The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

Clipping Dead Limbs

Sep
11

The Recovering Pessimist: Clipping Dead Limbs -- Trees are pruned to encourage growth. The same applies to people. If you don't cut the dead limbs from your life, you won't continue to grow. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

People assume that when you say “I’m fine”, it means that you’re fine as long as they’re in your life. It’s true. When things were good, they were great. Over time, I matured and where I was then wasn’t where I was before.

[bctt tweet=”You can’t always take people with you as you journey through life.” username=”MsWalton”]

I tried to make things work between us. Why? Because I didn’t want to lose them. There were so many years invested in those relationships. My attempts to make it work were positive for a while, then things went sour again.

It took me a minute, but I understood that I had to cut the dead limbs if I wanted to continue to grow. No more visits. Phone calls and texts stopped. Social media connections were disconnected. Something in the matrix shifted. Folks got in their feelings.

“You’ll be back.”

“Oh, you just need some time.”

“I’ll give you some space.”

Many didn’t take me seriously until those days became weeks, weeks became months, and months became years. I can remember folks telling me that it would get better with time and I thought they were crazy. They were right. Things got better. I got used to my new normal and I’m glad I let those people go.

Until next time,

MsWalton

 

Wisdom Wednesday #193

Sep
06

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #193 -- When anxiety and/or stressed prevents me from being my best self, writing out my thoughts works wonders. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

Switching Up My Mental

Sep
04

The Recovering Pessimist: Switching Up My Mental -- When goals that I've established don't work out as expected, I had to figure out what's the problem. When I realized that the steps I was using weren't the problem, I realized that I needed to switch up my mental approach. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistThroughout this year, I’ve been working on several goals. I’ve accomplished some of my goals. However, I’m not making the progress that I want to make on other goals. It’s frustrating to say the least.

So I had a moment with myself to figure out where things were going wrong. My mental approach to these goals was all wrong. And because it was all wrong, I couldn’t make the progress that I wanted to make.

For example, I would tell myself the following:

I want a new job.

I want to travel to ____________.

I want more money.

I switched my mindset to the following:

I’m getting a new job.

I’m traveling to ____________.

I’m getting more money.

Turning those wants into manifestations just might get me closer to accomplishing all of my goals. It’s worth a try. Can’t keep doing the same things expecting different results. Besides, the worst that can happen is that I get the same results. But I won’t know that if I didn’t try something new to begin with.

If you find yourself hitting a wall with something you’re trying to do, try changing your mindset. Sometimes, that’s all that’s needed to get things back in action.

Be good to yourself,

MsWalton

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday #192

Aug
30

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #192 -- You can't be in hustle mode 24/7. At some point, you have to recharge. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

Truth Skewed by Pride

Aug
28

The Recovering Pessimist: Truth Skewed by Pride -- Despite knowing that there are 3 versions of the truth, there are times when we'll see our truth as the only one that matters. Why? One word: pride. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistOne of the things I learned as a kid was that there are 3 versions of the truth:

Your truth.

Their truth.

The truth itself.

Somewhere within your truth and their truth is the truth itself. Sometimes, it’s easy to get to. Other times, you have to dig through the info to find it. The journey to get to truth itself is full of anxiety and/or optimism. You might find yourself hoping that their truth is wrong. You might find yourself hoping that your truth is right. Or, you may hope that both of you are wrong.

On rare occasions, the truth may never come to light. There are a few reasons why this could be, but the one that sticks out the most is pride (see here, here, and here for past posts about pride). When it comes to truth, you may know that your version of the truth isn’t correct. Instead of coming to terms with that, you instead stick with your version. I’ve been guilty of this on several occasions. Put your pride in check or it’ll have you out here looking dumb as hell.

[bctt tweet=”Be mindful of the role you play in the truth. How you see things isn’t always how it really is. ” username=”MsWalton”]

As I love to say…when you know better, you do better.

Take care.

 

Wisdom Wednesday #191

Aug
23

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #191 -- Time is just as valuable as money. Treat it as such. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

Rude Motherf*ckers

Aug
21

Dear Ill-Mannered,

Whenever I leave my home, I’m reminded of a sad truth:

Manners appear to be obsolete, like cursive being taught in schools.

You know I’m not lying.

You walk past people and don’t bother to say “excuse me”.

You ask for directions, napkins, whatever and don’t say “please”.

Someone holds the door for you and you don’t say “thank you”.

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Depending on my mood, I’ll call you out on it.

Did you walk past me and not say “excuse me”?

I’ll respond with “you’re excused”.

Did you fail to say “please” after asking for something?

I’ll ask you for the magic word.

You didn’t say “thank you”? I’ll “say thank you” for you.

I’ll “say thank you” for you.

I have no clue why this is so hard for you to understand. Perhaps it goes back to the day your rude ass entered the world. My elders always said that it takes a village to raise a child. Perhaps the village that was responsible for you failed you as a child.

Not that it’s an excuse.

[bctt tweet=”You have to take responsibility for yourself. That includes making adjustments to bad behaviors. ” username=”MsWalton”]

Now that you know better, do better.

Sincerely,

Society

 

Wisdom Wednesday #190

Aug
16

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #190 -- When you treat yourself, don't forget to feed your soul. It's just as important. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

Harm #10WordStory

Aug
14

The Recovering Pessimist: Harm #10WordStory -- He didn't want to do her harm, but he wanted her to know that they promised each other forever, and he intends for it to stay that way. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #10wordstory

Wisdom Wednesday #189

Aug
09

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #189 -- Don't get so wrapped up in the future that you forget to exist in the now. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

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