• The Complexities of Life

    Sorry (Not Sorry)


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    On Season 3, Episode 8 of “Mary Mary”, Teddy informs his sister-in-law Erica that he doesn’t feel a need to hide out of shame because he had multiple affairs. Yes, multiple affairs.

    My first thought upon watching that scene was that there isn’t enough prayer and/or scripture in the world to help me see past Teddy’s bullshit. I don’t think that Teddy is truly sorry for the affairs.

    Watching him explain to Erica that he wanted to fight for his marriage had me rolling my eyes. There was no sincerity on his face whatsoever. I understand that some people don’t show emotions, but this ain’t the case.

    What exactly is Teddy sorry for?

    It damn sure isn’t those affairs. I don’t feel that he’s sorry for the multiple affairs he’s had. Case in point, if he was sorry about the affairs he was having, he wouldn’t have had multiple affairs.

    It’s not the affairs that Teddy is sorry for. Teddy is sorry that he got caught. More specifically, he’s apologizing because his infidelities have become public knowledge.

    An apology means absolutely nothing if it isn’t genuine. A lot of times, someone will apologize solely to save face. Make the other party feel that their apology is sincere when in reality, they don’t give a damn if their actions are hurtful.

    What you hear doesn’t necessarily have the same meaning as the sender intended. You hear “I’m sorry for hurting you” when in actuality you’re hearing “I’m sorry for embarrassing you but not sorry for the specific things I did to hurt you.”

    It takes two to care, remember?

    Until next time,




    Updated August 16 ,2016

  • The Complexities of Life

    In ___________ I Trust

    Yesterday on Twitter, @MissJia posted an interesting question to her timeline.

    Assuming you are Christian: person runs for president and represents everything you’d hope for in a commander. But he’s atheist. Thoughts?

    The responses ranged from your standard “yes”, “no”, “maybe” to deeper responses based on the concept of faith verses facts. This is where the water gets muddy. For many, life decisions are rooted deeply in faith. Okay, that’s what works for them. For me, I tend to make decisions based on fact and  I expect the candidate I vote for to do the same.

    My response to @MissJia :

    @MissJia Why not vote for him? Some “Christians” are only Christians in title. His decisions should be based on facts, not faith.

    Before you break out the pitchforks and protests, allow me to explain. Some people are only Christians when it’s convenient for them.  There’s nothing I despise more than a bandwagon supporter. For all you know, the person you have known your entire life is an atheist. Does that mean that you will stop being his/her friend? We don’t have to like it, but we need to respect  it. We are all entitled to our opinions right?

    Be inspired.