• The Complexities of Life

    Don’t Tiptoe Around Feelings

    The Recovering Pessimist: Don't Tiptoe Around Feelings. -- Time is too short to tiptoe around people's feelings. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistSay what you mean & mean what you say.

    It’s one of my favorite mantras for various reasons, the main one being that it feels good emotionally and physically to get things off your chest. Speaking for myself, when I hold things in, I become ridden with anxiety. My chest tightens, my stomach aches, and all my focus is on whatever I’m holding in.

    In addition, I’ve noticed that people tend to hold things in because they don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. I understand why they do it. It hurts to hurt someone’s feelings. You believe you’re helping someone when in actuality, you’re hurting them and yourself.

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    It’s that simple.

    Really, it is.

    No seriously, it’s really that simple.

    Try it one time and let me know how it went. If anything, your mind, body, and spirit will thank you for it.

  • The Complexities of Life

    Stand Your Ground

    Stand Your Ground--Don't allow your fear of what others think keep you silent.|www.therecoveringpessimist.me When I was in undergrad, I took a course on business psychology. Of all the topics the course covered, the most interesting one to me was groupthink.

    In a groupthink situation, problems and/or issues are handled as a group. The outcome is agreed to by all members of the group, even if group members don’t necessarily agree.

    But why would someone want to just go with the group when they know the solution isn’t the best?

    The answer: Fear.

    Going against the grain, even if your thoughts and/or ideas are good, can be frightening. There’s a fear of being isolated by the group, which can lead to tension. If the environment is already full of tension, why add more by going against the group?

    The answer: Because you need to stand your ground.

    Sacrificing your thoughts and/or feelings for those of the majority can be extremely uncomfortable. But you know what’ seven more uncomfortable? Being miserable because you didn’t stand your ground.  Is going with the group worth it?  Absolutely not.

    [bctt tweet=”If standing your ground means you stand alone, so be it. “]

    Your thoughts, feelings, and creativity are yours. Nobody can take them from you. Don’t let fear allow you to be miserable. Say what you mean, mean what you say, and stand your ground.