The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

Stoplight Mentality


One day, while waiting for the light to change, a thought popped into my head:

People function like stoplights.

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Here’s my attempt to tie this together. The red, yellow, and green colors of the stoplight represent how we function when obstacles present themselves. Here’s the breakdown by stoplight colors:

Green Light

No obstacles in your way for the most part. The obstacles that you do come across are easy to get around. You got this. All is well. Carry on and whatnot.

Yellow Light

Whoa there! There’s an obstacle that’s too big to go around but not so big that it’s blocking your path. You may have to do some shifting but you figure it out. Whew!

Red Light

Yikes! Just when you thought you were all done with shifting, life comes at you fast. You use everything that you have, but that obstacle…well, it’s not moving and now you’re at a crossroads. One, you can gather your wits and work on a plan of attack. Or two, you can quit, turn around, and travel the way you came.

So how did I do? Did it make sense or did I confuse the hell outta you? Let me know.

Be great,







Wisdom Wednesday #222


Embracing Growth


The Recovering Pessimist: Embracing Growth -- For me, growth is an uncomfortable, but necessary part of adulthood. You can run away from it like I did, or you can embrace it and prosper. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

Growth is one of those necessary aspects of life that requires you to become comfortable with being uncomfortable. I’m a creature of habit. I like things a certain way. When there’s an unexpected change in my life, I get anxious. Growth is the feeling of anxiety.

Years ago, I wasn’t this open to growth. I ignored the lessons that were being taught to me & continued to make the same mistakes over and over. I was afraid to change because I didn’t know what would happen. My fear of the unknown was crippling and I was tired of repeatedly hitting the wall.

I had to get uncomfortable and allow growth to do its thing. There were several people that I had to let go of in order to become better. I won’t lie, it hurt like hell, but in hindsight, it had to be done.

Growth is an uncomfortable, but necessary part of adulthood. You can run away from it like I did, or you can embrace it and prosper.

I’m grateful for the day I stopped ignoring the lessons.


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Wisdom Wednesday #220


It’s Okay to be OK


The Recovering Pessimist: It's Okay to Be OK" -- You don't owe anyone an explanation for why you feel the way you feel. If you feel okay, then you feel okay. Nothing wrong with that. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistThe inspiration for this post came from a snippet of a conversation I observed recently:

Them: “How are you feeling?”


Them:Okay? Just okay?”

I felt offended and I wasn’t part of the conversation. How dare they question how someone felt! Why did they think that feeling okay wasn’t good enough? Did they seriously want that person to explain what “okay” meant to them so they could get a better understanding?

What the hell is wrong with people?

You don't need to explain what 'okay' means to you.

If you ask me how I’m feeling on any given day, there’s a 98% chance I’m going to respond with “okay”. There’s no room for interpretation in that response. Feeling okay is just that…okay. If by chance, you’re the person questioning what “okay” means, I hope this makes you more aware of how your words are interpreted. Even if you meant no harm by it, understand that the person on the receiving end may find your words harmful. If they don’t give more detail in their response, let it be.

Until next time,



Wisdom Wednesday #219


Keep It To Yourself


This post was inspired by those who have a tendency to “tell too much of the church’s business” on social media. I swear social media has turned into confessional for some folks. It reminds me of The Truman Show. So much of their lives are shared online that you start to feel that they believe social media IS their life.

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If you’re an oversharer, regardless of the medium, come close. I want to make sure you read the following statement:

Everyone doesn’t need to know your every move, even if it’s good.


First, everyone on your friend’s list doesn’t always have your best interest in mind. You’re living your life, sharing your highlights and memories. Then one day, you post an update that isn’t so upbeat. For example, your relationship status went from “In A Relationship” to “Single”. What happens right after you post that update?

The same folks on your friend’s list start speculating. You then feel a way about folks being in your business. Then again, nobody would be in your business if you didn’t share your business.

Be aware of who you're sharing what with. There are wolves in sheep's clothing, both in-person and on social media.

In the end, your well-being is worth more than likes.

Until next time,


Wisdom Wednesday #218


Back to Center: Update 6.5


The Recovering Pessimist: Back to Center: Update 6.5 -- After several days of not getting enough rest, enough was enough. I finally had to adjust my bedtime routine. Thankfully, it was easier than expected. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist Rest. It’s something that always seems to elude me. On weekdays, I tend to get 6-7 hours of sleep a night and wake up tired. Weekends are a bit better because I sleep in and take naps. But even then, I still wake up tired. It’s annoying to wake up feeling like you slept four hours when your sleep app says that you got 6.5 hours of sleep.

Plus, after a few days of unrestful sleep, I start to feel the effects. Crankiness and an inability to think clearly are the top two. I spent most nights, working on my laptop and/or phone until around 10ish. Then, I would watch TV until I fell asleep on the sofa.

Enough was enough.

I needed to change my bedtime routine. After some research, I stopped using my laptop at least 30 minutes before I go to bed. It’s a simple change that’s paid off well. Since making that one change, falling asleep is easier and I wake up feeling more rested.

When you know better, you do better, right?




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