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    The Complexities of Life

    Allow Yourself to Feel

    Peep the scene.

    You invest time and energy into something with the hopes that it will be a success. You weigh the pros and cons, mentally preparing yourself for the worst while hoping for the best. Anxiety has you in shambles.

    The countdown is over. It’s time to find out your fate…and it’s the worst case scenario.

    *insert expletive of choice here*

    No matter how much you prepare for it, disappointment hurts like hell. My way of dealing with disappointment was to be upset for a sec and then move on to whatever was next. That worked until this year when I realized that there’s beauty in disappointment.

    [tweetshare tweet=”The catch is, in order to experience the beauty in disappointment, I have to allow myself to feel the disappointment.” username=”irzY3n0P88iH(Ehn#F@pCiV3bViiRWon:1:1″]

    When you know better, you do better, right?

    Until next time,

    Joy

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    Stay In YOUR Lane

    This year, I’ve been working on a lot of goals. Many of these goals need a lot of research to make the goals a reality. Not bad right? I filled up notebooks, created many Pinterest boards, and created Evernote stacks to keep it all (somewhat) organized.

    You might not think that’s a bad thing. And I understand why you might feel that way. But trust me, it is. And here’s why:

    The Recovering Pessimist: Stay In YOUR Lane -- There's SO much information out there & a lot of it won't apply to you. That's okay. Be critical of the information you absorb. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

    I ended up worse off than I was when I began. Something had to be done and it had to be done soon. I needed to rid myself of the source(s) of my overwhelm/stress. It began with the newsletters. At one point, I had 15 newsletters subscriptions.  Why? I subscribed to many of them after seeing a post that caught my eye on social media. I figured if one post was this good, why not subscribe for more posts like this?

    Sounds okay, right?

    WRONG!

    Why?!

    Some of the newsletters were too niche-based, which isn’t something that I can relate to. Others were aimed towards those who were at a different stage than I was. I ended up deleting more newsletters emails than I kept for future reference. No need to have my inbox clogged up by emails that aren’t useful.

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    Little Rascals/Giphy.com

    Fixing this hot mess express took two steps:

    1. I went through my inbox and unsubscribed from about 55% of the newsletters. Not only is my inbox lighter but my nerves are much calmer. Everyone doesn’t belong in my inbox and that’s what let to the next step.
    2. I became more critical about the information I come across. Instead of subscribing to the newsletter and/or saving the information, I ask myself (sometimes several times) if this information is really useful to me?

    Once I applied these two steps to my inbox, I realized how these steps also relate to life. Sometimes you have to weed through all the noise that’s around you to get to what really matters to you.

    [bctt tweet=”What works for many isn’t always going to work for me, no matter how good it sounds. And that’s okay.” username=”MsWalton”]

    It’s as simple as that.

    Until next time,

    MsWalton