The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

Finish What You Start in 2018

Jan
01

The Recovering Pessimist: Finish What You Start in 2018 -- This year's theme was inspired by a stack of books that I failed to finish. After being annoyed with myself, I decided that I was no longer going to start things and not finishing them. This year will be the year that I follow through to the end. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistThe inspiration for this year’s theme derived from the stack of (at least 6) books that I’ve purchased throughout 2017 and either never started them or started them and never finished them. Oh, and the countless projects that I’ve started (or planned) and never finished them (or execute them). I’m legit disappointed in myself.

Yoda/Giphy.com

Yoda/Giphy.com

With inspiration on deck, creating the theme was as simple as moving some words around. What I came up with was this:

FINISH WHAT YOU START

It’s long overdue. It would be delusional for me to continue to think that I can accomplish goals when I have a tendency to leave things unfinished. This year, I’m hellbent on starting, finishing, and repeat. No more half-assing.

Do you have a theme/mantra for 2018? I would love to hear about it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday #212

Jan
17

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #212 -- This isn't a race. You will get there in your own time. Enjoy the journey in the meantime. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

The Problem with Potential

Jan
15

Disclaimer: I went back and forth regarding the length of this post. Part of me kinda wanted to make it a normal-length post, but when tried to make a longer post, it didn’t feel right. So here it is, simple and to the point. I hope you enjoy it.

There are two sides to potential:

One, you can see the potential in someone and still see them for who they are in the moment. That’s the ideal side of the coin to be on.

Two, you ONLY see someone for what they could be. Even worse, your interaction with that person is based on their potential, versus who they are right now.

After much heartache (and lost time that I can’t get back), when it comes to potential, it’s best to see someone for who they are right now because if they don’t reach their potential, you can save yourself a lot of time and heartache.

Fall for people for who they are now versus who they could be. What if they never become that person?

 

Wisdom Wednesday #211

Jan
10

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #211 -- There comes a time in adulthood where you reach a crossroads with the people around you. As you continue to grow, they can either grow with you OR they get left behind. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

Ric Flair: The Ultimate Confidence Booster

Jan
08

As a kid, I loved wrestling. While I loved Macho Man Randy Savage, Sting, and Rowdy Roddy Piper, sitting in front of the TV to watch the awesomeness that is Ric Flair was a weekly must-do.

The flashiness of Ric Flair’s costumes drew me in. When his theme song played, I would be in the living room, with a blanket draped over my shoulders.

Ric Flair/Giphy.com

Ric Flair/Giphy.com

Oh, and he’s an expert in trash talking. As a kid, I memorized the legendary speech in the video below:

That speech gave me the confidence I desperately needed in those moments of adolescence when confidence was M.I.A. Fast forward to adulthood, and I still have the unf*ckwithable mindset courtesy of Ric Flair.

Let's be honest, if you don't believe in your awesomeness, how can you expect anyone else to?

If you (still) think that Ric Flair doesn’t have an impact, check out the video below:

Dear Ric Flair,

If you just so happen to read this (and I’m putting it out there in the Universe that you will), thank you for being the badass that you are.

Your forever fan,

Joy

Wisdom Wednesday #210

Jan
03

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #210 -- Don't become so consumed with planning that you forget to execute. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

Wisdom Wednesday #209

Dec
27

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #209 -- A little discomfort is good for you. Keeps you on your toes. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

My 2017 Wrap Up

Dec
25

The Recovering Pessimist: My 2017 Wrap Up -- This has been one hell of a year, equal parts ups and downs. I wanted to share the lessons I learned from this roller coaster of a year. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistWriting these annual write-ups is one of my favorite end-of-the-year blog tasks (see here and here for earlier posts). In the past, I’ve broken down the post into sections (personal/blog highlights, top blog posts of the year, etc).

I wanted to switch things up for this year. The highlights and memories that I experienced this year were awesome. I also had some lows that would’ve broken me. All of that provided me with some valuable lessons that I wanted to share as my annual wrap up for 2017.

 

Do what works for me.

Comparison is one of those things that you can get wrapped up in and not realize that it’s happening. I would browse social media and find myself comparing where I was in various areas of my life in regards to others. I found myself looking up tips and signing up for all kinds of newsletters, none of which I needed. Instead of soaking up all of this information, I got overwhelmed.

It takes longer to get past overwhelm than it did to get overwhelmed.

To get past the overwhelm, I needed to get rid of the sources of the overwhelm. I unsubscribed from several newsletters and stopped searching for tips on things that I really didn’t need. I stuck to doing the things that worked for me and refrained from comparing myself to others. I won’t lie, it’s not always easy, but I feel so much better.

 

Leave the past in the past.

I have this thing where I get a case of the “what ifs” regarding people of my past. I go through the motions of wondering if things between us could be different. I would reach out, we’d reconnect, and things would be cool for months. Then, things would fall apart again and we would go back to being the past. This year, I didn’t reach out when I felt the urge. Progress.

No matter how many times I reach out to my past, sometimes the past needs to stay where it is.

 

Be flexible.

I’m a stickler for a routine. When that routine is disrupted, I feel frazzled. I’ve turned down several opportunities because they interfered with my routine. I know how ridiculous that is, but when I decide that I’m doing something at a certain moment of the day, I don’t like to change the plans.

However, I realized that this isn’t feasible.

I have a routine and when that routine is disrupted, I feel frazzled. It would take days to get back on track. I learned to add some room in the routine so when it gets disrupted, I can pick up where I left off. That allows me to partake in the opportunities that pop up while still having my routine.

 

“No” is not a means to an end.

“No” is one of those things that can make or break you. When you want something so badly just to be told you can’t have it for whatever reason, it hurts real bad. Like when someone takes the last cupcake in the display case that you had your eye on in line. Yeah, that bad. I refused to become discouraged and instead allowed “no” to motivate me to find alternate means to get what I want.

The difference between 'no' and 'yes' is persistence.

 

It’s been a hell of a year, FULL of ups and downs. But as the elders say, if you aren’t learning, you aren’t living.

See ya in 2018!!!!

Cheers/Giphy.com

Cheers/Giphy.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday #208

Dec
20

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #208 -- Don't worry about what everyone else is doing. Worry about your self. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

How I’m Prepping for 2018

Dec
18

The Recovering Pessimist: How I'm Prepping for 2018 -- When I sat down to prepare for 2018, I knew that I couldn't repeat everything I had done before. I can't do the same things and expect different results. This year, I switched some things up and I feel that I got it right this time. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist It’s the home stretch of 2017. One of my favorite times of the year is to sit down and start prepping for the following year (see here and here). For whatever reason, the last 60 days of the year tend to go by in a blur for me. Sitting down and preparing for the following year allows me to slow down for a bit.

In addition to doing the things I’ve done in previous years (see here and here), the lessons I learned this year also changed the way I prep for the upcoming year.

Creating Theme for 2018

The theme for 2018 is the result of a moment of fed-up-ness (not an actual word, but rock with me anyway). It’s the perfect follow-up to this year’s theme of Stay Ready. It’s one of those things that I’ve struggled with for a while now. The theme alone has me super excited for the upcoming year.

Batching Tasks

Multitasking has been a nightmare this year. When I’m not at work, I work on a blog post while doing another blog-related task at the same time. What ends up happening is that I don’t finish either of those tasks that day and carry them over to the next day. This is a horrible use of time.

Batching my tasks would be a good use of time management plus it would help me focus on one thing at a time which would make sure that I finish my tasks in a timely fashion. I can choose specific days for blog post writing, blog maintenance, etc. Hopefully, this will eliminate the bouts of burnout I experienced this year.

Planning Differently

For the past few years, I write all of my goals for the year and that’s it. I’ve ended the year not accomplishing a quarter of the goals I made. This year, I’m being more flexible with my planning by breaking my goals down into quarters. This makes things a lot less overwhelming and I’ll be more likely to actually accomplish my goals. Plus I can focus on each goal versus all of my goals as a whole.

Taking the time the prepare for 2018 by doing these things will alleviate a lot of anxiety, burnout, and overwhelm. I look forward to whatever 2018 brings my way.

I got this.

 

 

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday #207

Dec
13

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesdsay #207 -- Don't take your dreams for granted. Many hopes, dreams, etc. have begun with a dream. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

Public Service Announcement: Your Life, Your Choices

Dec
11

I got the idea for this blog post from a conversation I had with some family members some time ago. They ask the same questions all the time and I’m sure they mean well when they ask, but bruh, you don’t have to ask me:

When are you getting married?

When are you going to have some kids?

Will and Grace/Giphy.com

Will and Grace/Giphy.com

For the record, I have no desire to get married and I never wanted children. Both of those decisions are perfectly fine. However, people legit act like you spit in their eyes with ghost pepper hot sauce.

Seriously, why do YOU feel disrespected?

I often wonder if people feel a way about your life choices because they have regrets. Maybe they wanted to make the moves you’re making but they fell victim to society’s expectations. Regardless of their reasons, you don’t owe them a “why” for the decisions you make. In all honesty, they can kiss your ass, but I digress.

Your Life. Your Choices. The End.

 

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