• The Complexities of Life

    Don’t Lay Your Burdens on My Shoulders

    The Recovering Pessimist: Don't Lay Your Burdens On My Shoulders -- When you decide to share your burdens with someone, ask them. It's only fair. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistWe all have things that weigh on us. Those things may affect us in various ways. Burdens can be difficult to deal with alone, so oftentimes, we talk about our burdens with others.

    This is where things get dicey.

    There’s a difference between just talking about your burdens and laying your burdens on someone’s shoulders. You can have a discussion about your burdens just to get it off your chest. No expectations from the other person, other than to listen.

    But when you dump your burdens on people expecting them to fix it for you, there’s an issue. It’s not fair to the other person to be your emotional dumping ground. You’re not resolving anything. Instead, you’re creating another issue: you put your burdens on another person’s shoulders to carry. That’s a lot, especially when the other person didn’t ask for it.

    How can this be avoided?

    Ask for permission beforehand. Some people absorb your problems and/or energy and can’t get rid of it like they want. It’s as simple as that.

    Until next time,



  • The Complexities of Life

    Emotionally Cleansing Tears

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    Tears are emotionally cleansing. When I’m worried about something, my soul feels burdened. Stress develops myself out to the point where my body starts to physically react.

    Oh and let’s talk about the anxiety. My stomach tightens, its grip unrelenting. I have no appetite, my heartbeat races, and I can’t sleep. An overall lack of focus keeps me from paying attention to the world around me.

    All I can focus on are the burdens.

    At some point, the stress and anxiety becomes too much. Panic sets in,. Breathing labored, I feel like I have nowhere to run. Tears race down my face.  Gathering at my chin, stress and anxiety fall one by one. Anxiety releases its grip, my heartbeat normalizes, and I sleep.

    In that moment, I get a sense of clarity. Burdens dissipate and I’m relieved.