The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

I’m Featured on “Oh Hey, Nina”



There are things that I want to talk about that I don’t aren’t necessarily a good fit for this blog. So I decided that  Oh Hey, Nina would be the perfect place for my guest blog post entitled “Pardon Your Manners: First Impressions of Online Dating”. That’s right, I’m a guest blogger pats self on back. I’m pretty excited and would love it if you would take a few minutes to show Nina some love. She’s pretty awesome and her blog is dope as hell.

Oh, and one more thing. If you don’t mind, let me know what you think about my guest blog post. I would really appreciate the feedback.



Updated March 5, 2015

Believe in the Possibility


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There are times when I can’t see my way out of a situation. While considering possible outcomes, I end up creating more roadblocks for myself. It gets so frustrating I would just rather wallow in my misery than face another roadblock. Misery breeds negativity and I’m trying so hard not to find comfort in my pessimistic nature. Here’s the thing. Negativity won’t get me anywhere. What will get me out of that situation is so simple and requires absolutely no manual work.

Believe that it’s possible.

That’s it. The hardest part is believing in the possibility that a positive outcome can happen. Once I adopted a positive mindset, the roadblocks dissipated. A positive mindset gives way to a clear mind and that is the driving force behind finding a solution. Sounds like a no-brainer, but when you’re a pessimist, this feels damn near impossible. All you have to do is try…

…then stand back and watch shit happen.


My Recovery Process


In an effort to avoid the awkwardness that arises from disappointing surprises, I would approach situations with a negative set of outcomes.

It worked for years, but years of living with an empty glass mentality has slowly worn me down. I forgot what optimism felt like. Meeting new people had become exhausting. Instead of getting to know the person, I was too consumed with what they weren’t saying/doing.

Change was necessary.

I initially created this blog as a means for me to work through my pessimistic mindset. I wanted to share my random thoughts/ideas with others while being less of a pessimist.

So far, so good.

This blog has evolved over the past year.  I’ve written a 30 chapter short story , participated in multiple writing challenges, and met some really awesome people.

I doubt I’ll ever adopt a unicorn mentality , but at least I’ll see the bright side. In the meantime, I’ll start putting water in that glass.

(Im)patiently Waiting


I was listening to “Those Who Wait” by Daley and my mind started thinking.

Do good things really come to those who wait?

The “Tortoise and the Hare” approach that I was taught as a child places emphasis on hard work and persistence. Theoretically this approach pays off, however, there is a slight drawback:  patience is the key to success.

Yeah…about that. I have an untraceable about of patience. It’s a character flaw that I’m not necessarily proud of, but I accept it. We all have flaws right? In my case, being constantly disappointed by people has left me extremely independent with a zero-tolerance policy for bullsh*t.

When you want things done at a certain time and in a certain fashion, having to patiently wait on someone to do it can be as pleasant as nails on a chalkboard. Trying to change for the better is difficult, especially when you have to now fill that empty glass of water. The next time I feel the urge to just “do it myself”, I’m just going to quietly sing the song that inspired this post.


Edited November 23, 2014

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