The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

It’s Okay To Tap Out, I Promise

Jan
05

A couple of months ago, I was chatting with my sister about the upcoming add/drop deadline for her nursing classes. During the conversation, she told me that one of her professors spoke to the class about low test scores. The professor explained to the class that she wouldn’t view the students as failures if they withdrew now and returned to the program when they were ready.

In the past, when I realized that I should bow out of a situation, pride got in the way. It took a lot of failures, before it became a lesson learned. Now that I know better, I reassure myself by saying:

It’s okay to tap out, I promise.

There’s nothing wrong with tapping out. When you’re ready, reevaluate the situation with a clear mind.

Have you found yourself needing to tap out? Let’s discuss in the comments.

 

 

Letting Go in 2015

Dec
29

Fed Up

In the midst of planning for 2015, I came across a suggestion that people should have a theme for the year. A short word/phrase that keeps you motivated and on task for the entire year. I made a note to think about a theme for 2015 and continued with my day.

As always, inspiration hits me in the oddest of places. While washing my hands, my subconscious whispered in my ear…

…LET THAT SHIT GO!

There was my theme for 2015. Brilliant!

For me to accomplish all the things in my mind map, I have to let go of whatever doesn’t do the following:

  • Make me happy.
  • Contribute to my goals/wants.
  • Support my values.

Have you considered creating a theme for 2015? If so, what is it? Let’s discuss in the comments!

 

 

I Brought A Day Designer!!

Dec
08

Before I begin this post, I would like to thank my awesome friend Amber over at Climb Out of The Cubicle. Not only is she awesome, but she inspired this post. 

This isn’t exactly news breaking information for most, but it is for me. With 2015 just over the horizon, I realized that in order for me to carry out my goals, organization is imperative. Here’s how the purchase of my Day Designer happened.

Back Story

Currently, I use an academic planner to organize my blog. It’s so ineffective. In September, I started checking brick and mortar stores for 2015 planners. Many of the planners I saw were hideous (e.g., too many colors, poorly designed, etc).

After buying and returning several 2015 planners, I realized that what I needed wasn’t sold in stores. Here’s where Amber comes into play.

I remember explaining my frustration to her and she suggested that I consider getting a Day Designer. I went to the website and impressed by how beautiful and functional the planner was. I was ready to purchase, but I couldn’t get past…

…The Price 

I’m a frugal girl. I had to come to terms with paying $59 for the planner (via the Etsy store). Then I realized shipping was going to cost me $13 (I’m in Richmond, VA) and I refusedto proceed with purchasing. After spending a few hours researching online retailers, I finally found the planner for $60 and free shipping at The Grommet. The planner arrived within 3 business days from PA.

Behold the Awesomeness!

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A few observations about the Day Designer:

  • The planners are sophisticated cute. The cover (regardless of the design), provides just enough color. The pink ribbon doubles as a bookmark.
  • Worksheets are included in the front of the planner to help organize your core, which assists with focusing on your purpose and vision.
  • Each tabbed month is attached to a notes page, which provides plenty of writing space on both sides.
  • Monthly calendars are dated, however, holidays are not noted. A monthly to-do list is on the left and a space at the top of the calendar is available for you to list your goals for the month.
  • Each day has its own page, with the exception of weekends, which share one page. Daily and weekend schedules are listed from 5-9. The schedules don’t indicate if this is a.m. or p.m., so this omission works perfectly for those who work from night to day.
  • I love that at the end of the day, I can list what I’m grateful for. Perfect way to end each day.

Conclusion

This is an investment. If you’re looking for something that allows you to organize your life AND keep you focused on your ultimate goals, the Day Designer is worth considering. You can test it out by downloading a free daily planner page.

Now, back to planning 2015 while I chat with Amber:)

MsWalton

What I’m Thankful for in 2014

Dec
01

With the new year approaching, I wanted to reflect on what I’m thankful for in 2014. (Disclaimer: These are not in order of importance.)

  1. The lessons (good and bad) I’ve learned throughout the year.
  2. Becoming friends with Amber:)
  3. Getting hosting for this blog.
  4. Finally getting fed up enough to make things happen.
  5. My health.

  6. My sanity.

What are you thankful for this year? Leave a comment so we can discuss.

#SorryNotSorry

Nov
24

Sorry Not SorryI say what I mean and mean what I say. Oftentimes, my words have a tendency to offend, which isn’t my intention. In the past, I would apologize for being harsh just to make the person feel better.

One thing I’ve learned in recent years is for me to be happy, I have to stop apologizing to save face. Now, when someone tells me they didn’t like what I had to say, I say to them, “Sorry, not sorry.”

It’s my way of acknowledging that I may have upset/offended you, however, I’m not apologizing for what I said because I meant it.

Everyone isn’t going to like me. That’s cool. I promise you, I lose no sleep at night knowing that folks don’t care for me. As long as there are people out there in the world who understand where I’m coming from, that’s all that matters.

#SorryNotSorry

 

Who Are You Living For?

Nov
17

Live Your Life For Yourself

I used to live my life valuing the opinions of others. Each decision I made, I would ask myself “What would _____think about this?” I hated to disappoint those that I cared about.

Eventually, I didn’t consider what I thought when I made decisions. As I’m writing this post, I’m thinking about all the opportunities I missed out on.

Not only did I miss out on opportunities, but I was unhappy. Once I became unhappy with my life, my thought process changed. If folks don’t like the decisions I make, that’s not my problem.

You can consider the opinions of others, but the key word is consider. The moment you forget that you matter is when you’ve lost yourself. You can’t afford to do that

Live your life for you and you alone.

 

My Thoughts on Fear

Nov
10

FEARWith the end of the year fast approaching, I figured that I better work on my goals for 2015. When I reviewed the goals I made for this year, I realized that a lot of them weren’t accomplished.

Why?

Fear.

I’m a planner. It’s difficult for me to step out on faith, not knowing the result. That’s why I’m stuck where I am. For me to make these goals happen, I must focus on completing the tasks, versus worrying about the result.

Worrying about the results is irrelevant if you don’t put in the work. Fear will cripple you IF you allow it to do so. Success requires that you fight your way out of the box that fear puts you in.

Are you ready to fight?

 

 

 

 

Circle of Life

Oct
23

I found a photo of leaves falling on the ground. My immediate thought was how the leaves represented the cycle of life. We’re born, we life, and we die (pardon the morbid thought).

Instead of writing some drawn out post about life, I decided to post the following video. It’s a classic, I promise you.

My Hand is Forced

Oct
20

I’ve ignored the stress for a very long time, hoping it would just go away.

Instead, the stress compounded, making it unbearable for me to function normally. The pot has boiled over. I’ve hit the wall. Something has to give.

Change is necessary. On top of that, I don’t know what changes are needed for the stress to go away. For someone who loathes surprises, not knowing what’s next is quite uncomfortable. I’m not a fan of this part of the journey.

On the bright side, being uncomfortable may not be as bad as it seems:)

 

 

Truth & Overdone Steak

Sep
29

Truth & Overdone Steak

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