Wisdom Wednesday #181
Jun
14
A.S.S. (Always Something Syndrome)
Jun
12
There are some people that always seem to have something going on with them. It’s dramatic. To make things worse, it appears that many of them enjoy the drama. It’s so widespread that I decided that it needs a name: Always Something Syndrome, or A.S.S. for short.
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I keep people who suffer from A.S.S. at arm’s length or I cut them off completely. Not because I don’t care about them, but because they’re draining. Those particular folks had a tendency to create situations that in turn created drama. They kept this drama going for no reason whatsoever just so they could whine about it to whoever would listen.
I entertained it for a while because I cared about them. I wanted the vbest for them, but as you and I both know, you can’t want it for them more than they want it for themselves. They know that the drama can be resolved. However, if they resolve it, they don’t have anything else to talk about. And if they don’t have anything to talk about, folks stop paying attention to them.
Click To TweetUntil next time,
MsWalton
Public Service Announcement: Be Specific
Jun
05
You aren’t going to go through life with everything that you need. At some point, you’re going to have to ask for something. That’s normal. However, when you ask for something, regardless of what it is, be specific.
Did ya’ll catch that up there in the nosebleed section? No? Don’t worry, I’ll repeat it.
When you ask for something, regardless of what it is, be specific.
I cannot stress this enough. If you want a new job with more money, ask for a job with more money. If you just ask for a new job, that’s what you’ll get…a new job with the same money you make now.
For example, if you want a new job with more money, ask for a job with more money. If you just ask for a new job, that’s what you’ll get…a new job with the same money you make now. Or, if you ask for a boyfriend/girlfriend, don’t be shocked with you end up with an asshole. You didn’t ask for a boyfriend/girlfriend that treated you like royalty.
Or, if you ask for a boyfriend/girlfriend, don’t be shocked with you end up with an asshole. You didn’t ask for a boyfriend/girlfriend that treated you like royalty.
You get exactly what you ask for (or don't ask for) in life. Be wise with how you word your request. Click To TweetUntil next time,
MsWalton
A Few Thoughts on Blessings
May
29
I believe the Universe (or whatever you wish to call it if you wish to call it anything) blesses people every day. These blessings can be tangible or intangible, significant or insignificant.
What’s important about blessings is the understanding that blessings come with an expectation:
Do right by the blessing.
For example, if you come into money (regardless of the sum), spend it wisely. If you meet someone who can enrich your life, learn from them. So forth and so on.
Take care of the blessing and the blessing will take care of you. Click To TweetWhen you know better, you do better right?
Until next time,
MsWalton
How Much Longer?
May
22
If I had the opportunity to go back 10 years ago and ask myself one question, I would ask myself this:
How much longer?
If I allow myself, I’ll spend a lot of time planning with no execution. I would love to say it’s a blessing, but for me, it’s a curse. I can plan something with all of the possible contingencies, but I’ll never implement the plan.
Not good.
Dreams and goals aren't fulfilled if you spend all your time planning and not executing. Click To TweetIf you knew how much I missed out on because of this…just thinking about it gives me a headache. Eventually, I got tired of getting in my own way.
I got tired of missing out on opportunities to advance in life. Got annoyed with asking myself “What if?” because I knew I could be out here prospering. Don’t be like me. There’s nothing wrong with planning, but understand that the point of planning is to implement the plans. Remember that.
Until next time,
MsWalton
3 Things I Don’t Apologize For In My 30s
May
15
One of the biggest things that I occurred when I entered my 30s is that I stopped caring about hurting people’s feelings. For the record, I didn’t hurt people’s feelings with the intention to be spiteful. I got tired of being concerned about how people felt when I decided not to do what was expected of me. There’s something freeing about giving deserving people the imaginary middle finger.
Here are a few of the things that I stopped apologizing for in my 30s:
1. Being honest with my thoughts and feelings.
I have always been the person that kept their deepest thoughts and feelings to themselves. Why? Because I didn’t want to hurt people’s feelings. The problem with that is that it weighs you down. Nowadays, I release those thoughts and feelings out in a rational way. Keeping all of that in does nothing but create disaster down the road.
2. Not wasting my time.
I’ve never liked wasting my time. When I was in my 20s and younger, I wouldn’t say no to doing things that I didn’t want to do because I didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. Now, I am more protective of “MY” time.
Even when I have nothing to do, if I don't want to hang out, go to an event, etc., I won't. Click To TweetTime is too valuable to be wasted.
3. Who I am.
I’m well aware that I can come off as sarcastic, funny, and a bit of an asshole. All of these things and more make up who I am. At this point in the game, I am who I am. I’m not going to be everyone’s favorite and that’s fine.
Those are the three things I don’t apologize for in my 30s. What are some things that you aren’t apologetic for in your life? Let’s discuss in the comments and/or social media.
Until next time,
MsWalton