When people enter into a relationship, a few things should beare understood:
1. Someone else’s wants and needs should be considered as well as yours.
2. You aren’t always going to be right.
3. Your thoughts are feelings aren’t more important than the other party.
Having an understanding of those three things is crucial to the success of the relationship. In addition, pride can ruin your understanding of these things.
There were a few times where I let pride get the best of me. I was so selfish. If it wasn’t about me first, I wasn’t hearing it. I didn’t care about my boyfriend’s feelings enough to make them a priority. When arguments would occur, I was always right…even when I was dead ass wrong.
My selfishness was responsible for many failed relationships. There were a few times where I managed to check myself before things took a hard left, but it was too late to salvage the relationship.
Ain’t that the truth.
Those lessons on pride’s place in relationships were hard, but they were necessary. I have to humble myself when it comes to relationships if I want my future relationship(s) to prosper.
Until next time,
Allow me to explain.
In life, there are losers and winners. The same applies to love.
There are moments where I was a winner in love. Everything was going well in the relationship, I couldn’t stop smiling, and my heart was full of happiness.
At some point, those winning moments turned sour. Frowns and sadness replaced smiles and happiness. The relationship ended. All was not well in my world. I lost.
But it’s okay.
Heartache is an unwanted necessity of life. Instead of wallowing in my broken heart, I learned to remember those moments where I was a winner.Sometimes losing is inevitable, even in love. Click To Tweet
Until next time,
During my brainstorming sessions, I wanted to do things a bit simpler this year. When I was jotting down my lessons learned for 2016, many of those lessons centered around love.
Which brings me to the “My Truth About #Love” series. This series consists of four truths posted each Monday in February.
I hope you enjoy the series!
One of my favorite things about this blog is that I can share all of the facets that make me who I am. Which brings me to the third installment of this series (click here and here for previous installments). I’m sorry this is long overdue, but let’s jump right in:
1. I am Daria (and Daria is me).
I’ve been sarcastic and what some would call a smartass (I prefer quick-witted) for most of my life. I find it entertaining when people don’t pick up on my sarcasm or get upset that I’m really good at one-liner commentary. Sarcasm and quick-wit are gifts and because you don’t waste gifts, I’m sharing my gifts with the world.
2. I don’t own a pair of heels.
I have a love/dislike relationship with heels that borders more on dislike. I love the streamlined look of heels. However, I don’t like the pain that results from wearing those heels that give that streamlined look.
Plus my style for the past couple of years embraces flats and the occasional wedge, both of which are much easier on my back. At some point, I’m sure I’ll have to break down and buy a pair of simple black heels to go with that gorgeous LBD (little black dress) I’ll score on sale. Until then, no thank you.
3. Bad spelling/grammar makes my eye twitch, seriously.
I’ve been in love with words since I was a kid. Spelling tests were my thing, and I worked my adolescent behind off to make sure I aced them each week. It might be my own doing, but I expect adults to do better when it comes to spelling and grammar. At least know the difference between there/their/they’re & lost/loss.
4. I have introvert tendencies.
When I was making the shift from my late 20s to my 30s, I found myself developing introvert tendencies that I still keep to this day. I enjoy going out and spending time with friends, but after a few hours, I start craving alone time on the sofa. It’s a real struggle.
5. I don’t like shrimp (99% of the time).
The moment I realized what shrimp looked like alive was the moment I lost all interest in eating them. There are the rare (and I do mean rare) moments where I’ll consume a few cooked and deveined shrimp. And even then, I will only eat them if certain people cook them.
That’s it! I hope you enjoyed this. Let’s put the (flat) shoe on the other foot. Share one interesting thing about you. You can drop it in the comments or share via my social media.
Until next time,
There are times where no matter how far I’ve progressed, I find myself falling back a step (or five). It’s discouraging and I have moments when I just want to quit. But I can’t let that happen…and Denzel Washington doesn’t want you to either.
I love Denzel Washington not only as an accomplished actor but for his wisdom (click here for that post). During an interview with BlogXilla of Global Grind to discuss his film Fences, Denzel drops a nugget of wisdom once again.
Check out the video below:
Sometimes you need to be reminded that what you're going through is part of the journey. Click To Tweet
Don’t get discouraged when you find yourself a few steps back from where you started. Use that to motivate you. Make note of that moment to use a reflection point in the future.
You got this.