The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

Holiday Fatigue Strikes Again

Oct
30

The Recovering Pessimist: Holiday Fatigue Strikes Again -- It's October and the holidays are in our faces already. It's ridiculous and I'm already fatigued. Did I mention that it's only October? | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistI’ve written about my strong dislike of the retail aspect of the holiday season before (see herehere, and here). This year is much of the same with a not-so-surprising twist: I already have holiday fatigue and November isn’t even here yet.

A few observations this year:

  • In many stores, Halloween items were at least 40% off by November 15th. Halloween displays made way for 6 foot tall Christmas trees and large plastic candy canes complete with lights.
  • My favorite stores started sending me emails featuring gift sets and other seasonal items to consider as gifts mid-October.
  • I’ve seen Elf on the Shelf displays.
  • People are counting down how many days are left until Christmas.

In all honesty, I can deal with everything mentioned above MINUS the countdown. The counting down is high-key annoying as hell. Can we put the turkey in the oven first?

Be strong ya’ll.

 

Wisdom Wednesday #200

Oct
25

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #200 -- When someone asks you why you feel how you feel, "because" is an automatic response. Next time someone, including yourself, responds with "because", hit them with "because why?" | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

No: The Great Motivator

Oct
23

The Recovering Pessimist: No: The Great Motivator -- When you work days, months, even years towards a goal just to hear "no", it tears you apart. Allow yourself to go through the emotions, then pick yourself up and get back to work. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistImagine having a goal you want to accomplish. Doesn’t matter if it’s big or small. What matters is that you want it and you want it really bad. You’ve worked towards it for days, months, and even years.

Now imagine that today is the day when you find out if your hard work will accomplish your goal. You’re on pins and needles waiting. Stomach in knots, heartbeat racing and then…

no.

You start feeling devastated, heartbroken, pissed. That’s ok.

You may ask yourself why this is happening. That’s ok.

You may want to throw things. That’s ok.

You may not know what to do. That’s ok.

It’s okay to want and feel all of those things and more. However, I don’t want you to give up, okay? No hurts, but it hurts more to give up. Let that no motivate you to pick up where you left off and keep going.

You’ve come too far to quit now.

You got this.

MsWalton

 

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday #199

Oct
18

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #199 -- Roadblocks happen. Take time to analyze your plans and keep going. You got this. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

When the Past Reappears

Oct
16

The past has a way of reappearing when you’re doing good for yourself.

For example, when you’re over someone, you may exile them from your life. You block their number so they can’t call/text you and you unfriend them on social media. That exiled person is now a part of your past, and until further notice, the past is where they will stay.

In the meantime, life moves on. You’re out here in the world, being awesome and whatnot. Then one random day, the past reappears.

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Oprah/Giphy.com

It could be a text/call from an unknown number, in-person, etc. Regardless of the way the past reappeared, it’s awkward as hell. You cared about that person. You both had some good memories.  You may feel a way about how things ended. Then there’s the desire…to reconnect with that person. sighs That desire makes a huge difference in how you decide to react.

Despite these feelings, you remind myself that I’m done with that person for a reason. And while it might not be a bad thing to consider making them part of your life now, you don’t want to risk it.

[bctt tweet=”The what-ifs aren’t worth the emotional rollercoaster.” username=”MsWalton”]

Until next time,

MsWalton

 

Wisdom Wednesday #198

Oct
11

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #198-- When it comes to non-verbal communication, tone matters. Be careful of how you say what you say. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwedneday

Relationships & The Fine Print

Oct
09

The Recovering Pessimist: Relationships & the Fine Print -- Relationships come with fine print,which is crucial to a relationship's success. When you fail to abide by the fine print, the relationship ends. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistWhen I enter into a relationship after being single for some time, It’s exciting. I can get caught up in the newness of it all, that I forget the components that comprise the fine print in relationships. I consider these components to be communication, sympathy, etc.:

Relationship participants agree to keep lines of communication open. Participants also agree to be sympathetic to the needs of other participants. Failure to comply with these terms may result in termination of the relationship. Other terms and agreements may apply.

Making the adjustment in your mindset from single to a relationship participant is crucial. I had to change my mindset to meet the needs of my partner. These components create a foundation that’s a requirement for relationship success.

[bctt tweet=”Having a boo thang is cute, but if you want to keep that boo thang, do the work.” username=”MsWalton”]

The moment you disregard the foundation of a relationship is when the relationship fails. And you end up back where you started…single. Keep that in mind.

 

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday #197

Oct
04

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #197 -- There are 24 hours in a day. Some of those hours are for sleeping, but you can make the other hours count. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

Don’t Lay Your Burdens on My Shoulders

Oct
02

The Recovering Pessimist: Don't Lay Your Burdens On My Shoulders -- When you decide to share your burdens with someone, ask them. It's only fair. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistWe all have things that weigh on us. Those things may affect us in various ways. Burdens can be difficult to deal with alone, so oftentimes, we talk about our burdens with others.

This is where things get dicey.

There’s a difference between just talking about your burdens and laying your burdens on someone’s shoulders. You can have a discussion about your burdens just to get it off your chest. No expectations from the other person, other than to listen.

But when you dump your burdens on people expecting them to fix it for you, there’s an issue. It’s not fair to the other person to be your emotional dumping ground. You’re not resolving anything. Instead, you’re creating another issue: you put your burdens on another person’s shoulders to carry. That’s a lot, especially when the other person didn’t ask for it.

How can this be avoided?

Ask for permission beforehand. Some people absorb your problems and/or energy and can’t get rid of it like they want. It’s as simple as that.

Until next time,

MsWalton

 

Wisdom Wednesday #196

Sep
27

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #196 -- There's something soothing about silence. It provides a much-needed calm in an environment of chaos. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

A Few Thoughts on Foresight

Sep
25

The Recovering Pessimist: A Few Thoughts On Foresight -- I wonder if foresight is one of those skills like common sense. Everyone isn't born with it. You either have it or you don't. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist This post originated from an observation I had while driving on the interstate: People don’t pay attention when they’re driving. This observation applies beyond driving. In general, people just don’t pay attention. All of the information, signs, etc. are there right in front of them, but they lack the foresight to see what’s to come.

It’s interesting to say the least.

I wonder if foresight is one of those skills that people either have it or they don’t. Similar to common sense. If that’s not the case, I can’t explain how people can’t see what’s going to happen when it’s in plain view.

What if foresight is one of those things where they can see what’s in front of them, but they don’t know what to do?

What if foresight is one of those things when they know what’s in front of them and they know what’s going to happen, but they don’t want to deal with the situation?

If you ever find yourself sitting in traffic, check out your surroundings. There’s a driver or two who doesn’t pay attention to lane closures, sudden braking, etc.

[bctt tweet=”If you feel that something is about to happen, do you prepare yourself or do you ignore it?” username=”MsWalton”]

Care to share your answer? Let me know in the comments and/or social media.

Be good to yourself.

 

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday #195

Sep
20

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #195 -- I learned that things will happen for me when the time is right. No need to fight it. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

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