The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

Wisdom Wednesday #209


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #209 -- A little discomfort is good for you. Keeps you on your toes. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

My 2017 Wrap Up


The Recovering Pessimist: My 2017 Wrap Up -- This has been one hell of a year, equal parts ups and downs. I wanted to share the lessons I learned from this roller coaster of a year. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistWriting these annual write-ups is one of my favorite end-of-the-year blog tasks (see here and here for earlier posts). In the past, I’ve broken down the post into sections (personal/blog highlights, top blog posts of the year, etc).

I wanted to switch things up for this year. The highlights and memories that I experienced this year were awesome. I also had some lows that would’ve broken me. All of that provided me with some valuable lessons that I wanted to share as my annual wrap up for 2017.


Do what works for me.

Comparison is one of those things that you can get wrapped up in and not realize that it’s happening. I would browse social media and find myself comparing where I was in various areas of my life in regards to others. I found myself looking up tips and signing up for all kinds of newsletters, none of which I needed. Instead of soaking up all of this information, I got overwhelmed.

It takes longer to get past overwhelm than it did to get overwhelmed.

To get past the overwhelm, I needed to get rid of the sources of the overwhelm. I unsubscribed from several newsletters and stopped searching for tips on things that I really didn’t need. I stuck to doing the things that worked for me and refrained from comparing myself to others. I won’t lie, it’s not always easy, but I feel so much better.


Leave the past in the past.

I have this thing where I get a case of the “what ifs” regarding people of my past. I go through the motions of wondering if things between us could be different. I would reach out, we’d reconnect, and things would be cool for months. Then, things would fall apart again and we would go back to being the past. This year, I didn’t reach out when I felt the urge. Progress.

No matter how many times I reach out to my past, sometimes the past needs to stay where it is.


Be flexible.

I’m a stickler for a routine. When that routine is disrupted, I feel frazzled. I’ve turned down several opportunities because they interfered with my routine. I know how ridiculous that is, but when I decide that I’m doing something at a certain moment of the day, I don’t like to change the plans.

However, I realized that this isn’t feasible.

I have a routine and when that routine is disrupted, I feel frazzled. It would take days to get back on track. I learned to add some room in the routine so when it gets disrupted, I can pick up where I left off. That allows me to partake in the opportunities that pop up while still having my routine.


“No” is not a means to an end.

“No” is one of those things that can make or break you. When you want something so badly just to be told you can’t have it for whatever reason, it hurts real bad. Like when someone takes the last cupcake in the display case that you had your eye on in line. Yeah, that bad. I refused to become discouraged and instead allowed “no” to motivate me to find alternate means to get what I want.

The difference between 'no' and 'yes' is persistence.


It’s been a hell of a year, FULL of ups and downs. But as the elders say, if you aren’t learning, you aren’t living.

See ya in 2018!!!!










Wisdom Wednesday #208


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #208 -- Don't worry about what everyone else is doing. Worry about your self. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

How I’m Prepping for 2018


The Recovering Pessimist: How I'm Prepping for 2018 -- When I sat down to prepare for 2018, I knew that I couldn't repeat everything I had done before. I can't do the same things and expect different results. This year, I switched some things up and I feel that I got it right this time. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist It’s the home stretch of 2017. One of my favorite times of the year is to sit down and start prepping for the following year (see here and here). For whatever reason, the last 60 days of the year tend to go by in a blur for me. Sitting down and preparing for the following year allows me to slow down for a bit.

In addition to doing the things I’ve done in previous years (see here and here), the lessons I learned this year also changed the way I prep for the upcoming year.

Creating Theme for 2018

The theme for 2018 is the result of a moment of fed-up-ness (not an actual word, but rock with me anyway). It’s the perfect follow-up to this year’s theme of Stay Ready. It’s one of those things that I’ve struggled with for a while now. The theme alone has me super excited for the upcoming year.

Batching Tasks

Multitasking has been a nightmare this year. When I’m not at work, I work on a blog post while doing another blog-related task at the same time. What ends up happening is that I don’t finish either of those tasks that day and carry them over to the next day. This is a horrible use of time.

Batching my tasks would be a good use of time management plus it would help me focus on one thing at a time which would make sure that I finish my tasks in a timely fashion. I can choose specific days for blog post writing, blog maintenance, etc. Hopefully, this will eliminate the bouts of burnout I experienced this year.

Planning Differently

For the past few years, I write all of my goals for the year and that’s it. I’ve ended the year not accomplishing a quarter of the goals I made. This year, I’m being more flexible with my planning by breaking my goals down into quarters. This makes things a lot less overwhelming and I’ll be more likely to actually accomplish my goals. Plus I can focus on each goal versus all of my goals as a whole.

Taking the time the prepare for 2018 by doing these things will alleviate a lot of anxiety, burnout, and overwhelm. I look forward to whatever 2018 brings my way.

I got this.





Wisdom Wednesday #207


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesdsay #207 -- Don't take your dreams for granted. Many hopes, dreams, etc. have begun with a dream. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

Public Service Announcement: Your Life, Your Choices


I got the idea for this blog post from a conversation I had with some family members some time ago. They ask the same questions all the time and I’m sure they mean well when they ask, but bruh, you don’t have to ask me:

When are you getting married?

When are you going to have some kids?

Will and Grace/

Will and Grace/

For the record, I have no desire to get married and I never wanted children. Both of those decisions are perfectly fine. However, people legit act like you spit in their eyes with ghost pepper hot sauce.

Seriously, why do YOU feel disrespected?

I often wonder if people feel a way about your life choices because they have regrets. Maybe they wanted to make the moves you’re making but they fell victim to society’s expectations. Regardless of their reasons, you don’t owe them a “why” for the decisions you make. In all honesty, they can kiss your ass, but I digress.

Your Life. Your Choices. The End.


Wisdom Wednesday #206


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #206 -- Make the most with what you already have. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

Familiar #10WordStory


The Recovering Pessimist: Familiar #10WordStory -- Like the others, she was a stranger. However, her touch didn't feel like the others.  | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #10WordStory







Wisdom Wednesday #205


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #205 -- You know where you want to go in life. Don't let fear detour you from your journey. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

Growth #Thankful2017



The Recovering Pessimist: Growth #Thankful2018 -- Growth is a combination of progress, setbacks, and doubts. The growth I've made in 2017 have prepared me for 2018. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

I made progress on a lot of my goals and ideas this year. I also had a few setbacks, which allowed me to determine if the goal or idea is worth reassessing or if I should scrap it altogether. I also doubted myself, wondering if I was doing the right thing.

I would’ve quit, however, quitting won’t get me where I want to be. I refused to give up. With my goals in mind, I restrategized and carried on. I’m thankful for the process of growth that I’ve experienced this year. The progress, the setbacks, and the doubts were all learning experiences that helped me better myself and sharpen my focus.

Growth is learning from your progress, setbacks, and doubts.








Wisdom Wednesday #204


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #204 -- People make time for what they want to make time for. Remember that. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

Intuition #Thankful2017


The Recovering Pessimist: Intuition #Thankful2017 -- Not only did intuition get me through some potentially sticky situations, but it also reminded me to trust my decision-making. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistI love talking about intuition (click here and here for earlier posts). This year, intuition helped me avoid some potentially sticky situations. I had opportunities that appeared to be awesome on the outside. My support system would give me the green light of approval, but I couldn’t knock the feeling that something wasn’t right.

Intuition reminded me to trust my decision-making. That feeling keeps nagging at me for a reason. Clearly, it’s trying to tell me something, right?

You can ignore your intuition, or you can take heed. Choose wisely.

Listen to the feeling.

Trust yourself.

You got this.

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