The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

Welcome to #Thankful2017

Nov
03

The Recovering Pessimist: Welcome to #Thankful2017 -- I'm thankful for the four things featured in this series because they all got me through 2017. Without them, this year would've been a hot mess. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistNovember is a significant month for many reasons. It’s the kickoff of the holiday season. It’s the countdown to the end of the year.

It’s also a time to do some reflection.

It’s necessary for me to reflect on the good, the bad, and the meh of the current year before I begin planning for the following year.

This month, I’m doing a four-part series called #Thankful2017 to reflect on the things that got me through 2017.

Enjoy!

 

Wisdom Wednesday #204

Nov
22

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #204 -- People make time for what they want to make time for. Remember that. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

Intuition #Thankful2017

Nov
20

The Recovering Pessimist: Intuition #Thankful2017 -- Not only did intuition get me through some potentially sticky situations, but it also reminded me to trust my decision-making. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistI love talking about intuition (click here and here for earlier posts). This year, intuition helped me avoid some potentially sticky situations. I had opportunities that appeared to be awesome on the outside. My support system would give me the green light of approval, but I couldn’t knock the feeling that something wasn’t right.

Intuition reminded me to trust my decision-making. That feeling keeps nagging at me for a reason. Clearly, it’s trying to tell me something, right?

You can ignore your intuition, or you can take heed. Choose wisely.

Listen to the feeling.

Trust yourself.

You got this.

Wisdom Wednesday #203

Nov
15

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #203 -- Even in the darkest moments, you are stronger than you think. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

Support System #Thankful2017

Nov
13

 

The Recovering Pessimist: Support System #Thankful2017 -- What I learned about my support system is that it's about quality, not quantity. What's the point in having 10 people in your support system if only 2-3 are always there for you? | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

I understood the importance of having a support system long ago. I needed people around me who had my best interest in mind, even if their honesty was brutal. This year, I learned another lesson about my support system:

A successful support system is about quality, not quantity.

I had a small support system of 5-6 people initially. When I reached out those 5-6 people, only 2-3 would always show up. What was the point of having those extra people if I can’t depend on them?

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After trimming the fat, my support system now consists of 2-3 people. When I was too stubborn to listen to their thoughts and opinions, they could’ve let me drown in my stubbornness. Instead, they waited patiently for me to get my shi*t together. They cheered for me when I couldn’t cheer for myself. Most importantly, they genuinely care about my well-being.

My appreciation for these people runs deeper than words can express. I’m thankful for all that they’ve done and continue to do for me.

xo

 

 

 

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday #202

Nov
08

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #202 -- You decide how you want to live your life. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

Persistence #Thankful2017

Nov
06

The Recovering Pessimist: Persistence #Thankful2017 -- When I get thisclose to accomplishing a goal, the Universe will test me. I could've quit, but persistence wouldn't allow that. Don't allow anyone or anything, including yourself, get in the way of your goals. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

The Universe went out of her way to throw some curveballs my way this year. When I decided that I wanted to “Stay Ready” this year, I’m convinced that Universe not only heard me, but she was testing me.

I would get thisclose to checking off a goal and then WHAM, an unexpected expense would pop up. Don’t you hate that? I could approach this situation in two ways:

One: I could wave the white flag of defeat and wallow in my failure.

Two: I can figure out how I can check off the goal AND how I can handle the unexpected expense without it negatively affecting me.

I ain’t gonna lie (yes, you read that right), it’s way easier for me to wave the white flag of defeat than it is to carry on. But because I promised myself that I was going to make this goal happen, I’m hellbent on seeing it through.

Here’s where persistence comes in.

Persistence is a skill that I didn’t always appreciate. Why? Because it required me to keep going, even when I would rather throw my hands up and quit. But, when I want something, I want something. I do research, create a master plan, and even a few “just in case” contingency plans.

I refuse to allow anyone and anything, including myself, to get in the way of what I want in life.

Time is ticking.

Make moves.

 

 

 

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday #201

Nov
01

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #201 -- Don't rely on others to valid you. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

Holiday Fatigue Strikes Again

Oct
30

The Recovering Pessimist: Holiday Fatigue Strikes Again -- It's October and the holidays are in our faces already. It's ridiculous and I'm already fatigued. Did I mention that it's only October? | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistI’ve written about my strong dislike of the retail aspect of the holiday season before (see herehere, and here). This year is much of the same with a not-so-surprising twist: I already have holiday fatigue and November isn’t even here yet.

A few observations this year:

  • In many stores, Halloween items were at least 40% off by November 15th. Halloween displays made way for 6 foot tall Christmas trees and large plastic candy canes complete with lights.
  • My favorite stores started sending me emails featuring gift sets and other seasonal items to consider as gifts mid-October.
  • I’ve seen Elf on the Shelf displays.
  • People are counting down how many days are left until Christmas.

In all honesty, I can deal with everything mentioned above MINUS the countdown. The counting down is high-key annoying as hell. Can we put the turkey in the oven first?

Be strong ya’ll.

 

Wisdom Wednesday #200

Oct
25

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #200 -- When someone asks you why you feel how you feel, "because" is an automatic response. Next time someone, including yourself, responds with "because", hit them with "because why?" | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

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