The Complexities of Life

My 2020 Wrap Up

I spent this year in emotional survival mode. We both know that this has been a hella chaotic year. Couldn’t get through a week without some sort of foolery and/or f*ckery taking place. We may not be able to control what’s happening around us, but we damn sure can control our peace of mind.



I’m not going to drag this out any more than I have to. Here are my 2020 highlights and lessons learned. Enjoy! 



  • Found a landscaper I love!
    • For the 2 years I’ve been in my house, I’ve struggled with finding a landscaper whose fees aligned with the size of my lawn. 
  • Brought landscape lights I really wanted.


  • I gained clarity with my blogging goals.
    • I had the time to write, but I didn’t feel creative. I didn’t beat myself over it, I just continued to observe my surroundings, be present in conversations, and reminded myself that I’ll be creative again. 
    • My favorite thing I created this year was the #HomeWithJoy series. It started as an idea to share my home buying journey but blossomed into so many ideas. I look forward to creating more blog posts for this series in 2021.
  • I figured out a wind-down routine during the week that I like.
    • I downloaded a coloring app to help me relax after a stressful day at work. 
    • I go to bed when my body was ready for bed, not when I wanted to go to bed. I don’t know why I struggled when this is so simple to do, lol!


Lesson Learned

  • Do what I can when I can.
    • Yes, I want to get everything done on my to-do list. But there are times when that won’t happen and it’s okay. Allowing myself grace is freeing. 
  • Don’t get swallowed by the cloud.
    • For me, anxiety and depression are a gloomy cloud. It’s so hard to climb out of the sadness and stress once I give in. Instead, I force myself to see something positive in each day. I’m proud of myself for being able to have fewer cloudy days. 
  • See people for who and what they are.
    • If you cut the grass, you can see the snakes. Nobody is worth you disturbing your peace over. 
  • Set boundaries and stand by them even when it hurts. 
    • Part of protecting my peace involved creating boundaries and sticking to them. Did it hurt some feelings? Sure. However, how someone feels about my boundaries is not my burden to carry. I have to do what’s best for me, not anyone else. 
  • Don’t settle
    • What’s the point in settling when I’m going to long for what I really want? If I practice patience, I’ll get what I want in time. 

What brought you joy this year? What did you learn? 

See ya in 2021,


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