• The Complexities of Life

    Lay It To Rest

    The Recovering Pessimist: Lay It To Rest -- Please don't stress yourself trying to work out things that can't be worked out. Or seeking closure in people/situations where closure won't be found. Let all of those unresolved things go for the sake of your well-being. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #optimisticpessimist #recoveringpessimistSome things just aren’t worth it. You can try to work out whatever it is, but it never works out. You seek closure so you can move on, but closure┬ánever comes. So forth and so on.

    Been there, done that, done that again, and finally made it to the other side.

    I hope this saves you some time and stress: Stop trying. Figure out how to move on without whatever it is that didn’t work out. Find the closure you need within and carry on.

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    It’s hard to do, however, you’ll be glad you did it.

    Until next time,




  • Love, Dating, & Relationships,  The Complexities of Life

    Don’t Wait for Closure

    The Recovering Pessimist: Don't Wait for Closure. -- Don't wait for someone to give you what you can give yourself. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #recoveringpessimist #amwritingClosure is complicated. Many need it to move on from a relationship, situation, etc. In theory, this is fine. However this can go horribly wrong when it comes to execution. Here’s an example:

    I know someone who constantly seeks closure. Relationships will fail for whatever reason and she’ll spend weeks calling and/or texting the ex to get an explanation for why things went south. Even when the writing is on the wall.

    *screams into pillow*

    Here’s the funny thing about closure. Closure only works if the person providing the closure is genuine.┬áIf said person doesn’t give one iota about your well-being, don’t expect the closure to be genuine. People will tell you what they think you want to hear. So, if you get that closure and it isn’t genuine, what’s the purpose in seeking it?!

    I’ll answer that for you. There is no purpose in seeking it if the closure isn’t genuine. Don’t give someone else control over something you have the power to do yourself. Do whatever is (legally) necessary for you to drop the mic on closure.

    The power is yours. Use it wisely.