Closure is complicated. Many need it to move on from a relationship, situation, etc. In theory, this is fine. However this can go horribly wrong when it comes to execution. Here’s an example:
I know someone who constantly seeks closure. Relationships will fail for whatever reason and she’ll spend weeks calling and/or texting the ex to get an explanation for why things went south. Even when the writing is on the wall.
*screams into pillow*
Here’s the funny thing about closure. Closure only works if the person providing the closure is genuine. If said person doesn’t give one iota about your well-being, don’t expect the closure to be genuine. People will tell you what they think you want to hear. So, if you get that closure and it isn’t genuine, what’s the purpose in seeking it?!
I’ll answer that for you. There is no purpose in seeking it if the closure isn’t genuine. Don’t give someone else control over something you have the power to do yourself. Do whatever is (legally) necessary for you to drop the mic on closure.
The power is yours. Use it wisely.
