTY-NINE DAYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    To make matters worse, I know I didn’t take advantage of every day. I was a firm believer in “I’ll do it tomorrow”. Well, tomorrow came and tomorrow left just as fast.

    Success doesn’t come by sitting on my assets giggles. What I can do is make the most of each day that I’m fortunate to see. There are a lot of goals that I want to accomplish and I have to put in the work get them accomplished.

    So, I got proactive during my Thanksgiving break. In order for me to get serious about being successful, I need to get organized. Take it back to my college days.

    I brought a book-sized daily/weekly planner. One central location for me to keep track of blog posts, writing contest ideas, etc. Since the planner starts in January, I printed off a blank December calendar so I can get things started.

    There are already four posts planned and tentatively scheduled for December. Yay me! I’m determined to make the best of the 29 days left in the year. No more tomorrows for me!

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    Is Christmas Over Yet?

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    My Christmas spirit is non-existent. Retail stores don’t let Halloween be great. Costumes are next to nutcrackers as a lead-than-subtle reminder that you might as well kill 2 birds with one stone.

    rolls eyes It’s too much.

    Speaking of force feeding the holidays, let’s discuss Christmas music. Where I live, radio stations start playing Christmas music either on or after Thanksgiving. On Nov 1, my coworker turned on her radio. What was playing? “White Christmas”. I was livid. Three weeks early.

    Here’s my issue. There are new Christmas albums every year. Yes, I understand that the oldies are still goodies, but who the hell can stomach hearing the SAME songs being played EVERY SINGLE DAY?!?!?!

    The madness must stop!!!

    Earbuds are the only thing keeping me from running down store aisles yelling “Santa is a fraud”.

    Carry on.