The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

Finish What You Start in 2018

Jan
01

The Recovering Pessimist: Finish What You Start in 2018 -- This year's theme was inspired by a stack of books that I failed to finish. After being annoyed with myself, I decided that I was no longer going to start things and not finishing them. This year will be the year that I follow through to the end. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistThe inspiration for this year’s theme derived from the stack of (at least 6) books that I’ve purchased throughout 2017 and either never started them or started them and never finished them. Oh, and the countless projects that I’ve started (or planned) and never finished them (or execute them). I’m legit disappointed in myself.

Yoda/Giphy.com

Yoda/Giphy.com

With inspiration on deck, creating the theme was as simple as moving some words around. What I came up with was this:

FINISH WHAT YOU START

It’s long overdue. It would be delusional for me to continue to think that I can accomplish goals when I have a tendency to leave things unfinished. This year, I’m hellbent on starting, finishing, and repeat. No more half-assing.

Do you have a theme/mantra for 2018? I would love to hear about it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday #225

Apr
18

Mind Your Business

Apr
16

The Recovering Pessimist: "Mind Your Business" -- Worrying about yourself and yourself only is crucial for your well-being. If that appears hard to do, try it. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistMinding your business is one of those life mantras that you can never be reminded of enough. I figured what’s one more reminder right?

We’re surrounded by other people’s business, whether it’s intended for us to know about it or not. For the most part, you manage to avoid it. Other times, you can’t because folks bring their issues/problems/concerns to your emotional doorstep and leave them there for you to sort through.

It’s emotionally and physically draining & on top of that, you don’t know what to do about the mess left on your emotional doorstep. I usually experience two things during this process.

One, you want to help because you want the best for those involved. Nothing wrong with that. Two, you need to stay out of it. No matter how much you may care about those involved, getting involved is going to do harm to you and your well-being.

Minding your business is good for your well-being. If you don't already do it, try it and report back.

Until next time,

MsWalton

 

Wisdom Wednesday #224

Apr
11

Lay It To Rest

Apr
09

The Recovering Pessimist: Lay It To Rest -- Please don't stress yourself trying to work out things that can't be worked out. Or seeking closure in people/situations where closure won't be found. Let all of those unresolved things go for the sake of your well-being. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #optimisticpessimist #recoveringpessimistSome things just aren’t worth it. You can try to work out whatever it is, but it never works out. You seek closure so you can move on, but closure never comes. So forth and so on.

Been there, done that, done that again, and finally made it to the other side.

I hope this saves you some time and stress: Stop trying. Figure out how to move on without whatever it is that didn’t work out. Find the closure you need within and carry on.

Whatever it is that is keeping you from prospering, lay it to rest.

It’s hard to do, however, you’ll be glad you did it.

Until next time,

MsWalton

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday #223

Apr
04

Stoplight Mentality

Apr
02

One day, while waiting for the light to change, a thought popped into my head:

People function like stoplights.

Chloe x Halle/Giphy.com

Chloe x Halle/Giphy.com

Here’s my attempt to tie this together. The red, yellow, and green colors of the stoplight represent how we function when obstacles present themselves. Here’s the breakdown by stoplight colors:

Green Light

No obstacles in your way for the most part. The obstacles that you do come across are easy to get around. You got this. All is well. Carry on and whatnot.

Yellow Light

Whoa there! There’s an obstacle that’s too big to go around but not so big that it’s blocking your path. You may have to do some shifting but you figure it out. Whew!

Red Light

Yikes! Just when you thought you were all done with shifting, life comes at you fast. You use everything that you have, but that obstacle…well, it’s not moving and now you’re at a crossroads. One, you can gather your wits and work on a plan of attack. Or two, you can quit, turn around, and travel the way you came.

So how did I do? Did it make sense or did I confuse the hell outta you? Let me know.

Be great,

MsWalton

 

 

 

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday #222

Mar
28

Embracing Growth

Mar
26

The Recovering Pessimist: Embracing Growth -- For me, growth is an uncomfortable, but necessary part of adulthood. You can run away from it like I did, or you can embrace it and prosper. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

Growth is one of those necessary aspects of life that requires you to become comfortable with being uncomfortable. I’m a creature of habit. I like things a certain way. When there’s an unexpected change in my life, I get anxious. Growth is the feeling of anxiety.

Years ago, I wasn’t this open to growth. I ignored the lessons that were being taught to me & continued to make the same mistakes over and over. I was afraid to change because I didn’t know what would happen. My fear of the unknown was crippling and I was tired of repeatedly hitting the wall.

I had to get uncomfortable and allow growth to do its thing. There were several people that I had to let go of in order to become better. I won’t lie, it hurt like hell, but in hindsight, it had to be done.

Growth is an uncomfortable, but necessary part of adulthood. You can run away from it like I did, or you can embrace it and prosper.

I’m grateful for the day I stopped ignoring the lessons.

MsWalton

Wisdom Wednesday #221

Mar
21

Moonlight #10WordStory

Mar
19

Wisdom Wednesday #220

Mar
14

It’s Okay to be OK

Mar
12

The Recovering Pessimist: It's Okay to Be OK" -- You don't owe anyone an explanation for why you feel the way you feel. If you feel okay, then you feel okay. Nothing wrong with that. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistThe inspiration for this post came from a snippet of a conversation I observed recently:

Them: “How are you feeling?”

Me:Okay.”

Them:Okay? Just okay?”

I felt offended and I wasn’t part of the conversation. How dare they question how someone felt! Why did they think that feeling okay wasn’t good enough? Did they seriously want that person to explain what “okay” meant to them so they could get a better understanding?

What the hell is wrong with people?

You don't need to explain what 'okay' means to you.

If you ask me how I’m feeling on any given day, there’s a 98% chance I’m going to respond with “okay”. There’s no room for interpretation in that response. Feeling okay is just that…okay. If by chance, you’re the person questioning what “okay” means, I hope this makes you more aware of how your words are interpreted. Even if you meant no harm by it, understand that the person on the receiving end may find your words harmful. If they don’t give more detail in their response, let it be.

Until next time,

MsWalton

 

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