The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

Finish What You Start in 2018

Jan
01

The Recovering Pessimist: Finish What You Start in 2018 -- This year's theme was inspired by a stack of books that I failed to finish. After being annoyed with myself, I decided that I was no longer going to start things and not finishing them. This year will be the year that I follow through to the end. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistThe inspiration for this year’s theme derived from the stack of (at least 6) books that I’ve purchased throughout 2017 and either never started them or started them and never finished them. Oh, and the countless projects that I’ve started (or planned) and never finished them (or execute them). I’m legit disappointed in myself.

Yoda/Giphy.com

Yoda/Giphy.com

With inspiration on deck, creating the theme was as simple as moving some words around. What I came up with was this:

FINISH WHAT YOU START

It’s long overdue. It would be delusional for me to continue to think that I can accomplish goals when I have a tendency to leave things unfinished. This year, I’m hellbent on starting, finishing, and repeat. No more half-assing.

Do you have a theme/mantra for 2018? I would love to hear about it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday #217

Feb
21

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #217 -- There are very few things in life that people can't take from you. Your dreams are one of them. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

Alone #10WordStory

Feb
19

The Recovering Pessimist: Alone #10WordStory | They waited so long to finally be together. He arrived early, nervously anticipating her arrival. The train came, a blur of people rushed out. None of them were her. The empty train rolled on. He left just as he came...alone. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #10WordStory

Wisdom Wednesday #216

Feb
14

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #216 -- So many times I've told myself that I'm going to do something by a particular time. That time comes and goes & that thing I was going to do never happens. At some point, it's either put up or shut up. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

Just Try

Feb
12

The Recovering Pessimist: Just Try -- Do you really want to go through life wondering if you could've succeeded at something if you had just tried? What's the worst that could happen? You fail. But at least you'll know. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistMany of my accomplishments happened because of two words:

Just Try

Many of those accomplishments were out of my reach for several reasons (e.g., money, skills, etc.) & not worth the effort. It would’ve been easier to wave the white flag. But that sliver of optimism encouraged me to give it a try.

Why?

Because the worst thing that could happen is that I fail, which sucks. But there’s something worse than failure: Going through life wondering if I would’ve succeeded at something if I had tried.

 

Yara Shahidi/Giphy.com

Yara Shahidi/Giphy.com

 

I'd rather try and fail, than not try and later realize I could've succeeded.

Besides, if it means that much to you, it’s worth the effort, right?

Stay ready…you know the rest,

MsWalton

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday #215

Feb
07

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #215 -- You already know the answer. Confirmation is what you seek. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

I’m Not Ready

Feb
05

The Recovering Pessimist: I'm Not Ready -- People mean well when they say things to you. But when you're not in a space to receive the information, you just aren't ready. The end. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist“You should…”

“If I were you…”

“You know, if you…”

“Stop waiting and…”

“But why aren’t you doing/going/etc…”

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I understand that people mean well, I do. I also understand that those people are looking out for my well-being. And I appreciate that. When I’m in the head space, I can receive the information and respond. But there are times where I’m not ready to receive nor respond.

When you aren’t ready, you aren’t ready.

I get that you mean well. Please understand that I won’t always be in the space to receive what you are saying to me. Yes, it’s frustrating and I mean no disrespect towards you. When I’m ready, I will let you know.

Keep looking out for me…

…and I’ll continue to do the same for you.

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday #214

Jan
31

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #214 -- Don't wait around for someone to do for you what you can do for yourself. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwedneday

Separate Your Eggs

Jan
29

My mother always emphasizes the concept of not putting all of your eggs in one basket. It’s one of those nuggets of wisdom that you don’t appreciate until it happens to you. I’m pretty sure you know what I’m talking about.

Keri Hilson/Giphy.com

Keri Hilson/Giphy.com

It’s easy to get excited about the possibility of something that you put ALL of your time and energy into that one thing. All you can think about is that one thing. It just has to happen.

I have been there and done that over and over…

…and over and over again.

You put eggs aside because you don’t know what may or may not happen. In the event that things don’t go as planned, the eggs you set aside will be your calm in a moment of panic.

Stay true,

MsWalton

 

Wisdom Wednesday #213

Jan
24

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #213 -- How can you get upset that your business is out there for the world to comment on when you put it out there to begin with? | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

I Asked You For Support, Not Your 2 Cents

Jan
22

The Recovering Pessimist: I Asked For Your Support, Not Your 2 Cents -- When you share your goals and dreams with people, sometimes you just want support. Instead of giving you their support, they give you their opinion. It's a gut punch to experience that. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistI have goals and dreams that I want to fulfill this year. Some of them are pretty big so I want to share them with my circle to get their support. Sounds cool right?

Yes…and no.

Yes, it’s cool to share goals and projects with people you trust. You want them to support and encourage you to carry on. However, there are times where people are unable to support you without sharing their opinions.

You don't have to understand to be supportive.

It’s heartbreaking to have your goals and dreams crushed in general. It’s a gut punch when those goals and dreams are crushed by the opinions of others. If you’ve ever experienced that, you know what I’m talking about. If you’ve never felt that, I hope that you never have to experience it.

And if you’re one of those people who give their opinion and not support, please understand that if someone wanted your opinion, they’ll ask for it. If they don’t ask for it, keep it to yourself, okay?

Thanks.

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday #212

Jan
17

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #212 -- This isn't a race. You will get there in your own time. Enjoy the journey in the meantime. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

The Problem with Potential

Jan
15

Disclaimer: I went back and forth regarding the length of this post. Part of me kinda wanted to make it a normal-length post, but when tried to make a longer post, it didn’t feel right. So here it is, simple and to the point. I hope you enjoy it.

There are two sides to potential:

One, you can see the potential in someone and still see them for who they are in the moment. That’s the ideal side of the coin to be on.

Two, you ONLY see someone for what they could be. Even worse, your interaction with that person is based on their potential, versus who they are right now.

After much heartache (and lost time that I can’t get back), when it comes to potential, it’s best to see someone for who they are right now because if they don’t reach their potential, you can save yourself a lot of time and heartache.

Fall for people for who they are now versus who they could be. What if they never become that person?

 

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