Recently, I got incredibly overwhelmed with a task that was time-sensitive. After several hours of anxiety and stress, I gave myself a pep talk. The following is a snippet of what I said to myself.
This is due in 21 days. And it’s 15 pages long. Plus I need to provide documentation. That’s a lot of paper. I have to mail this?? Postage is going to be a sonofabitch. I can’t wait for this to be over. When am I going to get this shit done?? stares at pile of documentation I’m going to need black printer ink. I need a drink and by drink I mean whiskey. looks at clock It’s only 9 in the morning. Oh well, it’s 5 p.m. somewhere right? Ink is going to cost about $30 unless I can price match it. I would buy a printer with expensive ink.
Stop bitching. It has to be done. looks at calendar I have time to get this done. Don’t want to wait until the last minute. What can I knock out first? Perhaps I should write down all the things I need to do to get this done and only do one task a day. pats self on back Smart idea and I can maintain my sanity. You’re so smart.
It’s amazing how clear my mind was after I had that pep talk with myself. Whatever it takes for you to get it done, DO IT! I don’t care how absolutely ridiculous it may look and/or feel.
I’ve been sharing my dreams of self-employment with the important people in my life. Each time I tell them I’m tired of making other people rich, they question how I plan on making my dreams happen. I share my ideas with them and they’re so, so quick to dismiss me.
What about retirement?
What about health care?
Will you make enough money to pay your bills?
It’s frustrating to hear these questions over and over, as if I haven’t already considered the answers. I don’t think that people realize that by asking their questions, they’re inadvertently projecting their fears onto me. It reminds me of the old saying “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”
Newsflash, I have fears. I don’t need you to ask me about what I already know. I promise you I didn’t just wake up one day and decide I’m going to quit my job. I’m still planning my moves, but understand that I’m motivated enough to take the risks to make my dreams come true. This cubicle life that so many deem secure is not the life for me.
Having a support system is great. I just wish people understood that they don’t have to understand my dreams in order to support them. I understand their concerns, however, I don’t want to encounter a barrage of questions. If they don’t believe me, great. I thoroughly enjoy proving the doubters wrong.
Don’t believe me? Just watch.
When I was in middle school, I played the clarinet in concert band. My music teacher taught us so much about musical concepts. She also stressed that several music concepts are applicable outside of the classroom.
Cadence is one of those applicable concepts. Our lives are comprised of cadences. There are times when the rhythms are up and times when the rhythms are down.
These rhythms also vary from person to person. No two people are the same, and what I consider normal isn’t considered normal to you. There’s no need to compare yourself to others.
What music class taught me was that while we are part of the band, we are individuals first. That’s the beauty of life. Each of us contribute something to the world. If all of our cadences were the same, just imagine how terribly boring the world would be.
I cringe at the thought of it.
A couple of months ago, I was chatting with my sister about the upcoming add/drop deadline for her nursing classes. During the conversation, she told me that one of her professors spoke to the class about low test scores. The professor explained to the class that she wouldn’t view the students as failures if they withdrew now and returned to the program when they were ready.
In the past, when I realized that I should bow out of a situation, pride got in the way. It took a lot of failures, before it became a lesson learned. Now that I know better, I reassure myself by saying:
It’s okay to tap out, I promise.
There’s nothing wrong with tapping out. When you’re ready, reevaluate the situation with a clear mind.
Have you found yourself needing to tap out? Let’s discuss in the comments.
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In the midst of planning for 2015, I came across a suggestion that people should have a theme for the year. A short word/phrase that keeps you motivated and on task for the entire year. I made a note to think about a theme for 2015 and continued with my day.
As always, inspiration hits me in the oddest of places. While washing my hands, my subconscious whispered in my ear…
…LET THAT SHIT GO!
There was my theme for 2015. Brilliant!
For me to accomplish all the things in my mind map, I have to let go of whatever doesn’t do the following:
- Make me happy.
- Contribute to my goals/wants.
- Support my values.
Have you considered creating a theme for 2015? If so, what is it? Let’s discuss in the comments!
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