• The Complexities of Life

    A Pep Talk to Myself

    The Recovering Pessimist: A Pep Talk to Myself -- I have my down moments. Self-doubt creeps in and screws with my psyche. I wanted to share a pep talk I recently had with myself. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistI have moments when I don’t feel good enough. The “what ifs” creep in, bringing the self-doubt that I worked so hard to keep at bay to the surface.

    Years ago, I would panic when this would happen. Now, I understand that it’s okay to have these moments. How I handled these moments when self-doubt attempted a takeover is what mattered. These days, I give myself a pep talk. Nothing fancy, just a conversation to myself from myself. Below is an example of a pep talk I wrote in my journal about a year ago. After you read it, let me know if you give yourself pep talks and what you tell yourself.

    After you read it, let me know if you give yourself pep talks and what you tell yourself. Without further adieu, here we go.

    Look, I get that you’re having a down moment now and that’s okay. Don’t beat yourself up over it. You’re surrounded by some pretty awesome people who care about you and want nothing but the best for you. Lean on them. Let them help you. 

    You have dreams and goals. That requires patience, which you don’t have much of. Remember, patience is necessary for your growth. Nothing in this life will happen on your time.

    It’s healthy to want love in your life. Don’t seek love. Live your life. Let love come to you.

    Appreciate what you see in the mirror, flaws included. Flaws make you the dope soul that you are. 

    Repeat this as much as you need to until the self-doubt goes away.




  • The Complexities of Life

    Self-Doubt is a Rabbit Hole to Self-Sabotage

    The Recovering Pessimist: Self-Doubt is a Rabbit Hole to Self-Sabotage. -- Stop comparing yourself to others. You're doing more harm than good. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistCan I be completely honest with you?

    Blogging is stressful. I’ve spent so much time living in my head, asking myself the same things over and over and over again.

    Why aren’t my views higher?

    Why aren’t people commenting?

    Do readers think I’m boring?

    What am I doing wrong?

    Are my posts too short?

    Self-doubt really screwed with my confidence as a blogger. I knew someone out there would understand what I was blogging about. Yet, a teeny, tiny part of me just couldn’t resist the urge to compare myself to other bloggers.

    Fast forward to the #createlounge Twitter chat 9.9.15 on self-doubt. This chat topic was right on time for me. Kayla, the awesome moderator, asked a question that inspired this blog post:

    Answering this question wasn’t an issue, considering self-doubt and I have battled each other for years.

    Devoting time and energy running a race that’s all in your head isn’t getting you any closer to your goals. You’re doing yourself such a HUGE disservice.

    [bctt tweet=”Stop comparing yourself to everyone else. Pay attention to your own journey.”]

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