• The Complexities of Life

    Memories of Company I No Longer Keep

    Friendship
    Friendship (Photo credit: vinodbahal)

    Recently, I was going through some old photos. Forgotten memories shared with people I no longer have friendships with. As I reflected on how the demise of our friendships occurred, I was reminded of something my mother constantly stressed to me when I was younger:

    You ARE the company that you keep.

    I met a group of women through a coworker I had befriended. We were all in constant contact with one another via text, phone calls, emails, social media, etc. We had a lot of fun together. Eventually, I grew tired of going out 3-4 times a week. I wanted to go back to school and in order for me to do that, partying would have to cease.

    They didn’t like that decision. Instead of being supportive, they couldn’t understand why I couldn’t go to school and party with them on weekends. I explained to them that school isn’t just on the weekdays. School was going to be my top priority and if they don’t like it, tough shit.

    The photos reminded me of how over-saturated our friendship was.  Way too much of a good thing. I miss them at times. We’ve matured and moved on with our lives.

    Take a minute to analyze the people in your life. If the people in your life bring you support and positivity, great. No really, great. If you find that there are people in your life who provide nothing but bad karma, give ’em the boot.

    They’re no good for you.

  • The Complexities of Life

    Grateful: Plans B & C #XD31

    Lesson learned: Never put all of your eggs into one basket. Plan A doesn’t always work. It happens. If you didn’t already have a backup plan waiting in the wings, you’ll be left scrambling. In some cases, you may even need Plan C.

    I’m grateful for the many Plan Bs and Cs that have saved my ass from disaster. If it weren’t for them, I can’t imagine where I would be. Let me finish this before I break out in song over the goodness that are Plans B and C.

    The end.

  • The Complexities of Life

    Setback #427

    Setbacks are life lessons in disguise. Things could be going well and then BOOM, something happens to unravel everything. The feeling is similar to having the comforter snatched off of you and the room temperature is ice cold.

    This week I had a setback involving my car. I spent the entire day of the setback pissed all the way off. I allowed myself that one day to mope around and after that, it’s time to plan and reflect.

    Setbacks always remind me to be thankful. I’m this case, I’m thankful that I have the necessary coverage to pay for the repairs and a rental car. I’m thankful nobody was injured, including myself.

    Things can always be worse than they are. Be thankful that they aren’t and learn from them. Life is too short to repeat mistakes.