• The Complexities of Life

    When A Theory is Just A Theory

    If I could change one thing about myself, I would be a patient person. Not to be confused with a more patient person; I would need to become a patient person first before I can ask for more patience.

    Whew!

    As I’ve gotten older, my level of patience has dwindled to non-existent. I think a lot of it stems from years spent in high-productivity jobs. Can’t have the patience of Job when the clock is ticking and quotas have to be met.

    Do it and do it now.

    That’s my mantra. I don’t like to wait for people to do things, especially when I know I can do it in less time. I would be a liar if I said that I was working on it. Sounds good in theory but attempts to execute the theory would fail.

    Sometimes a theory should remain just that, a theory.

     

    Updated 12/10/2016

  • The Complexities of Life

    All or Really Nothing

    In theory, relationships should be a balanced union between individuals. Keyword: theory.

    For some, the scale is oftentimes off balanced as hell. How do you stay in a relationship when someone isn’t doing their share of the work? Doesn’t the burden of carrying that weight start to hurt? Do you start to resent them at some point?

    I don’t understand it.

    You can’t take bits and pieces that you like about someone and put that into a relationship. It’s not going to work. The entire person is in that relationship with you whether you like it or not. At some point, you won’t be able to ignore the parts about that person that you don’t like. The weight will continue to accumulate on the scale until it can no longer stay suspended in the air.

    Yes you’re in a relationship. Does it work? It works for now. The scale is going to break from the weight. It’s either you provide your all or provide nothing. Put it all on the table, good and bad. If that’s too much for you, then you shouldn’t pursue a relationship with anyone. It’s impossible to be someone’s all when you have nothing to provide. Get yourself together so you can be an equal partner.