• The Complexities of Life

    The “I, I, I…Me, Me, Me” in Relationships

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    What defines a relationship?

    For me, two (or more) individuals come together in a relationship while still having individual lives.

    Very simple, right?

    It should be, buuuutttt…a relationship can be made difficult when it doesn’t have to be. When communicating, everyone in the relationship should consider each other while communicating their wants, needs, and feelings. But when you’re concerned with you and only you, the relationship doesn’t have a fighting chance.

    I call this the “I, I, I…Me, Me, Me” mentality. It’ll ruin a relationship before it has a fighting chance.

    Relationships are about balance. Without that, you’re riding with a bad alignment. If you don’t get the alignment.

    Until next time,


  • The Complexities of Life

    It Takes Two to Care

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    Relationships involve a lot of give and take. You can’t expect everything to work out all the time without having to give up something to get something in return. That would be delusional.

    If relationships are supposed to be 50/50, what happens in the event the scale is tipped?

    Disagreements happen in relationships. It’s not going to be roses and sunshine all the time. That’s okay. On the other hand, some disagreements can be so bad, cracks form in the foundation you’ve worked so hard to build. In that moment you have two options:

    1. Call it quits.


    2. Fight for the relationship.

    Decisions, decisions.

    If the disagreement involves something that goes against your values , quitting is a viable option. Don’t stay in a relationship that you aren’t going to be happy with. Know when enough is enough.

    If the foundation is worth repairing, by all means, fight for the relationship. Do what needs to be done to fix things. But there’s a catch. Both parties have to care about the relationship enough to fight for it. You cannot, I repeat, you cannot fight for something you don’t care about.

    It takes one to tip the scale and two to care enough to balance it out.