The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

Truth Skewed by Pride

Aug
28

The Recovering Pessimist: Truth Skewed by Pride -- Despite knowing that there are 3 versions of the truth, there are times when we'll see our truth as the only one that matters. Why? One word: pride. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistOne of the things I learned as a kid was that there are 3 versions of the truth:

Your truth.

Their truth.

The truth itself.

Somewhere within your truth and their truth is the truth itself. Sometimes, it’s easy to get to. Other times, you have to dig through the info to find it. The journey to get to truth itself is full of anxiety and/or optimism. You might find yourself hoping that their truth is wrong. You might find yourself hoping that your truth is right. Or, you may hope that both of you are wrong.

On rare occasions, the truth may never come to light. There are a few reasons why this could be, but the one that sticks out the most is pride (see here, here, and here for past posts about pride). When it comes to truth, you may know that your version of the truth isn’t correct. Instead of coming to terms with that, you instead stick with your version. I’ve been guilty of this on several occasions. Put your pride in check or it’ll have you out here looking dumb as hell.

[bctt tweet=”Be mindful of the role you play in the truth. How you see things isn’t always how it really is. ” username=”MsWalton”]

As I love to say…when you know better, you do better.

Take care.

 

Pride Stains the Rug

Apr
24

The Recovering Pessimist: Pride Stains the Rug -- Pride will have you out here living a life of delusion if you don't get it together. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

Pride will take you down so fast, especially when it comes to lying. I compare pride to a stain on a rug. The stain might appear small, large, or be barely noticeable.

You don’t want people to see the stain, so you decide to cover a lie with another lie. At some point, you start believing that the lies are the truth. Instead of the stain fading, it gets bigger and bigger.

[bctt tweet=”Don’t let pride fool you into thinking those stains on the rug won’t get bigger. ” username=”MsWalton”]

Be (very) aware of the influence pride can have in your life.

Until next time,

MsWalton

 

 

 

 

 

#Love + Pride = Disaster

Feb
13

 

The Recovering Pessimist: #Love + Pride = Disaster -- Several things have ruined my relationships in the past (e.g., jealousy, lack of trust, etc.). None of those things were as disastrous as pride. You can sense jealousy and lac of trust, but pride is hard to detect. And by the time you detect it, it may be too late. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #mytruthaboutlove #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

When people enter into a relationship, a few things should beare understood:

1. Someone else’s wants and needs should be considered as well as yours.

2. You aren’t always going to be right.

3. Your thoughts are feelings aren’t more important than the other party.

Having an understanding of those three things is crucial to the success of the relationship. In addition, pride can ruin your understanding of these things.

There were a few times where I let pride get the best of me. I was so selfish. If it wasn’t about me first, I wasn’t hearing it. I didn’t care about my boyfriend’s feelings enough to make them a priority. When arguments would occur, I was always right…even when I was dead ass wrong.

My selfishness was responsible for many failed relationships. There were a few times where I managed to check myself before things took a hard left, but it was too late to salvage the relationship.

[bctt tweet=”Pride will destroy everything in its path, including your relationship. ” username=”MsWalton”]

Ain’t that the truth.

Those lessons on pride’s place in relationships were hard, but they were necessary. I have to humble myself when it comes to relationships if I want my future relationship(s) to prosper.

Until next time,

MsWalton

I Let PRIDE Get the Best of Me

Mar
09

The Recovering Pessimist:I gave PRIDE too much power. In fact, it was so powerful that I refer to it in ALL CAPS.

PRIDE constantly reminded me that asking for help was a sign of weakness. So instead I quietly carried the weight of the issues that burdened me.

Looking back, that was an incredibly stupid decision. I allowed PRIDE to keep me  from asking the questions that could help me accomplish my goals. Here’s the thing about PRIDE:

[bctt tweet=”PRIDE will forever have you on the outside looking in. “]

You can allow PRIDE to steer your life, but in the process, you’ll be on the outside looking in. Reclaim the power that PRIDE has taken from you and stop carrying the burdens alone.

Ask for help. It’s there for a reason.

It’s Okay To Tap Out, I Promise

Jan
05

A couple of months ago, I was chatting with my sister about the upcoming add/drop deadline for her nursing classes. During the conversation, she told me that one of her professors spoke to the class about low test scores. The professor explained to the class that she wouldn’t view the students as failures if they withdrew now and returned to the program when they were ready.

In the past, when I realized that I should bow out of a situation, pride got in the way. It took a lot of failures, before it became a lesson learned. Now that I know better, I reassure myself by saying:

It’s okay to tap out, I promise.

There’s nothing wrong with tapping out. When you’re ready, reevaluate the situation with a clear mind.

Have you found yourself needing to tap out? Let’s discuss in the comments.

 

 

Beautiful Sadness

Jul
24

Behind the dimpled smile

Past the contagious laughter

A flicker of sadness rests in her eyes.

Anxiety agitates her stomach

Stress dances on her spine

Pride won’t show it

Alone, she cries.

Fear and worry flow hot

Down her cheeks.

Weight slowly lifting

From her burdened shoulders.

A beautiful sadness revealed

A dimpled smile and contagious laughter.

But no amount of tears

Can remove that flicker of sadness from her eyes.

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