• The Complexities of Life

    A Few Thoughts on Opportunity

    The Recovering Pessimist: A Few Thoughts on Opportunity -- People are watching you. Don't think that because they're watching you that means they have your best intentions in mind. Best believe at least one of them is waiting for you to slip up so they can slide in. Don't believe me? Just watch. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistThe recent Pokémon Go craze has folks doing the absolute most. So much so that here in RVA  a woman was robbed playing the game. As I rolled my eyes at the sheer stupidity of this craze, I started thinking about opportunity.

    [bctt tweet=”Somebody is always watching you. And those who are watching you don’t always have your best interest at heart.” username=”MsWalton”]

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    Ya’ll hear me up there in the nosebleed seats?!?!?!

    Folks will wait in the wings, waiting for you to f*ck up so they can slide in and take advantage of your hard work. I have been on both sides of that coin. Is that wrong? Morally, yes. However, when it comes to opportunity, morals tend to take a back seat.

    So what can you do?

    Be aware of your surroundings. Understand that everyone that appears to be in your corner isn’t. I don’t want you to get caught up in some mess. And I damn sure don’t want you to go outside at 10 p.m. at night looking for some mess on an app.

    Just don’t.

    Because somebody is always watching you.

    And they don’t have your best interest at heart.

    Until next time,


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    Life: The Remix

    Image via Pinterest.

    We don’t always get it right the first time around.

    I would like to believe that we have all failed at something at one point in our lives. Skipping classes to be social resulted in me flunking out of school Spring 2002. Since I was still on academic probation, I was banned from attending any four-year college/university for five years.

    After sophomore year, I enrolled in my local community college to start classes the Summer 2007 semester. I took classes part-time while I was working full-time, but I graduated from community college July 2007. My five-year ban ended around that same time.

    At this time, I was 26 and determined to have my bachelor’s degree before I turned 30. I submitted my admissions application to Old Dominion University to enroll for the Fall 2008 semester. I remember being riddled with anxiety while I waited for a response. That ban and my grades at the time of the ban felt like a black eye that wouldn’t clear up, regardless of my associates degree.

    I got that acceptance letter and all my anxiety disappeared.

    I busted my ass at ODU. Carried a full-time schedule Fall 2008 and Spring/Summer/Fall 2009 while working a 40 hour job.  My health was in shambles from sleep deprivation, but this was my last chance and I was holding to it for dear life. This is it for me. Do or die. Sink or swim.

    A good night’s sleep came the day I found out my graduation application was approved. All of that hard work and lack of sleep had paid off. I made good on that second chance.

    Words can’t explain how it feels to get a second chance. You do everything you can to make sure that you will not blow it this time. Second chances aren’t guaranteed and third chances are nearly impossible. When given the opportunity to try again, take it and prepare to run…all the way to the finish line.


    *This post is dedicated to my sister, who got her second chance to get it right.*


  • The Complexities of Life

    Fall in #Love with Me

    I was so reluctant. My last relationship left me broken and skeptical. While I knew that you were special, I needed time to get reacquainted with myself. He understood, promising that he would be patiently waiting.

    Yeah, okay.

    We occasionally met up for dinner. You had a way of subtly letting me know that falling in love wasn’t a bad thing.

    Love isn’t supposed to hurt.

    Finally I gave in and I’m forever grateful that I did.

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    Fuck It!

    Absolutely nothing I’ve accomplished in my life came by playing it safe.

    I’ve accomplished quite a bit in my life so far. I graduated college, got a good job, and moved into my dream apartment. As I checked each accomplishment off my list, I got comfortable and stopped adding goals to my list. I slowly lost touch with my ambitious side.

    Fear told ambition to “step aside”.

    Comfort is my worst enemy. Once comfort and fear set in, it becomes so difficult to escape their cold grip. I eventually became unhappy with my job.  Looking for a new job was frightening. Of the many, many jobs I found, there were a couple of positions I should have applied for. These positions were out of my comfort zone, which was good…and bad. I need to be shaken up, however, learning new skills after honing my existing skills for a decade was frightening.

    What did I end up doing? I didn’t apply for any of the jobs. I was too scared to at least apply and  I’m still pissed at myself.  I was too scared to step on that ledge and take a risk.

    That was my first wake up moment.

    The second wake up moment came when I ran across the below video on Twitter. Ice T explains that in order for you to get where you want to be in life, sometimes you just have to say “F-ck It” and just take that risk. The situation can go one of two ways. You can fall on your face OR you can be successful. Isn’t that worth stepping on the ledge?

    Hell yeah.

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    Thankful: Starting Over #XD31

    Every day is an opportunity to start over. Welcome the new day with open arms and an open mind. I’m thankful for every day that I’m blessed with an opportunity to start over.