• The Complexities of Life

    Let Go!

    The Recovering Pessimist: Let Go -- Holding onto grudges, negative people, and unhappy situations served no purpose other than blocking my blessings. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist I had a long-standing history of being unable to let go. I held onto grudges from high school. I kept people around who sucked all the positivity out of the air. I remained in situations that I was no longer happy in.


    I got comfortable. The grudges, negative people, and unhappy situations had become my normal. It was my normal for so long that I didn’t realize that I was blocking my blessings.

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    What’s the point of holding onto grudges, bad vibes, negative people, etc? Does it offer anything beneficial to your life?

    Absolutely not.

    Spend some time analyzing the people, situations, grudges, that are part of your life. Take inventory of your life and consider the following:

    If it doesn’t make you happy, let go!

    If it doesn’t invite positivity into your life, let go!

    If it doesn’t challenge you, let go!

    Don’t allow negativity to block your journey in life. You deserve better.

    Until next time,



  • The Complexities of Life

    Burning the Negative

    Image via Wikipedia.
    Image via Wikipedia.

    One of my favorite chores as a child was raking the leaves. My mother hated when they would collect in the yard. She’d say that the leaves would hide the snakes. I’d collect the leaves into a pile and my mother would come out and set the pile of leaves on fire.

    I would later realize that there’s an emotional connection in burning negativity.

    There are times when I don’t necessarily have to verbally share my feelings/concerns. Some things are just internal matters that I need to work out. In those situations, I find it easier to express my feelings in written form. I write out my feelings, read it over, and then I burn it.


    Because when you burn something, all you have left are ashes. You can’t get whatever it was that you burned back. It frees me and I can move on with life. Try it for yourself and let me know if it works for you.

  • The Complexities of Life

    Negative Nancy & the Olympics

    The 2012 Olympics have just ended. While I enjoyed hearing fun facts about the athletes, I didn’t enjoy hearing the negative tidbits. Case in point: Gabby Douglas. This young lady competed with an infectious smile on her face. Watching warmed my normally frigid heart.

    Clearly, the warm and fuzzy feeling wasn’t enough for some.

    I  was watching a popular morning TV show while getting ready to go out. The hosts were talking about the highlights of one of the events Gabby competed in. They were amazed at how Gabby seemed to move so effortlessly. Sounds awesome right? It was. In that same segment, the same TV hosts, then decided to talk about Gabby’s parents and their financial struggles.

    What a way to kill a good mood.

    Was that necessary? Heck no. On the other hand, people (including the media) like to build you up just to tear you down. It’s so true. Today, you’re awesome. Tomorrow, the whole world knows about your scandalous past, which has nothing to do with the accomplishments that were celebrated.

    Negative Nancy is everywhere. I’m convinced that there’s a dark, rainy cloud that follows these bitter folks everywhere they go. It’s sad. All that energy used for negativity could be used to, I don’t know, get your own life together perhaps?

    Just some food for thought.