The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

Wisdom Wednesday #227

May
02

Schedule Changes are Coming

Apr
30

A year ago, I decided to focus more on my creative writing projects. After much procrastinating, I created Snapshot Storyteller: an unglamorous and unconventional look into my writing journey (subscribe if you want to stay in the know).

Right now, I want to spend time growing Snapshot Storyteller and working on creative projects. That won’t leave me with a lot of time for The Recovering Pessimist. As of today, the posting schedule will change. Instead of posting every Monday, I will post 1-2 times a month. Wisdom Wednesdays will still post weekly for the rest of this year.

Take of yourself,

MsWalton

 

Wisdom Wednesday #226

Apr
25

Is It Complicated?

Apr
23

The Recovering Pessimist: "Is It Complicated?" -- When a relationship status changes to "It's Complicated", sometimes I wonder if the relationship is complicated by choice, circumstance, or both. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

 

Allow me to set the scene.

You’re on Facebook, scrolling through your timeline. You notice that one of your friends has changed their relationship to “It’s Complicated”. At that moment, you may ask yourself the following:

Is it complicated by circumstance?

Is it complicated by choice?

I decided to answer these questions based on my own observations.

Is it complicated by circumstance?

Things could be complicated due to lack of communication. If neither party expresses their expectations, wants, etc., the relationship itself will resemble a car when you take your hands off the wheel. The relationship will run smoothly for a bit but at some point, it will veer off the road.

Is it complicated by choice?

I’ve witnessed people in relationships voluntarily engage in BS for the sheer delight of relishing in chaos. I’ll never understand it, but that’s not my battle to fight. The idea of enjoying a healthy relationship just isn’t appealing to some. I guess that’s okay. Clearly folks like making a mountain out of a molehill.

Are relationships really complicated? Some are, whether it’s by circumstances, choice, or both. What won’t make them any less complicated is letting everyone know that your relationship is complicated. No need to make something more difficult than it is, right?

Take care,

MsWalton

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday #225

Apr
18

Mind Your Business

Apr
16

The Recovering Pessimist: "Mind Your Business" -- Worrying about yourself and yourself only is crucial for your well-being. If that appears hard to do, try it. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistMinding your business is one of those life mantras that you can never be reminded of enough. I figured what’s one more reminder right?

We’re surrounded by other people’s business, whether it’s intended for us to know about it or not. For the most part, you manage to avoid it. Other times, you can’t because folks bring their issues/problems/concerns to your emotional doorstep and leave them there for you to sort through.

It’s emotionally and physically draining & on top of that, you don’t know what to do about the mess left on your emotional doorstep. I usually experience two things during this process.

One, you want to help because you want the best for those involved. Nothing wrong with that. Two, you need to stay out of it. No matter how much you may care about those involved, getting involved is going to do harm to you and your well-being.

Minding your business is good for your well-being. If you don't already do it, try it and report back.

Until next time,

MsWalton

 

Wisdom Wednesday #224

Apr
11

Lay It To Rest

Apr
09

The Recovering Pessimist: Lay It To Rest -- Please don't stress yourself trying to work out things that can't be worked out. Or seeking closure in people/situations where closure won't be found. Let all of those unresolved things go for the sake of your well-being. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #optimisticpessimist #recoveringpessimistSome things just aren’t worth it. You can try to work out whatever it is, but it never works out. You seek closure so you can move on, but closure never comes. So forth and so on.

Been there, done that, done that again, and finally made it to the other side.

I hope this saves you some time and stress: Stop trying. Figure out how to move on without whatever it is that didn’t work out. Find the closure you need within and carry on.

Whatever it is that is keeping you from prospering, lay it to rest.

It’s hard to do, however, you’ll be glad you did it.

Until next time,

MsWalton

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday #223

Apr
04

Stoplight Mentality

Apr
02

One day, while waiting for the light to change, a thought popped into my head:

People function like stoplights.

Chloe x Halle/Giphy.com

Chloe x Halle/Giphy.com

Here’s my attempt to tie this together. The red, yellow, and green colors of the stoplight represent how we function when obstacles present themselves. Here’s the breakdown by stoplight colors:

Green Light

No obstacles in your way for the most part. The obstacles that you do come across are easy to get around. You got this. All is well. Carry on and whatnot.

Yellow Light

Whoa there! There’s an obstacle that’s too big to go around but not so big that it’s blocking your path. You may have to do some shifting but you figure it out. Whew!

Red Light

Yikes! Just when you thought you were all done with shifting, life comes at you fast. You use everything that you have, but that obstacle…well, it’s not moving and now you’re at a crossroads. One, you can gather your wits and work on a plan of attack. Or two, you can quit, turn around, and travel the way you came.

So how did I do? Did it make sense or did I confuse the hell outta you? Let me know.

Be great,

MsWalton

 

 

 

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday #222

Mar
28

Embracing Growth

Mar
26

The Recovering Pessimist: Embracing Growth -- For me, growth is an uncomfortable, but necessary part of adulthood. You can run away from it like I did, or you can embrace it and prosper. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

Growth is one of those necessary aspects of life that requires you to become comfortable with being uncomfortable. I’m a creature of habit. I like things a certain way. When there’s an unexpected change in my life, I get anxious. Growth is the feeling of anxiety.

Years ago, I wasn’t this open to growth. I ignored the lessons that were being taught to me & continued to make the same mistakes over and over. I was afraid to change because I didn’t know what would happen. My fear of the unknown was crippling and I was tired of repeatedly hitting the wall.

I had to get uncomfortable and allow growth to do its thing. There were several people that I had to let go of in order to become better. I won’t lie, it hurt like hell, but in hindsight, it had to be done.

Growth is an uncomfortable, but necessary part of adulthood. You can run away from it like I did, or you can embrace it and prosper.

I’m grateful for the day I stopped ignoring the lessons.

MsWalton

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