The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

I’m Not Ready


The Recovering Pessimist: I'm Not Ready -- People mean well when they say things to you. But when you're not in a space to receive the information, you just aren't ready. The end. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist“You should…”

“If I were you…”

“You know, if you…”

“Stop waiting and…”

“But why aren’t you doing/going/etc…”


I understand that people mean well, I do. I also understand that those people are looking out for my well-being. And I appreciate that. When I’m in the head space, I can receive the information and respond. But there are times where I’m not ready to receive nor respond.

When you aren’t ready, you aren’t ready.

I get that you mean well. Please understand that I won’t always be in the space to receive what you are saying to me. Yes, it’s frustrating and I mean no disrespect towards you. When I’m ready, I will let you know.

Keep looking out for me…

…and I’ll continue to do the same for you.



Wisdom Wednesday #214


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #214 -- Don't wait around for someone to do for you what you can do for yourself. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwedneday

Separate Your Eggs


My mother always emphasizes the concept of not putting all of your eggs in one basket. It’s one of those nuggets of wisdom that you don’t appreciate until it happens to you. I’m pretty sure you know what I’m talking about.

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Keri Hilson/

It’s easy to get excited about the possibility of something that you put ALL of your time and energy into that one thing. All you can think about is that one thing. It just has to happen.

I have been there and done that over and over…

…and over and over again.

You put eggs aside because you don’t know what may or may not happen. In the event that things don’t go as planned, the eggs you set aside will be your calm in a moment of panic.

Stay true,



Wisdom Wednesday #213


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #213 -- How can you get upset that your business is out there for the world to comment on when you put it out there to begin with? | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

I Asked You For Support, Not Your 2 Cents


The Recovering Pessimist: I Asked For Your Support, Not Your 2 Cents -- When you share your goals and dreams with people, sometimes you just want support. Instead of giving you their support, they give you their opinion. It's a gut punch to experience that. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistI have goals and dreams that I want to fulfill this year. Some of them are pretty big so I want to share them with my circle to get their support. Sounds cool right?

Yes…and no.

Yes, it’s cool to share goals and projects with people you trust. You want them to support and encourage you to carry on. However, there are times where people are unable to support you without sharing their opinions.

You don't have to understand to be supportive.

It’s heartbreaking to have your goals and dreams crushed in general. It’s a gut punch when those goals and dreams are crushed by the opinions of others. If you’ve ever experienced that, you know what I’m talking about. If you’ve never felt that, I hope that you never have to experience it.

And if you’re one of those people who give their opinion and not support, please understand that if someone wanted your opinion, they’ll ask for it. If they don’t ask for it, keep it to yourself, okay?




Wisdom Wednesday #212


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #212 -- This isn't a race. You will get there in your own time. Enjoy the journey in the meantime. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

The Problem with Potential


Disclaimer: I went back and forth regarding the length of this post. Part of me kinda wanted to make it a normal-length post, but when tried to make a longer post, it didn’t feel right. So here it is, simple and to the point. I hope you enjoy it.

There are two sides to potential:

One, you can see the potential in someone and still see them for who they are in the moment. That’s the ideal side of the coin to be on.

Two, you ONLY see someone for what they could be. Even worse, your interaction with that person is based on their potential, versus who they are right now.

After much heartache (and lost time that I can’t get back), when it comes to potential, it’s best to see someone for who they are right now because if they don’t reach their potential, you can save yourself a lot of time and heartache.

Fall for people for who they are now versus who they could be. What if they never become that person?


Wisdom Wednesday #211


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #211 -- There comes a time in adulthood where you reach a crossroads with the people around you. As you continue to grow, they can either grow with you OR they get left behind. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

Ric Flair: The Ultimate Confidence Booster


As a kid, I loved wrestling. While I loved Macho Man Randy Savage, Sting, and Rowdy Roddy Piper, sitting in front of the TV to watch the awesomeness that is Ric Flair was a weekly must-do.

The flashiness of Ric Flair’s costumes drew me in. When his theme song played, I would be in the living room, with a blanket draped over my shoulders.

Ric Flair/

Ric Flair/

Oh, and he’s an expert in trash talking. As a kid, I memorized the legendary speech in the video below:

That speech gave me the confidence I desperately needed in those moments of adolescence when confidence was M.I.A. Fast forward to adulthood, and I still have the unf*ckwithable mindset courtesy of Ric Flair.

Let's be honest, if you don't believe in your awesomeness, how can you expect anyone else to?

If you (still) think that Ric Flair doesn’t have an impact, check out the video below:

Dear Ric Flair,

If you just so happen to read this (and I’m putting it out there in the Universe that you will), thank you for being the badass that you are.

Your forever fan,


Wisdom Wednesday #210


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #210 -- Don't become so consumed with planning that you forget to execute. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

Finish What You Start in 2018


The Recovering Pessimist: Finish What You Start in 2018 -- This year's theme was inspired by a stack of books that I failed to finish. After being annoyed with myself, I decided that I was no longer going to start things and not finishing them. This year will be the year that I follow through to the end. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistThe inspiration for this year’s theme derived from the stack of (at least 6) books that I’ve purchased throughout 2017 and either never started them or started them and never finished them. Oh, and the countless projects that I’ve started (or planned) and never finished them (or execute them). I’m legit disappointed in myself.



With inspiration on deck, creating the theme was as simple as moving some words around. What I came up with was this:


It’s long overdue. It would be delusional for me to continue to think that I can accomplish goals when I have a tendency to leave things unfinished. This year, I’m hellbent on starting, finishing, and repeat. No more half-assing.

Do you have a theme/mantra for 2018? I would love to hear about it.







Wisdom Wednesday #209


The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #209 -- A little discomfort is good for you. Keeps you on your toes. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

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