• The Complexities of Life

    Take Your Time

    The Recovering Pessimist: Take Your Time -- Don't let society's expectations dictate how you live your life. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistI was on Instagram the other day and saw a post that asked “If you could give your younger self a piece of advice, what would it be?”

    Take your time.

    Society still has these standards that dictate that you should work towards career and/or family and have it by a certain time in your life. I somewhat understand why these standards originated, but times have changed, and so have people.

    You don’t have to date with the hopes of finding someone to marry.

    You don’t have to get married.

    You don’t have to have children.

    If it happens, it happens.

    [bctt tweet=”Life doesn’t start nor end because you didn’t meet society’s expectations.” username=”MsWalton”]

    People won’t understand it. They’ll call you crazy, selfish, and stubborn. It’ll hurt your feelings, but don’t let their words discourage you. In fact, you’ll lose some people along the way, but that happens as you grow.

    [bctt tweet=”Don’t get so caught up in expectations that you forget to live.” username=”MsWalton”]

    You got this.



  • The Complexities of Life

    Sorry (Not Sorry)


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    On Season 3, Episode 8 of “Mary Mary”, Teddy informs his sister-in-law Erica that he doesn’t feel a need to hide out of shame because he had multiple affairs. Yes, multiple affairs.

    My first thought upon watching that scene was that there isn’t enough prayer and/or scripture in the world to help me see past Teddy’s bullshit. I don’t think that Teddy is truly sorry for the affairs.

    Watching him explain to Erica that he wanted to fight for his marriage had me rolling my eyes. There was no sincerity on his face whatsoever. I understand that some people don’t show emotions, but this ain’t the case.

    What exactly is Teddy sorry for?

    It damn sure isn’t those affairs. I don’t feel that he’s sorry for the multiple affairs he’s had. Case in point, if he was sorry about the affairs he was having, he wouldn’t have had multiple affairs.

    It’s not the affairs that Teddy is sorry for. Teddy is sorry that he got caught. More specifically, he’s apologizing because his infidelities have become public knowledge.

    An apology means absolutely nothing if it isn’t genuine. A lot of times, someone will apologize solely to save face. Make the other party feel that their apology is┬ásincere when in reality, they don’t give a damn if their actions are hurtful.

    What you hear doesn’t necessarily have the same meaning as the sender intended. You hear “I’m sorry for hurting you” when in actuality you’re hearing “I’m sorry for embarrassing you but not sorry for the specific things I did to hurt you.”

    It takes two to care, remember?

    Until next time,




    Updated August 16 ,2016