• The Recovering Pessimist: When the Past Reappears -- The past always has a way of reappearing when you're doing well. Now you have to fight the feeling of having that person back in your life, while remembering why that person is no longer in your life. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist
    Love, Dating, & Relationships,  The Complexities of Life

    When the Past Reappears

    The past has a way of reappearing when you’re doing good for yourself.

    For example, when you’re over someone, you may exile them from your life. You block their number so they can’t call/text you and you unfriend them on social media. That exiled person is now a part of your past, and until further notice, the past is where they will stay.

    In the meantime, life moves on. You’re out here in the world, being awesome and whatnot. Then one random day, the past reappears.

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    It could be a text/call from an unknown number, in-person, etc. Regardless of the way the past reappeared, it’s awkward as hell. You cared about that person. You both had some good memories.  You may feel a way about how things ended. Then there’s the desire…to reconnect with that person. sighs That desire makes a huge difference in how you decide to react.

    Despite these feelings, you remind myself that I’m done with that person for a reason. And while it might not be a bad thing to consider making them part of your life now, you don’t want to risk it.

    [bctt tweet=”The what-ifs aren’t worth the emotional rollercoaster.” username=”MsWalton”]

    Until next time,

    MsWalton

     

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    My 2016 Wrap Up

    The Recovering Pessimist: My 2016 Wrap Up -- This year has been a huge learning experience. I've made progress with this blog as well as my personal life and wanted to chronicle these moments. Enjoy! | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #optimisticpessimist #recoveringpessimistI love writing end of year wrap-up posts (see here for last year’s). It’s a way for me to chronicle all of my ups (and downs) from the year. It also reminds me of accomplishments I have forgotten. Last year’s wrap up post wasn’t as organized as I would like, so this year, I wanted to split the post into two sections: blog and personal life.

    Enjoy!

     

    BLOG

    Top 10 Blogs of 2016 (As of 12/10/2016)
     Highlights
    Lessons Learned
    • Getting wrapped up in everyone else’s success blocks my own potential success. Don’t get sucked into that matrix.
    • Everyone has their own journey, including me.
    • Make use of small nuggets of time. I can get more work done in 30 minutes than I can in 8 hours.

     

    PERSONAL

     Highlights
    • I won tickets to 2015 Richmond Jazz Festival. The bestie and I went on Sunday night, so we could experience the greatness that is Morris Day & the Time, Tamia, and The Roots. Yes, all of that in one day/night.
    • Saw Alabama Shakes and Corinne Bailey Rae in concert with the bestie at the Portsmouth Pavilion. Perfect weather for a soul-stirring outdoor concert.
    • Reconnected with old friends via Facebook.
    • Took more selfies of myself.
      • For the record, I didn’t post 90% of the selfies I took in 2016. These selfies were mostly for personal memories and documentation of my wellness journey.
    Lessons Learned
    • Be open to the unexpectedness of life. Oftentimes these curveballs aren’t as bad as I think they are.
    • Just because I can’t see it happening, doesn’t mean things aren’t working behind the scenes.
    • It’s okay to miss the past. However, remember why the past is the past.

     

    That’s 2016 for me in a nutshell. What were your highs (and lows) of 2016? Do you document them (blog post, journal, video, etc.)? I’d love to hear about it.

    Until next time,

    MsWalton