The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

Wisdom Wednesday #164


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #164 -- Always be grateful for the ups, the downs, and the (sometimes painful) lessons learned. You lived through it and have an opportunity to do better. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

#Love + Pride = Disaster



The Recovering Pessimist: #Love + Pride = Disaster -- Several things have ruined my relationships in the past (e.g., jealousy, lack of trust, etc.). None of those things were as disastrous as pride. You can sense jealousy and lac of trust, but pride is hard to detect. And by the time you detect it, it may be too late. | #mytruthaboutlove #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

When people enter into a relationship, a few things should beare understood:

1. Someone else’s wants and needs should be considered as well as yours.

2. You aren’t always going to be right.

3. Your thoughts are feelings aren’t more important than the other party.

Having an understanding of those three things is crucial to the success of the relationship. In addition, pride can ruin your understanding of these things.

There were a few times where I let pride get the best of me. I was so selfish. If it wasn’t about me first, I wasn’t hearing it. I didn’t care about my boyfriend’s feelings enough to make them a priority. When arguments would occur, I was always right…even when I was dead ass wrong.

My selfishness was responsible for many failed relationships. There were a few times where I managed to check myself before things took a hard left, but it was too late to salvage the relationship.

Pride will destroy everything in its path, including your relationship. Click To Tweet

Ain’t that the truth.

Those lessons on pride’s place in relationships were hard, but they were necessary. I have to humble myself when it comes to relationships if I want my future relationship(s) to prosper.

Until next time,


Wisdom Wednesday #163


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #163 -- We all have dreams and aspirations but there are things we have to do in order to make our dreams and aspirations come true. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

#Love is a Winning AND Losing Game


The Recovering Pessimist: Love is a Winning AND Losing Game -- As in life, there are winners and losers when it comes to love, and that is okay. I learned to live in moment versus worrying about when the other shoe in the relationship would fall. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #mytruthaboutloveAmy Winehouse was on to something with “Love Is a Losing Game”.

Allow me to explain.

In life, there are losers and winners. The same applies to love.

There are moments where I was a winner in love. Everything was going well in the relationship, I couldn’t stop smiling, and my heart was full of happiness.

At some point, those winning moments turned sour. Frowns and sadness replaced smiles and happiness. The relationship ended. All was not well in my world. I lost.

But it’s okay.

Heartache is an unwanted necessity of life. Instead of wallowing in my broken heart, I learned to remember those moments where I was a winner.

Sometimes losing is inevitable, even in love. Click To Tweet

Until next time,


Wisdom Wednesday #162


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #162 -- Remember to love yourself and mean it. | | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

My Truth About #Love


The Recovering Pessimist: My Truth About Love (Intro) -- I don't participate in Valentine's Day (it's a retail holiday, but I digress), however, I wanted to create a themed series about the truths I learned (the hard way) about love. I hope you enjoy! | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #mytruthaboutlove

I love writing about love and all of its complexities. Back in 2014 and 2016 I did a themed February series on love. I enjoyed creating the themes and wanted to do it again for 2017.

During my brainstorming sessions, I wanted to do things a bit simpler this year. When I was jotting down my lessons learned for 2016, many of those lessons centered around love.

Which brings me to the “My Truth About #Love” series. This series consists of four truths posted each Monday in February.

I hope you enjoy the series!





Wisdom Wednesday #161


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #161 -- All facets of your life must be balanced. Otherwise, chaos occurs. And who the hell wants that? | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

5 Interesting Things About Me (Part 3)


The Recovering Pessimist: 5 Interesting Things About Me Part III -- I'm long overdue for the third installment of this series where I share some of the things that make me the awesomeness that I am. Enjoy! | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

One of my favorite things about this blog is that I can share all of the facets that make me who I am. Which brings me to the third installment of this series (click here and here for previous installments). I’m sorry this is long overdue, but let’s jump right in:

1. I am Daria (and Daria is me).

I’ve been sarcastic and what some would call a smartass (I prefer quick-witted) for most of my life. I find it entertaining when people don’t pick up on my sarcasm or get upset that I’m really good at one-liner commentary. Sarcasm and quick-wit are gifts and because you don’t waste gifts, I’m sharing my gifts with the world.



2. I don’t own a pair of heels.

I have a love/dislike relationship with heels that borders more on dislike. I love the streamlined look of heels. However, I don’t like the pain that results from wearing those heels that give that streamlined look.

Plus my style for the past couple of years embraces flats and the occasional wedge, both of which are much easier on my back. At some point, I’m sure I’ll have to break down and buy a pair of simple black heels to go with that gorgeous LBD (little black dress) I’ll score on sale. Until then, no thank you.

3. Bad spelling/grammar makes my eye twitch, seriously.

I’ve been in love with words since I was a kid. Spelling tests were my thing, and I worked my adolescent behind off to make sure I aced them each week. It might be my own doing, but I expect adults to do better when it comes to spelling and grammar. At least know the difference between there/their/they’re & lost/loss.



4. I have introvert tendencies. 

When I was making the shift from my late 20s to my 30s, I found myself developing introvert tendencies that I still keep to this day. I enjoy going out and spending time with friends, but after a few hours, I start craving alone time on the sofa. It’s a real struggle.

5. I don’t like shrimp (99% of the time).

 The moment I realized what shrimp looked like alive was the moment I lost all interest in eating them. There are the rare (and I do mean rare) moments where I’ll consume a few cooked and deveined shrimp. And even then, I will only eat them if certain people cook them.

That’s it! I hope you enjoyed this. Let’s put the (flat) shoe on the other foot. Share one interesting thing about you. You can drop it in the comments or share via my social media.

Until next time,


Wisdom Wednesday #160


“Keep Swinging” Through Life


There are times where no matter how far I’ve progressed, I find myself falling back a step (or five). It’s discouraging and I have moments when I just want to quit. But I can’t let that happen…and Denzel Washington doesn’t want you to either.

I love Denzel Washington not only as an accomplished actor but for his wisdom (click here for that post). During an interview with BlogXilla of Global Grind to discuss his film Fences, Denzel drops a nugget of wisdom once again.

Check out the video below:

Sometimes you need to be reminded that what you're going through is part of the journey. Click To Tweet

Don’t get discouraged when you find yourself a few steps back from where you started. Use that to motivate you. Make note of that moment to use a reflection point in the future.

You got this.

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