No Gold Stars

The Recovering Pessimists: No Gold Stars -- You don't get gold stars, accolades, pats on the back, etc. because you made an effort. That's not how any of this works. | #amwriting #therecoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist**Begin Transmission**

I have an issue with the “I deserve because I tried” mentality. Many like to believe this is solely an issue with the younger generations. I disagree. I’ve encountered older people who think the same way. 

It really irritates me.What about those who not only make an effort but succeed in their effort? What does that show them?

What about those who not only make an effort but succeed in their effort? What does that show them?

It shows them that all they have to do is make an effort and they get the same accolades as they would’ve gotten for trying & succeeding.

What really irritates me about that mentality is that people feel like they should get praise for doing what they’re expected to do (e.g., pay bills, go to school, etc.).

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That’s not how this thing called life works.

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A.S.S. (Always Something Syndrome)

There are some people that always seem to have something going on with them. It’s dramatic. To make things worse, it appears that many of them enjoy the drama. It’s so widespread that I decided that it needs a name: Always Something Syndrome, or A.S.S. for short.


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I keep people who suffer from A.S.S. at arm’s length or I cut them off completely. Not because I don’t care about them, but because they’re draining. Those particular folks had a tendency to create situations that in turn created drama. They kept this drama going for no reason whatsoever just so they could whine about it to whoever would listen.

I entertained it for a while because I cared about them. I wanted the vbest for them, but as you and I both know, you can’t want it for them more than they want it for themselves. They know that the drama can be resolved. However, if they resolve it, they don’t have anything else to talk about. And if they don’t have anything to talk about, folks stop paying attention to them.

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Until next time,