The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

Wisdom Wednesday #139

Aug
24

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #139 -- Strive to be above the standard. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

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Public Service Announcement: “Good Morning” Texts

Aug
22

The Recovering Pessimist: Public Service Announcement: The "Good Morning" Text -- I love getting a "good morning" text from someone I like/love. However, when that's the beginning and end of the daily conversation, there's a problem. And that problem is HUGE! | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

There’s something about waking up each day to a “Good morning” text message from someone you like/love. It makes me smile and (briefly) warms the frigid borders of my heart. Gives me all the feels. Puts a little pep in my step.

However, there’s a catch to the “Good morning” text, and it’s rooted in motive. When sending a “Good morning” text, two questions should come to mind:

  • Am I sending the text because I care?

OR

  • Am I sending the text because I feel that I’m obligated to do so?
Winnie the Pooh/giphy.com

Winnie the Pooh/giphy.com

Once you work out the motive, you move to the second phases: the follow-through. Once you send the “Good morning” text, make sure to do the following:

  • Ask him/her how he/she is doing.
  • Tell him/her to have a good day/evening/night.
Winnie the Pooh/giphy.com

Winnie the Pooh/giphy.com

If you care about someone, it should show in your actions. Click To Tweet

Also, when someone shows you who they are…even if it’s in a text message, believe them. If they don’t care enough to make text messages count, do you really want to invest more time and/or energy to get to know this person?

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Barack Obama/giphy.com

Until next time,

MsWalton

 

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Wisdom Wednesday #138

Aug
17

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #138 -- Don't forget to celebrate your wins, both big and small. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

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My Blogging Routine

Aug
15

The Recovering Pessimist: My Blogging Routine -- Before I sit down to write a blog post, I like to set the scene. I need to have the correct music, lighting, snacks, etc. to get me in the mental space to write some awesomeness. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

Blogging while working a 9-5 is difficult enough. There are things I must have to blog successfully, such as a decompression period, to keep me sane (click here and here).

When I’m getting ready to blog, I like to set the scene. I want to get myself mentally prepared to write some goodness. There are a few things that help me set the scene to blog:

Limit Distractions

I’m usually pretty good at multitasking. However, I can’t multitask when it comes to blogging. I waste too much time doing blog-related tasks if I’m watching TV and/or doing other things on the laptop. To avoid wasting time, I turn on the TV or at least mute it. If I’m working away from home, I wear headphones to block out the sounds around me.

Mood Music

I like to listen to music while I write. I’m a sucker for piano instrumentals. My favorite Spotify playlists are Piano ChillPiano MoodsThe Piano Bar, and Peaceful Piano. These playlists help me focus on the task at hand and makes the creative process smooth.

Gather Snacks & Beverage of Choice

In addition to having all my blogging tools at hand (click here and here), having snacks and beverages on hand is just as important. Fruits like cherries, apples, and bananas are my favorite snacks to have on hand. When it comes to alcohol, sweet red wine is my favorite.

These are a few of the things that help me set the scene to blog. If you’re a blogger and/or writer, how do you get yourself mentally prepared to write? How to you set the scene? I’d love to hear about it.

Until next time,

MsWalton

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Wisdom Wednesday #137

Aug
10

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #137 -- Love yourself before you expect others to love you. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

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Home #10WordStory

Aug
08

The Recovering Pessimist: Home #10WordStory -- You can walk away from the troubles at home, but at some point you have to come home and deal with them. | www.therecoveringpessmist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessmist #optimisticpessmist

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Wisdom Wednesday #136

Aug
03

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #136 -- Hopes and dreams require action in order to become reality. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

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Stay In YOUR Lane

Aug
01

This year, I’ve been working on a lot of goals. Many of these goals need a lot of research to make the goals a reality. Not bad right? I filled up notebooks, created many Pinterest boards, and created Evernote stacks to keep it all (somewhat) organized.

You might not think that’s a bad thing. And I understand why you might feel that way. But trust me, it is. And here’s why:

The Recovering Pessimist: Stay In YOUR Lane -- There's SO much information out there & a lot of it won't apply to you. That's okay. Be critical of the information you absorb. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

I ended up worse off than I was when I began. Something had to be done and it had to be done soon. I needed to rid myself of the source(s) of my overwhelm/stress. It began with the newsletters. At one point, I had 15 newsletters subscriptions.  Why? I subscribed to many of them after seeing a post that caught my eye on social media. I figured if one post was this good, why not subscribe for more posts like this?

Sounds okay, right?

WRONG!

Why?!

Some of the newsletters were too niche-based, which isn’t something that I can relate to. Others were aimed towards those who were at a different stage than I was. I ended up deleting more newsletters emails than I kept for future reference. No need to have my inbox clogged up by emails that aren’t useful.

Little Rascals/Giphy.com

Little Rascals/Giphy.com

Fixing this hot mess express took two steps:

  1. I went through my inbox and unsubscribed from about 55% of the newsletters. Not only is my inbox lighter but my nerves are much calmer. Everyone doesn’t belong in my inbox and that’s what let to the next step.
  2. I became more critical about the information I come across. Instead of subscribing to the newsletter and/or saving the information, I ask myself (sometimes several times) if this information is really useful to me?

Once I applied these two steps to my inbox, I realized how these steps also relate to life. Sometimes you have to weed through all the noise that’s around you to get to what really matters to you.

What works for many isn't always going to work for me, no matter how good it sounds. And that's okay. Click To Tweet

It’s as simple as that.

Until next time,

MsWalton

 

 

 

 

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Wisdom Wednesday #135

Jul
27

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #135 -- You have 24 hours. Make them count. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

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A Few Thoughts on Opportunity

Jul
25

The Recovering Pessimist: A Few Thoughts on Opportunity -- People are watching you. Don't think that because they're watching you that means they have your best intentions in mind. Best believe at least one of them is waiting for you to slip up so they can slide in. Don't believe me? Just watch. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistThe recent Pokémon Go craze has folks doing the absolute most. So much so that here in RVA  a woman was robbed playing the game. As I rolled my eyes at the sheer stupidity of this craze, I started thinking about opportunity.

Somebody is always watching you. And those who are watching you don’t always have your best interest… Click To Tweet
Christina Aguilera / giphy.com

Christina Aguilera / giphy.com

Ya’ll hear me up there in the nosebleed seats?!?!?!

Folks will wait in the wings, waiting for you to f*ck up so they can slide in and take advantage of your hard work. I have been on both sides of that coin. Is that wrong? Morally, yes. However, when it comes to opportunity, morals tend to take a back seat.

So what can you do?

Be aware of your surroundings. Understand that everyone that appears to be in your corner isn’t. I don’t want you to get caught up in some mess. And I damn sure don’t want you to go outside at 10 p.m. at night looking for some mess on an app.

Just don’t.

Because somebody is always watching you.

And they don’t have your best interest at heart.

Until next time,

MsWalton

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