The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

Wisdom Wednesday #177


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday 177 -- You can want to help someone with all the good intentions in the world, but if they don't want your help, there's very little you can do. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

3 Things I Don’t Apologize For In My 30s


The Recovering Pessimist: 3 Things I Don't Apologize for In My 30s -- Prior to entering my 30s, I lived life according to how others wanted me to live. I cared too much about how my decisions would make others feel. Now that I'm in my 30s, I could care less about how others feel about me and my decisions. | #amwriting #optimisticpessimist #recoveringpessimistOne of the biggest things that I occurred when I entered my 30s is that I stopped caring about hurting people’s feelings. For the record, I didn’t hurt people’s feelings with the intention to be spiteful. I got tired of being concerned about how people felt when I decided not to do what was expected of me. There’s something freeing about giving deserving people the imaginary middle finger.

Here are a few of the things that I stopped apologizing for in my 30s:

 1. Being honest with my thoughts and feelings.

I have always been the person that kept their deepest thoughts and feelings to themselves. Why? Because I didn’t want to hurt people’s feelings. The problem with that is that it weighs you down. Nowadays, I release those thoughts and feelings out in a rational way. Keeping all of that in does nothing but create disaster down the road.

2. Not wasting my time.

I’ve never liked wasting my time. When I was in my 20s and younger, I wouldn’t say no to doing things that I didn’t want to do because I didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. Now, I am more protective of “MY” time.

Even when I have nothing to do, if I don't want to hang out, go to an event, etc., I won't. Click To Tweet

Time is too valuable to be wasted.

3. Who I am.

I’m well aware that I can come off as sarcastic, funny, and a bit of an asshole. All of these things and more make up who I am. At this point in the game, I am who I am. I’m not going to be everyone’s favorite and that’s fine.

Those are the three things I don’t apologize for in my 30s. What are some things that you aren’t apologetic for in your life? Let’s discuss in the comments and/or social media.

Until next time,


Wisdom Wednesday #176


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday 176 -- One of the bright sides of life is that each day provides a clean slate. You might not be able to undo yesterday, but you can definitely learn from it and do better. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpesismist #wisdomwednesday

The “Tit for Tat” Bullsh!t


The Recovering Pessimist: Tit for Tat -- Many people do things for you under the guise that it's from the goodness of their heart. When in actually, they're full of bullsh!t. | #amwriting #recoveringpessmist #optimisticpessimist Many people live a “tit for tat” lifestyle. They’ll do things for you under the guise that it’s from the goodness of their heart. In actuality, they’re doing it so they can remind you that they did this and that for you. Oh, and they’ll also tell everyone else that they did x, y, and z for you. Some bullsh!t.

You can’t keep those folks around. In fact, I cut a few folks out of my life for that mess. That bullsh!t is draining and provides nothing of substance for my spirit. If I do something for you, I’m doing it because I want to. I don’t expect anything from you in return.

If you do something out of kindness, you don't have to broadcast it. Click To Tweet

Until next time,



Wisdom Wednesday #175


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #175 -- Stop waiting for the "right time" to come. There's a good chance that it might never come. Seize the moment and do whatever it is now. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

Your (Unsolicited) Opinion is Weightless


The Recovering Pessimist: Your (Unsolicited) Opinion is Weightless -- If nobody asked for your opinion, consider keeping it to yourself. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistOpinions come in two forms: solicited and unsolicited.

When someone asks for your opinion, it’s likely that they value your opinion.

However, it’s when nobody asked for your opinion that things get dicey. It’s easy to share how you feel about someone’s actions, life choices, etc. What I don’t understand is why folks feel that their unsolicited opinion matters.

Because it doesn’t.

An opinion is just that, an opinion. It holds no weight whatsoever. Click To Tweet

Don’t get upset when you don’t get the reaction you expected because you decided to share your unsolicited opinion. You don’t have to share everything you think, especially when nobody asked you to. Keep it to yourself.

Until next time,








Wisdom Wednesday #174


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednedsay #174 -- Your feelings are valid. Don't ever dismiss them. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #snapshotstoryteller

Pride Stains the Rug


The Recovering Pessimist: Pride Stains the Rug -- Pride will have you out here living a life of delusion if you don't get it together. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

Pride will take you down so fast, especially when it comes to lying. I compare pride to a stain on a rug. The stain might appear small, large, or be barely noticeable.

You don’t want people to see the stain, so you decide to cover a lie with another lie. At some point, you start believing that the lies are the truth. Instead of the stain fading, it gets bigger and bigger.

Don't let pride fool you into thinking those stains on the rug won't get bigger. Click To Tweet

Be (very) aware of the influence pride can have in your life.

Until next time,







Wisdom Wednesday #173


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday 173 -- When you get caught up in your own thoughts, you run the risk of missing out on opportunities and experiences. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #snapshotstoryteller

Let Go!


The Recovering Pessimist: Let Go -- Holding onto grudges, negative people, and unhappy situations served no purpose other than blocking my blessings. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist I had a long-standing history of being unable to let go. I held onto grudges from high school. I kept people around who sucked all the positivity out of the air. I remained in situations that I was no longer happy in.


I got comfortable. The grudges, negative people, and unhappy situations had become my normal. It was my normal for so long that I didn’t realize that I was blocking my blessings.

You cannot invite goodness into your life if negativity surrounds you. Click To Tweet

What’s the point of holding onto grudges, bad vibes, negative people, etc? Does it offer anything beneficial to your life?

Absolutely not.

Spend some time analyzing the people, situations, grudges, that are part of your life. Take inventory of your life and consider the following:

If it doesn’t make you happy, let go!

If it doesn’t invite positivity into your life, let go!

If it doesn’t challenge you, let go!

Don’t allow negativity to block your journey in life. You deserve better.

Until next time,



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