A Few Thoughts on Opportunity

The Recovering Pessimist: A Few Thoughts on Opportunity -- People are watching you. Don't think that because they're watching you that means they have your best intentions in mind. Best believe at least one of them is waiting for you to slip up so they can slide in. Don't believe me? Just watch. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistThe recent Pokémon Go craze has folks doing the absolute most. So much so that here in RVA  a woman was robbed playing the game. As I rolled my eyes at the sheer stupidity of this craze, I started thinking about opportunity.

Somebody is always watching you. And those who are watching you don’t have your best interest at heart. Click To Tweet
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Christina Aguilera / giphy.com

Ya’ll hear me up there in the nosebleed seats?!?!?!

Folks will wait in the wings, waiting for you to f*ck up so they can slide in and take advantage of your hard work. I have been on both sides of that coin. Is that wrong? Morally, yes. However, when it comes to opportunity, morals tend to take a back seat.

So what can you do?

Be aware of your surroundings. Understand that everyone that appears to be in your corner isn’t. I don’t want you to get caught up in some mess. And I damn sure don’t want you to go outside at 10 p.m. at night looking for some mess on an app.

Just don’t.

Because somebody is always watching you.

And they don’t have your best interest at heart.

Until next time,



Back to Center: Update 5

The Recovering Pessimist: Back to Center Update 5 -- In Back to Center 4, I mentioned that I have a decompression period each day to relax. I wanted to go into more detail on how I like to decompress in this update. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

When I get off work, the first thing I want to do is wind down from the day. Those 1-2 hours allow me to calm my mind and get back to my normal.

In Back to Center: Update 4, I briefly mentioned that having a decompression period was a crucial aspect of my relaxation plan.

Since then, my decompression period has become a huge part of my self-care routine. For this update, I wanted to expand upon the specific components that make up my decompression period.


Log Off

There’s at least one day during the week where by the time I get home, I really don’t want to touch anything electronic other than my TV. I can try to get SOMETHING productive done, but my attempts are futile. My brain wants no parts of productivity sometimes and that’s fine.

Listen to Music

It feels great to grab my noise-cancelling headphones (truly a lifesaver) and listen to instrumental music to wind down. Lately, I’ve been enjoying Joey Alexander, in addition to The Piano Bar and Piano Chill playlists on Spotify.

Brain Dump

Sometimes, there’s too much going on in my mind. My mind won’t stop and that prevents me from getting a good night’s rest. When I can feel that coming, I tend to write my thoughts in my journal so my mind can relax. As soon as the pen hits the paper, I feel better.

Take a Nap

Look. LOOK. LOOK! When I tell you naps are the BESTEST (yes, bestest) thing ever…I ain’t lying. Sometimes you need a nap just to regroup yourself. It can start as a power nap and end up being hours long. But when I wake up from a nap, I feel good all over. Whew!



Drink Something Relaxing

Whatever it is (e.g., alcohol, tea, coffee, water, etc.), I hope it helps you feel better. Cheers!

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Scream, Laugh, and/or Cry

I have moments when I go through the motions of wanting to laugh, cry, and/or scream.

When I want to laugh:

  • I watch YouTube videos. My favorite ones are people doing stupid things and kids being kids.
  • I watch/listen to a lot of comedy shows. My favorites are by Bernie Mac, Katt Williams, Richard Pryor, and Gary Owen.

When I want to cry:

  • Crying in public is a no-no for me, so I do 99% of my crying sessions at home. As soon as I finish sobbing, I feel sooo much better.

When I want to scream:

  • Like crying, screaming in public is a no-no. If I’m driving, i just turn the music up and let it out. If I’m at home, I put a pillow over my mouth and let it rip. Immediate relief.
Watch TV

When I get home from a rough day, most of the time I don’t want to watch anything that requires a lot of thought. Watching comedy and reality shows along with cartoons really help me to relax.


I love to read. Being able to escape from reality for a bit works wonders.

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That’s it for now. Tell me, how do you decompress? What works best for you?

Until next time,



A Few Thoughts on Responsibility

The Recovering Pessimist: A Few Thoughts on Responsibility -- You wanna be treated like an adult, act like one. Own up to your f*ck ups. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistsThere are some life lessons that you just have to learn yourself. No matter how many times you were told not to do it, you still had to learn it the hard way.

My lesson on responsibility was no different.

Growing up, my mother ingrained in me that I had to own up to my f*ck ups. For the record, they didn’t use that language but you know what I mean.

I remember I broke something in the house. Mom wasn’t around when I broke it, but I knew she would flip out. I came up with this elaborate story on what I wish had happened. I finished my story and studied her face, hoping for the best. My mother laughed in my face and hit me with the classic:

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Kevin Hart / giphy.com

Mom got my whole life together in that moment. That was over 20 years ago and I still can recall every single detail. Definitely not one of my proudest moments, but it was my most important moment. Those are the moments that stick with you.

Own up to your responsibilities. Karma is watching & you don't want it with her. Trust me. Click To Tweet

Until next time,