• The Complexities of Life

    It Takes Two to Care

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    Relationships involve a lot of give and take. You can’t expect everything to work out all the time without having to give up something to get something in return. That would be delusional.

    If relationships are supposed to be 50/50, what happens in the event the scale is tipped?

    Disagreements happen in relationships. It’s not going to be roses and sunshine all the time. That’s okay. On the other hand, some disagreements can be so bad, cracks form in the foundation you’ve worked so hard to build. In that moment you have two options:

    1. Call it quits.


    2. Fight for the relationship.

    Decisions, decisions.

    If the disagreement involves something that goes against your values , quitting is a viable option. Don’t stay in a relationship that you aren’t going to be happy with. Know when enough is enough.

    If the foundation is worth repairing, by all means, fight for the relationship. Do what needs to be done to fix things. But there’s a catch. Both parties have to care about the relationship enough to fight for it. You cannot, I repeat, you cannot fight for something you don’t care about.

    It takes one to tip the scale and two to care enough to balance it out.





  • The Complexities of Life

    Growth in Disagreement

    It’s very easy to find bobbleheads in life.  They’re usually close by, nodding their heads in constant agreement with your decisions. No matter what the decision is, heads nod in agreement.

    “Should I wear this really tight shirt that emphasizes my bloated stomach?”

    Heads bobs in agreement

    *Should I ride by his house and throw rocks at the windows?”

    Heads bobs in agreement

    “Perhaps I should really go tell them where they can REALLY go.”

    Heads bobs in agreement

    Bobbleheads don’t always have your best interest in mind. I don’t think they always intend for you to walk off the cliff. Perhaps they don’t want to hurt your feelings. That’s never a good thing. Just let me know that the idea sucks and present the idea that you had simmering while you listened to my train wreck of an idea.

    Cut those bobbleheads. Embrace those who disagree with you. Seriously, befriend those who challenge you. Even though they challenge you, these people have a vision for you that is beyond what you see. They want what’s best for you. When I let started aligning myself with those who didn’t agree with my every move, I didn’t make the same stupid decisions.

    I slowly became a better person.

    That’s pretty awesome.