The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

Get Your Sh!t Together!


Over the weekend, I realized that we have entered the last quarter of 2016.



The panic is real over here.

A tiny part of me is excited because 2016 has truly been on some bullshit for a multitude of reasons. However, the majority of me isn’t ready for 2016 to come to an end. I still have a lot of things I need to do in the remaining days of the year.

*insert loud sigh here*

On my whiteboard is a list of all the things I have to get done by December 31, 2016. Many of these things are simple, like get my oil changed in my vehicle. Others are a bit more complex, such as writing Wisdom Wednesday posts for the 1st quarter of 2017. Each time I look at it, I get anxious.

I don’t have enough time.

When am I going to find time to do this?!

What if I don’t finish this in time?!

To be completely transparent, I could have finished a good chunk of these whiteboard items two months ago. But laziness got the best of me and now here we are, stressed out. After kicking myself for my horrible time management skills, I realized that I have to get my sh!t together.


For me, making better use of my time + avoiding distractions go hand in hand.

Making Better Use of My Time

I’ve spent an entire day “working” on tasks and by the end of the day, I have nothing to show for it. It’s ridiculous. I can’t afford to do this at this point, so I’m using my ClearFocus app to knock out those tasks in a lot less time. The less time I spend on each task, the more tasks I can get done. Win!

Avoiding Distractions

I like to work on my sofa, which is across from the TV. I may put the TV on a show that isn’t interesting, but before I know it, I’m binge watching. hangs head in shame  So, I grab my wireless headphones, turn on Spotify, and get to work. That usually does the job.

Yes, 2017 is thisclose. You still have time. Breathe in, exhale, and get your sh!t together! You got… Click To Tweet

Until next time,



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Happiness #10WordStory


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(Please) Take Care of Yourself


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Life is chaotic.

The last couple of months have been challenging to say the least. Stress had my physical and mental health in shambles. By the time I got to do for myself, I didn’t have the time nor energy to devote to my well-being.

Not good.

I’m writing this post to not only remind myself but to also remind you that we have to take care of ourselves. Our mental, physical, and spiritual health depend on it. We gotta make sure our needs are taken care of before we take care of others.

You can't be there for everyone if you don't take care of yourself first. Click To Tweet

Be good to yourself.

Until next time,




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My Must-Have WordPress Plugins

The Recovering Pessimist: My Must-Have WordPress Plugins -- Plugins are like spices. There's a lot of work that goes into curating the perfect combination of plugins that work together to make your blog run smoothly. Add a plugin that doesn't fit and chaos ensues. I may be able to help you avoid the chaos. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

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When I began blogging on, I had no idea what I’m doing. I knew I just had to get started and I’d figure out the rest later. Over time, I realized that I needed to have more control over how this blog functions both on the front and back ends.

About two years ago, I moved to self-hosting for this website and that’s where I learned how complex plugins are. Plugins are like spices. The right plugins can make your blog run smoothly. But if you add a plugin to the mix that doesn’t play well with the others, all hell will break loose.



Half Baked/

Half Baked/

Running a self-hosted blog has its moments of utter frustration. Because I don’t want you to go through the same headaches I’ve gone through, I wanted to share a few of my must-have WordPress plugins. I hope this helps.

Broken Link Checker

I never realized how important this plugin was until the first time I used it. I can’t remember how long Broken Link Checker took to find the broken links BUT I do know that I had about 300 or so broken links to fix.

If you thought that was bad, it gets worse. It took me about 18 hours over a span of two days to fix the broken links. Some of the links were truly bad and needed new links attached. Others weren’t truly broken & needed to be rechecked to confirm & remove them from the broken link list.

When I tell you I don’t EVER IN LIFE want to go through that again, I mean it! Take it from me and download this plugin and save yourself now before it gets too deep.

Disqus Comment System

I like leaving comments. What I don’t like are complex commenting systems. I’ve tested several comment systems before settling on Disqus Comment System. It is very user-friendly, both for me and the commenters, which is very important. The occasional spam comment does slip into my comment queue, though. Just wanted to make you aware of that.

Better Click to Tweet

I love Twitter. So much so that I incorporate Twitter into my blog posts. Better Click to Tweet allows me to create a tweet within a blog post that readers can click on the tweet to post it to their Twitter timeline. Brilliant! The key is to make sure that the tweet you choose to  incorporate in your blog post is catchy. That way, people will retweet, like, etc.

Editorial Calendar

Using an editorial calendar has been a struggle for me. I would write blog posts one at a time, which never really provided me with a break. Downloading Editorial Calendar makes planning blog posts way easier. I can see all posted and scheduled blog posts along with scheduled blog posts that are in draft status. In addition, the plugin provides a  list of unscheduled drafts that you can either leave on the screen or hide them.

You can hover over the blog posts in the calendar and see options to edit, quick edit, delete, and/or view. This saves you time from having to find the individual post itself. Also, you can drag and drop posts throughout the calendar to your liking. How awesome is that?

Revive Old Post

Last year, I was trying to figure out a way to automatically share my blog posts on Twitter. It took a wee bit of research but I ran across Revive Old Post. I use the free option and it’s packed with features. You choose how many posts to share at a time & the minimum time between shares. You can choose the minimum and maximum ages of posts to be eligible for sharing. There’s also an option to exclude  and/or include specific categories to share from.

That’s all I’ve got for now. If you have any questions and/or comments about these plugins, let me know in the comments. I love sharing what I know and getting feedback from you.

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Until next time,



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My 2016 Fall Favorites


The Recovering Pessimist: My 2016 Fall Faves -- With Fall approaching, I wanted to share what I'm looking forward to this year. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistAutumn 2016 began September 22 and with that comes cooler weather, which we need here in RVA. So without further adieu, I’m here to deliver my fall favorites for 2016 (click here for last year’s post).

Food and Beverage!!

In last year’s post, I mentioned several of my favorite food and beverage items. It’s apple butter and pumpkin butter time! Absolutely delicious on toast, bagels, and in oatmeal. I’ve been obsessed with finding bread pudding and cobbler recipes to my Pinterest account. Also, seasonal beers appear on shelves, ready for my taste buds to enjoy.


The weather is still warm, but the nights get a bit chilly, so layering clothing is essential for me. There’s something about a light, chunky sweater, boots, and a light infinity scarf that make me so happy. I’ve been online window shopping for all new clothing. Soon as a sale starts, I’m on it!

Home Fragrance

For fall, I love scents such as leather, wood, musk, bergamot, and sandalwood. I tend to buy these scents in the forms of candles, incense, room sprays, and air fresheners for my car. A few of my favorite home fragrance lines are by Glade, Bath and Body Works, Yankee Candle, and various Etsy stores. The first three usually have coupons and/or coupon codes available this time of year.

Cozy Nights

Fall nights are great. I tend to open the windows to allow the crisp night air to enter the apartment. It feels so relaxing to read, watch TV, sleep, etc. with the window open and crisp air surrounding you. The cooler air mixed with the home fragrance of your choice is divine.


Festival season doesn’t stop at the end of summer. Here in RVA, my favorite festivals are the Richmond Folk Festival, Armenian Food Festival, and Richmond Italian Festival. Put on your comfy layers and enjoy!

That’s it, folks! I hope you enjoyed this year’s list. Leave a comment with some of your fall favorites.

Until next time,



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