Public Service Announcement: Clapback Season

The Recovering Pessimist: Public Service Announcement: Clapback Season -- Don't let anyone insert their thoughts, opinions, or ideas without being asked. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistThere are rules in life that are expected to be broken and there are rules in life that under no circumstances are to be broken. The biggest one being do not insert yourself where you aren’t wanted.

Did ya’ll catch that up there in the rafters?


I’ll repeat it.

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People have a habit of inserting themselves where they aren’t wanted. Sometimes, they don’t realize they are doing it. But there are those who are habitual offenders and don’t care that you didn’t ask for their thoughts, opinions, ideas, and so on.

You get fed up with their antics and you may or may not be considering how to approach them. Just let your spirit speak for you. Stay with me on this. You need to meet the offender(s) in person. Turn to him/her, cock your head to the side, and with all the attitude you can muster say the following:


Observe their reaction. If they react like hot grease from the stove popping them on the arm, your words got to them. Pat yourself on the back. It’s been my experience that some folk can definitely dish it, but cannot take it when it’s thrown back at them.

Welcome to clapback season. Don’t allow people to give you their two cents when you didn’t ask for it. Put your foot down and let them know you aren’t about to put up with their shenanigans.

It’s a new year. In with the confidence, out with the bullshit.



Turning 30 & the “Switch”

The Recovering Pessimist: Turning 30 & "The Switch" -- The best thing about turning 30 is that I don't care about people's expectations anymore. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistAs I celebrate the 34th birthday this week, I wanted to reflect on the third decade of my life so far. I’m having way more fun at this phase of my life than I did in my 20s. So many things that didn’t make sense before finally made sense the morning I turned 30.

Allow me to set the scene.

People who were older than me used to always talk about how my outlook on life would change when I turned 30. I figured they were exaggerating and paid them no mind.

Fast forward to the morning of my 30th birthday, when I realized that the people in my life were dead serious. My outlook on life definitely changed. I woke up and I kid you not, I didn’t care about a damn thing.

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Now, let me be more specific. I cared about important things, such as my financial future. What I no longer cared about were the petty things such as worrying how people perceived me.  It felt so freeing to wake up and the burdens that consumed my thoughts were all gone.

Turning 30 reassured me that I don't anyone's approval. My life. My rules. Click To Tweet

If you’re approaching your 30s, don’t sulk. You’re entering a decade where hopefully, life starts making sense. Embrace it. If you’re already in your 30s, did you experience “the switch”? What was it like for you? I’d love to hear from you.

Until next time,



Celebrate ALL of Your Wins

The Recovering Pessimist: Celebrate ALL of Your Wins. -- Take time to celebrate your accomplishments. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistI’ll let you in on a little secret.

I don’t celebrate my accomplishments.

Feel free to insert gasps of shock, awe, and disbelief here.

It may sound odd, but hear me out on this. So much time and energy went into accomplishing the task, that when I actually accomplished it, I was too emotionally/physically exhausted to celebrate it. Instead, I would just move on to the next item on the agenda.

While planning for 2015, I realized that I couldn’t go into another year not giving myself the recognition I deserved. I began keeping track of all my accomplishments, big and small. At the end of the year, I would revisit the pieces of paper I wrote each accomplishment on. It was my way of reminding myself of all the awesome things I had done.

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Celebrate ALL of your wins. Don’t shrug them off or downplay them. If it was important enough for you to do it, it’s important for you to celebrate when you finish it.

Until next time,




A Few Thoughts on Tunnel Vision

The Recovering Pessimist: Tunnel Vision -- Don't miss out on opportunities around you because you're so focused on what's ahead of you. #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistWhen I’m driving, I notice that people don’t look before changing lanes. Nor do they check for vehicles (and people) when backing out of parking spaces. Oh and don’t forget when they almost mow down pedestrians because they don’t bother took look before they mash on the gas.

*sighs loudly*

On this random day, I observed one vehicle cut off another vehicle. I doubt the driver looked before he/she decided to change lanes. As I drove past these two vehicles, I got inspired to write this blog post.

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I don’t have enough fingers or toes to count these missed opportunities on. I was so busy focused on completing a particular task this on particular way that I completely missed out on potential opportunities.

It took me a while to stop beating myself up over this. I also don’t want you to beat yourself up over this. Mistakes are a part of life. I want to remind you to see the opportunities around you.

Don’t let these opportunities pass you by.

Until next time,



It. Is. Time.

The Recovering Pessimist: It. Is. Time. -- There's no "perfect" time to begin something. Start now. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistOne of my ongoing goals for my life is to escape the cubicle farm. For the past two years, I’ve wanted to turn my hobbies into a career.  I have so many notes on ideas and resources that can help me meet this goal.

Ideas and resources are great, but I needed more than that to make my goal of self-employment happen. I refused to spend another year planning for something, yet getting no closer to my goals.

There’s only so much information you can collect. There’s only so much planning you can do before you just have to stop doing and just do. I stopped compiling ideas and resources. I stopped worrying about the “what ifs” and I got started.

I won’t lie, starting is the hardest step, but it’s necessary. You can’t do what makes you happy if you’re always planning. At some point, you have to make a move. Don’t worry about making mistakes. Mistakes are a part of life. It’s okay if you don’t know everything in the beginning. Nobody does. You learn as you go.

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In the words of the wise Rafiki:


The Recovering Pessimist: It. Is. Time. -- There comes a time when you can't wait anymore. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist


Take care of yourself,