The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

I’m Not Ready

Feb
05

The Recovering Pessimist: I'm Not Ready -- People mean well when they say things to you. But when you're not in a space to receive the information, you just aren't ready. The end. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist“You should…”

“If I were you…”

“You know, if you…”

“Stop waiting and…”

“But why aren’t you doing/going/etc…”

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I understand that people mean well, I do. I also understand that those people are looking out for my well-being. And I appreciate that. When I’m in the head space, I can receive the information and respond. But there are times where I’m not ready to receive nor respond.

When you aren’t ready, you aren’t ready.

I get that you mean well. Please understand that I won’t always be in the space to receive what you are saying to me. Yes, it’s frustrating and I mean no disrespect towards you. When I’m ready, I will let you know.

Keep looking out for me…

…and I’ll continue to do the same for you.

 

 

Random Thought #5: Break Through

Oct
12

The Recovering Pessimist: Random Thought #5: Break Through -- Communication isn't effective once a wall has been built. Discover your breakthrough and work past it. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistWhile watching Season 12, Episode 1 of Grey’s Anatomy, a lack of communication affected the characters and patients. There’s a lot of talking back and forth, but nobody is really listening.

The episode was an example of what happens when the lines of communication break down. Communication is the key to all relationships. All parties involved need to work together for communication to be successful.

So many of the disagreements I had with people stemmed from a lack of communication. I’d get so wrapped up in my emotions and/or opinions that I wouldn’t listen to what the other party was saying. A

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The results repeated themselves: long bouts of not speaking to one another. Eventually, I’d give up without attempting to talk things out. It worked for a while, but over time, I started to feel like crap for not being the bigger person. Most of the issues were petty and could be resolved by just working through it.

[bctt tweet=”We have to figure out how we’re going to break through the wall that lack of communication built. “]

Until you realize that you have to break through the wall that lack of communication built, history will continue to repeat itself. Do better.

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