The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

Schedule Changes are Coming

Apr
30

A year ago, I decided to focus more on my creative writing projects. After much procrastinating, I created Snapshot Storyteller: an unglamorous and unconventional look into my writing journey (subscribe if you want to stay in the know).

Right now, I want to spend time growing Snapshot Storyteller and working on creative projects. That won’t leave me with a lot of time for The Recovering Pessimist. As of today, the posting schedule will change. Instead of posting every Monday, I will post 1-2 times a month. Wisdom Wednesdays will still post weekly for the rest of this year.

Take of yourself,

MsWalton

 

Wisdom Wednesday #234

Jun
20

Wisdom Wednesday #233

Jun
13

Wisdom Wednesday #232

Jun
06

Wisdom Wednesday #231

May
30

Restrict Access

May
28

The Recovering Pessimist: Restrict Access -- Self-care is more than baths with moisturizing bath bombs, wine, and Netflix binges. Self-care is about maintaining your well-being by restricting access to those who no longer have a place in your life. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistWhen I first learned about “self-care”, I thought about luxurious bath soaks, quiet moments reading/journaling, watching TV with wine, etc. As time went on, I learned that in addition to all those things, self-care is anything that improves your well-being.

Fast forward to now. Recently, I was scrolling through my social media and noticed that I followed a few people who I no longer communicate with. Mainly because the reason (or reasons) that made me follow them online were no longer relative to me. Then I had a lightbulb moment.

Why do they need to have access to you online?

There’s no need to keep people around, whether it’s online or offline, that no longer have a place in your life. Doesn’t matter if it’s a close friend or a relative. Self-care is all improving your well-being so why would you keep people in your life that don’t positively affect your well-being?

Do what's best for you, including restricting people's access to you.

Until next time,

MsWalton

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday #230

May
23

Wisdom Wednesday #229

May
16

Wisdom Wednesday #228

May
09

Wisdom Wednesday #227

May
02

Wisdom Wednesday #226

Apr
25

Is It Complicated?

Apr
23

The Recovering Pessimist: "Is It Complicated?" -- When a relationship status changes to "It's Complicated", sometimes I wonder if the relationship is complicated by choice, circumstance, or both. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

 

Allow me to set the scene.

You’re on Facebook, scrolling through your timeline. You notice that one of your friends has changed their relationship to “It’s Complicated”. At that moment, you may ask yourself the following:

Is it complicated by circumstance?

Is it complicated by choice?

I decided to answer these questions based on my own observations.

Is it complicated by circumstance?

Things could be complicated due to lack of communication. If neither party expresses their expectations, wants, etc., the relationship itself will resemble a car when you take your hands off the wheel. The relationship will run smoothly for a bit but at some point, it will veer off the road.

Is it complicated by choice?

I’ve witnessed people in relationships voluntarily engage in BS for the sheer delight of relishing in chaos. I’ll never understand it, but that’s not my battle to fight. The idea of enjoying a healthy relationship just isn’t appealing to some. I guess that’s okay. Clearly folks like making a mountain out of a molehill.

Are relationships really complicated? Some are, whether it’s by circumstances, choice, or both. What won’t make them any less complicated is letting everyone know that your relationship is complicated. No need to make something more difficult than it is, right?

Take care,

MsWalton

 

 

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