The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

Wisdom Wednesday #168


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #168 -- If you want something to happen, you have to be willing to not only show up, but do the necessary work. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

My 5 Favorite Spotify Playlists for Sleep


The Recovering Pessimist: My Favorite Spotify Sleep Playlists -- I have moments where sleep eludes me. Listening to some of my favorite Spotify playlists usually relaxes me enough to fall asleep. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistI’m a creature of habit and my nighttime routine is no different. I stop using my computer 45 minutes to an hour before bed. I avoid drinking sugary drinks a few hours before bed. I turn off all the lights in my apartment.

Usually, this routine works like a charm.

Keyword: usually.

Some nights, despite my most valiant efforts, sleep still manages to elude me. On top of that, just one restless night ruins my sleep for the entire week. When I have those restless nights, I go to my favorite Spotify sleep playlists.


1. Sounds of Home | Noise Therapy

This playlist is full of white noise! Think along the lines of ventilation units, electrical appliances, fans, etc.

2. Gentle Rains

As a child, I would dance in the rain. It was so relaxing to feel the water against my skin. This playlist puts me in the perfect mood for a good night’s sleep.

3. Nightstorms

There’s something about night storms that make me want to cuddle up with a comfy blanket and a soft pillow. Thunder + nighttime are the perfect ingredients for a sound slumber.

4. Nature Noise

Living in the city, I miss the sounds of my country upbringing.  This playlist hits the spot.

5. Dreamcatcher

I found this collection of Native American flute music on a whim. It’s unique and soothing. Perfect for when it’s bedtime and your mind doesn’t get the memo.

These are my five favorite Spotify sleep playlists. Do you use sleep playlists? If so, please feel free to share in the comments.

Until next time,


Wisdom Wednesday #167


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #167 -- The days pass by quickly and it's easy to get wrapped up in what's happening next. Take time time to be present in the moment. Soak it in. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

Photos #10WordStory



The Recovering Pessimist: Photos #10WordStory -- Memories laid across the floor, covered in shards of glass. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #10wordstory

Wisdom Wednesday #166


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #166 -- A friendly reminder to not get caught up in other people's finances. What do your finances look like? Have you checked lately? | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

#Love is Necessary


The Recovering Pessimist: #Love is Necessary -- Each time I encountered Love, I emerged as a better person. Love helped me grow as a person. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #mytruthaboutloveThere are two things that come to mind when I think of Love: Happiness and Heartache.

Happiness is an awesome feeling. It feels calming; like a glass of smooth whiskey or a comfy blanket on a chilly evening.

My experiences with heartache ranged from devastation to sad understanding. Heartache hurts, and while I don’t want to experience it, I know that it’s necessary.

Both happiness and heartache are necessary aspects of Love. They taught me lessons which made me a better person.

Love softens me. 

Love gives me hope.

Love humbled me.

I wouldn't be who I am without Love. Click To Tweet


Until next time,


Wisdom Wednesday #165


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #165 -- Take it little by little until you no longer feel overwhelmed. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

#Love is Unexpected


The Recovering Pessimist: #Love is Unexpected -- It's been my experience that Love needs to come to me versus me looking for Love. I learned to appreciate the unexpectedness of Love, and I'm grateful for that. | #amwriting #optimisticpessimist #recoveringpessimist #mytruthaboutlove

While working on the Dear #Love Letter series and #Love: A Musical Retrospective, I realized that there was a recurring theme:

Love works on its own schedule.

You would think this be a “duh” moment, but like many things in my life, I had to figure this one out. I fought Love. I tried so hard to make Love work on my own terms. I planned for it. I did all the work required to invite Love in.

In return, Love laughed at me and delivered a well-needed life lesson:

What you want and what the Universe wants for you aren't going to line up all the time. Click To Tweet





When you know better, you do better right?

Until next time,





Wisdom Wednesday #164


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #164 -- Always be grateful for the ups, the downs, and the (sometimes painful) lessons learned. You lived through it and have an opportunity to do better. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

#Love + Pride = Disaster



The Recovering Pessimist: #Love + Pride = Disaster -- Several things have ruined my relationships in the past (e.g., jealousy, lack of trust, etc.). None of those things were as disastrous as pride. You can sense jealousy and lac of trust, but pride is hard to detect. And by the time you detect it, it may be too late. | #mytruthaboutlove #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

When people enter into a relationship, a few things should beare understood:

1. Someone else’s wants and needs should be considered as well as yours.

2. You aren’t always going to be right.

3. Your thoughts are feelings aren’t more important than the other party.

Having an understanding of those three things is crucial to the success of the relationship. In addition, pride can ruin your understanding of these things.

There were a few times where I let pride get the best of me. I was so selfish. If it wasn’t about me first, I wasn’t hearing it. I didn’t care about my boyfriend’s feelings enough to make them a priority. When arguments would occur, I was always right…even when I was dead ass wrong.

My selfishness was responsible for many failed relationships. There were a few times where I managed to check myself before things took a hard left, but it was too late to salvage the relationship.

Pride will destroy everything in its path, including your relationship. Click To Tweet

Ain’t that the truth.

Those lessons on pride’s place in relationships were hard, but they were necessary. I have to humble myself when it comes to relationships if I want my future relationship(s) to prosper.

Until next time,


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