I say what I mean and mean what I say. Oftentimes, my words have a tendency to offend, which isn’t my intention. In the past, I would apologize for being harsh just to make the person feel better.
One thing I’ve learned in recent years is for me to be happy, I have to stop apologizing to save face. Now, when someone tells me they didn’t like what I had to say, I say to them, “Sorry, not sorry.”
It’s my way of acknowledging that I may have upset/offended you, however, I’m not apologizing for what I said because I meant it.
Everyone isn’t going to like me. That’s cool. I promise you, I lose no sleep at night knowing that folks don’t care for me. As long as there are people out there in the world who understand where I’m coming from, that’s all that matters.