The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

My 2017 Wrap Up

Dec
25

The Recovering Pessimist: My 2017 Wrap Up -- This has been one hell of a year, equal parts ups and downs. I wanted to share the lessons I learned from this roller coaster of a year. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistWriting these annual write-ups is one of my favorite end-of-the-year blog tasks (see here and here for earlier posts). In the past, I’ve broken down the post into sections (personal/blog highlights, top blog posts of the year, etc).

I wanted to switch things up for this year. The highlights and memories that I experienced this year were awesome. I also had some lows that would’ve broken me. All of that provided me with some valuable lessons that I wanted to share as my annual wrap up for 2017.

 

Do what works for me.

Comparison is one of those things that you can get wrapped up in and not realize that it’s happening. I would browse social media and find myself comparing where I was in various areas of my life in regards to others. I found myself looking up tips and signing up for all kinds of newsletters, none of which I needed. Instead of soaking up all of this information, I got overwhelmed.

It takes longer to get past overwhelm than it did to get overwhelmed.

To get past the overwhelm, I needed to get rid of the sources of the overwhelm. I unsubscribed from several newsletters and stopped searching for tips on things that I really didn’t need. I stuck to doing the things that worked for me and refrained from comparing myself to others. I won’t lie, it’s not always easy, but I feel so much better.

 

Leave the past in the past.

I have this thing where I get a case of the “what ifs” regarding people of my past. I go through the motions of wondering if things between us could be different. I would reach out, we’d reconnect, and things would be cool for months. Then, things would fall apart again and we would go back to being the past. This year, I didn’t reach out when I felt the urge. Progress.

No matter how many times I reach out to my past, sometimes the past needs to stay where it is.

 

Be flexible.

I’m a stickler for a routine. When that routine is disrupted, I feel frazzled. I’ve turned down several opportunities because they interfered with my routine. I know how ridiculous that is, but when I decide that I’m doing something at a certain moment of the day, I don’t like to change the plans.

However, I realized that this isn’t feasible.

I have a routine and when that routine is disrupted, I feel frazzled. It would take days to get back on track. I learned to add some room in the routine so when it gets disrupted, I can pick up where I left off. That allows me to partake in the opportunities that pop up while still having my routine.

 

“No” is not a means to an end.

“No” is one of those things that can make or break you. When you want something so badly just to be told you can’t have it for whatever reason, it hurts real bad. Like when someone takes the last cupcake in the display case that you had your eye on in line. Yeah, that bad. I refused to become discouraged and instead allowed “no” to motivate me to find alternate means to get what I want.

The difference between 'no' and 'yes' is persistence.

 

It’s been a hell of a year, FULL of ups and downs. But as the elders say, if you aren’t learning, you aren’t living.

See ya in 2018!!!!

Cheers/Giphy.com

Cheers/Giphy.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Letting Go in 2015

Dec
29

Fed Up

In the midst of planning for 2015, I came across a suggestion that people should have a theme for the year. A short word/phrase that keeps you motivated and on task for the entire year. I made a note to think about a theme for 2015 and continued with my day.

As always, inspiration hits me in the oddest of places. While washing my hands, my subconscious whispered in my ear…

…LET THAT SHIT GO!

There was my theme for 2015. Brilliant!

For me to accomplish all the things in my mind map, I have to let go of whatever doesn’t do the following:

  • Make me happy.
  • Contribute to my goals/wants.
  • Support my values.

Have you considered creating a theme for 2015? If so, what is it? Let’s discuss in the comments!

 

 

Mind Mapping with MindMeister

Dec
15

I’ve started planning for 2015 in theory, but I’ve struggled with execution. Usually, I  wrote my goals, wants, and wishes down in a Word document. I forget about it as soon as I close the document. Hard to stay focused when your goals are hidden in a file.

The other day, I read a blog post by Britni Danielle about mapping out your goals. Talk about being right on time…whew! So I grabbed an erasable pen and some printer paper and got to work.

My original mind map. Pardon my handwriting.

My original mind map. Pardon my handwriting.

There’s something freeing about putting everything on paper. Not keyboard to screen, pen to paper. As much as I love being “connected”, I enjoyed actually having to write something out. I don’t do that often.

Excited about my idea map, I texted Amber to share my glee. She sends me the link to MindMeister. It’s the online version of your DIY mind maps. Just when I thought the internet couldn’t get any better, once again, Amber proves me wrong.

Some Highlights About MindMeister:

  • There’s a demo version. Many of the options are unavailable in the demo version unless you sign up for free.
  •  You can create up to 3 minds maps. There are also 3 paid account options (personal, pro, and business).
  • Mind maps can be exported into formats such as Word docs and  PDFs.
  • Not only is it available on web, you there’s also an app, which is available for iOS and Android!!

I created an account and after spending about an hour playing around with the app, I created this:

My mind map courtesy of MindMeister.

My mind map courtesy of MindMeister.

 

It’s definitely worth looking into if you want to make your mind maps look nice. If you check out MindMeister, let me know what you think!

Best Under Pressure

Oct
13

 

I work best in a state of chaos. It’s definitely for the easily stressed.

This works perfectly when it comes to blogging. Ninety percent of my blog posts are based on observations, making it impossible to schedule posts ahead of time. While I try to write blog posts a week in advance, that doesn’t always work in my favor.

Inspiration can hit hours before my scheduled post time. This is usually when I’m at my full-time job. Hence the chaos. Being a pro at multitasking is essential if I want to get posts scheduled on time.

P.S. The adrenaline rush I get from working in chaos is pretty awesome too:)

 

 

Hope Amongst Uncertainty

Mar
11

Image via izquotes.com

I’m not 100% certain of anything. While I may not be 100% certain about my life, there are a few things I hope to still have as I get older: happiness, good health, sound mind, and the ability to write.

Very few things scare me more than to have any of these things taken from me. What gives you hope in a world of uncertainty? 

Reignited Passion

Mar
10

Image via Pinterest.

Blogging has reignited my passion for writing, specifically creative writing. Each writing challenge I’ve participated in (#XD30, #Love: A Musical Retrospective, etc.) has reaffirmed that my passion is indeed my calling.

I write with the goal to one day escape the monotony of cubicle life. To wake up at some abnormal time (anything before 10 is considered abnormal to me) to spend 8-10 hours padding someone else’s pockets is ridiculous. Especially when you have the skill set to be able to support yourself.

Entrepreneurship here I come!!

Be True to Self

Mar
07

When I created this blog, I didn’t think that people would “get” me. Looking back, it’s funny that I really thought that. There are billions of people on this planet and I still didn’t think anyone would understand where I was coming from.

I’m so happy to be wrong.

Blogging taught me that I’m good enough as I am. I write what’s on my heart, not what I think I should write about. It’s humbling to know that I’m not the only person who hates Red Lobster as a date option or sees the beauty in thunderstorms.

People know when you aren’t being authentic. Life is too short to live a life not true to self.

Optimism: Key to Success

Mar
06

Image via thedailyquotes.com

The purpose of this blog is to help me become more optimistic, which is a challenge in itself. On the other hand, adopting an optimistic outlook has counteracted the crippling fear that kept success from my reach.

How?

The pessimist sees all the roadblocks standing in the way of success. The biggest roadblock being failure. Nothing gets accomplished with failure at the helm. Once I learned to see the roadblocks not as roadblocks, but as the steps to success, the impossible became possible.

Jackpot!

 

Fragmented Inspiration

Oct
08

Inspiration is fickle for me. It’s difficult for me to sit down and think of something to write about. It never works that way. It makes it really hard to plan blog posts ahead of schedule when my blog is mostly based on inspiration.

I could be watching a television show and a quote could really stand out similar to what happened in Ornamental Relationships. Or I could be engrossed in a conversation via Twitter about crappy dates and The Red Lobster Date evolves.

Oh, and let’s not forget the times where I just get a fragment of a thought. That’s the worse. The fragment may not ever see completion. Until then, those little nuggets of potential awesomeness just sit in my notebook, phone, and/or laptop, patiently waiting for their moment.

Then you have the moments when inspiration hits and you have NOTHING available to record it. This always happens to me while I’m in the shower or driving.  I end up having to repeat it out loud until I can record the thought(s).

Trying to recapture lost inspiration is impossible and if I happen to grab a piece of it, it’s never the same as the first go around. Finally, I stockpiled my bathroom and car with Post-it notes are a tremendous help. No more forgotten moments over here.

My fellow creatives, how does inspiration come to you? Is it easy for you to sit down and create? Or do you need to live and allow inspiration to come to you? Leave a comment so we can discuss.

 

Three More Days…What’s Next?

Aug
28

The #30in30 writing challenge is winding down. Parts of me are happy, worried, and incredibly proud. Happy that I won’t have to write every single day. Worried that I will backslide on this blog and get lazy and rusty with my writing. Proud that as of right now, I have stuck this out for 28 days (and counting). No part of this challenge was easy.

Slowly, I’ve become a better writer than I was 30 days ago. Thoughts are much clearer now that I’m literally writing them out. Consider that one of my many “duh” moments during this challenge. Since I was writing daily, I wrote shorter posts. Perhaps once the challenge is over, I’ll write longer, essay-like posts. Or non-rhyming poetry (it does exist). So many possibilities.

To my fellow #30in30 participants, what’s next?

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