These keys apply to real life.
It sounds a tinge ridiculous but here’s my explanation:
CTRL – Control your personal space.
I talk about personal space (see here, here, and here) often because it’s that important. Guarding the people and/or things that enter your personal space is a key component of self-care (see here, here, and here). Trust me on this one.
ALT – Alternate your habits.
I’m a creature of habit. Most of my habits aren’t time-specific, but I still have to do them. The problem with habits is that you miss out on experiences and moments. Loosen up a bit. Figure out a way to alternate your habits so you can still enjoy the spontaneity of life.
DELETE – Remove who and/or what’s unnecessary.
Purge things from your home that you have no use for. Drop the people who drain you of your energy. Goodness can’t come into your life if you have negativity surrounding you.
Until next time,
I was on Instagram the other day and saw a post that asked “If you could give your younger self a piece of advice, what would it be?”
Take your time.
Society still has these standards that dictate that you should work towards career and/or family and have it by a certain time in your life. I somewhat understand why these standards originated, but times have changed, and so have people.
You don’t have to date with the hopes of finding someone to marry.
You don’t have to get married.
You don’t have to have children.
If it happens, it happens.Life doesn't start nor end because you didn't meet society's expectations. Click To Tweet
People won’t understand it. They’ll call you crazy, selfish, and stubborn. It’ll hurt your feelings, but don’t let their words discourage you. In fact, you’ll lose some people along the way, but that happens as you grow.Don't get so caught up in expectations that you forget to live. Click To Tweet
You got this.
I’m subscribed to the AMAZING Shameless Maya on Youtube. In her “Get Ready With Me | Am I Too Independent?” video, she discussed being too independent while doing her hair and makeup. Check out the video below:
A few thoughts came to mind while I watched her video:
The realization that my independent nature derived from my 5th-grade teacher. In addition to teaching us the standard curriculum, he also taught us life skills such as how to complete a 1040EZ tax form and how to write a check.
Why?If you don't learn how to do something for yourself, how will you know if somebody is screwing you… Click To Tweet
I learn out of necessity because I tend to want things done a certain way and when I had other people do it for me, most of the time I was disappointed in the outcome. Over time, I learned that I can’t do it myself 100% of the time. What I can do is learn all that I can about the situation/problem/issue so that I have all the information needed to when I present it to someone for help.
When you know better, you do better right?
Until next time,
Years ago, I would panic when this would happen. Now, I understand that it’s okay to have these moments. How I handled these moments when self-doubt attempted a takeover is what mattered. These days, I give myself a pep talk. Nothing fancy, just a conversation to myself from myself. Below is an example of a pep talk I wrote in my journal about a year ago. After you read it, let me know if you give yourself pep talks and what you tell yourself.
After you read it, let me know if you give yourself pep talks and what you tell yourself. Without further adieu, here we go.
Look, I get that you’re having a down moment now and that’s okay. Don’t beat yourself up over it. You’re surrounded by some pretty awesome people who care about you and want nothing but the best for you. Lean on them. Let them help you.
You have dreams and goals. That requires patience, which you don’t have much of. Remember, patience is necessary for your growth. Nothing in this life will happen on your time.
It’s healthy to want love in your life. Don’t seek love. Live your life. Let love come to you.
Appreciate what you see in the mirror, flaws included. Flaws make you the dope soul that you are.
Repeat this as much as you need to until the self-doubt goes away.