The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

Intuition #Thankful2017

Nov
20

The Recovering Pessimist: Intuition #Thankful2017 -- Not only did intuition get me through some potentially sticky situations, but it also reminded me to trust my decision-making. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistI love talking about intuition (click here and here for earlier posts). This year, intuition helped me avoid some potentially sticky situations. I had opportunities that appeared to be awesome on the outside. My support system would give me the green light of approval, but I couldn’t knock the feeling that something wasn’t right.

Intuition reminded me to trust my decision-making. That feeling keeps nagging at me for a reason. Clearly, it’s trying to tell me something, right?

You can ignore your intuition, or you can take heed. Choose wisely.

Listen to the feeling.

Trust yourself.

You got this.

Support System #Thankful2017

Nov
13

 

The Recovering Pessimist: Support System #Thankful2017 -- What I learned about my support system is that it's about quality, not quantity. What's the point in having 10 people in your support system if only 2-3 are always there for you? | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

I understood the importance of having a support system long ago. I needed people around me who had my best interest in mind, even if their honesty was brutal. This year, I learned another lesson about my support system:

A successful support system is about quality, not quantity.

I had a small support system of 5-6 people initially. When I reached out those 5-6 people, only 2-3 would always show up. What was the point of having those extra people if I can’t depend on them?

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After trimming the fat, my support system now consists of 2-3 people. When I was too stubborn to listen to their thoughts and opinions, they could’ve let me drown in my stubbornness. Instead, they waited patiently for me to get my shi*t together. They cheered for me when I couldn’t cheer for myself. Most importantly, they genuinely care about my well-being.

My appreciation for these people runs deeper than words can express. I’m thankful for all that they’ve done and continue to do for me.

xo

 

 

 

 

 

Persistence #Thankful2017

Nov
06

The Recovering Pessimist: Persistence #Thankful2017 -- When I get thisclose to accomplishing a goal, the Universe will test me. I could've quit, but persistence wouldn't allow that. Don't allow anyone or anything, including yourself, get in the way of your goals. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

The Universe went out of her way to throw some curveballs my way this year. When I decided that I wanted to “Stay Ready” this year, I’m convinced that Universe not only heard me, but she was testing me.

I would get thisclose to checking off a goal and then WHAM, an unexpected expense would pop up. Don’t you hate that? I could approach this situation in two ways:

One: I could wave the white flag of defeat and wallow in my failure.

Two: I can figure out how I can check off the goal AND how I can handle the unexpected expense without it negatively affecting me.

I ain’t gonna lie (yes, you read that right), it’s way easier for me to wave the white flag of defeat than it is to carry on. But because I promised myself that I was going to make this goal happen, I’m hellbent on seeing it through.

Here’s where persistence comes in.

Persistence is a skill that I didn’t always appreciate. Why? Because it required me to keep going, even when I would rather throw my hands up and quit. But, when I want something, I want something. I do research, create a master plan, and even a few “just in case” contingency plans.

I refuse to allow anyone and anything, including myself, to get in the way of what I want in life.

Time is ticking.

Make moves.

 

 

 

 

 

Welcome to #Thankful2017

Nov
03

The Recovering Pessimist: Welcome to #Thankful2017 -- I'm thankful for the four things featured in this series because they all got me through 2017. Without them, this year would've been a hot mess. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistNovember is a significant month for many reasons. It’s the kickoff of the holiday season. It’s the countdown to the end of the year.

It’s also a time to do some reflection.

It’s necessary for me to reflect on the good, the bad, and the meh of the current year before I begin planning for the following year.

This month, I’m doing a four-part series called #Thankful2017 to reflect on the things that got me through 2017.

Enjoy!

 

Thankful: Intuition #XD31

Dec
10

Intuition is the invisible flag. It sounds invisible, yet panicky alarms warning of approaching danger. Responding is optional; however, it’s in my best interest to do so. All it took was one time for me to find out what happens when I tell the alarms and the flags to cut it out.

Complete and utter disaster.

Stealth Support System

Oct
07

A good friend of mine is going through some things. He’s just got himself together after another series of events that shook his core. To see life deal another hand of unfavorable cards to him is truly a test. As a friend, I know that I had to be there to support him. Experience has taught me that sometimes the weight can be too heavy for you to carry alone.

Even if the weight is too heavy, people may feel uncomfortable asking for help. At times, my friend can be like this. Recent events have him in a level 4 (of 5) funk. That’s deep. He’ll internalize whatever emotions he’s feeling, but I can sense that that something is bothering him. Until he is ready to talk, I provide support in a very stealth-like manner.

This type of support is a combination of intuition and a thorough knowledge of that person. If I didn’t know him as well as I do, I wouldn’t be able to know what he needs before he does. It kind of reminds me of a Secret Service. You may not be able to see them, but they’re always there.

Just call me Secret Agent Lucky Lefty.

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