The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

Wisdom Wednesday #181

Jun
14

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #181 -- If you don't believe in your greatness, how can you expect others to believe in your greatness? | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

A.S.S. (Always Something Syndrome)

Jun
12

There are some people that always seem to have something going on with them. It’s dramatic. To make things worse, it appears that many of them enjoy the drama. It’s so widespread that I decided that it needs a name: Always Something Syndrome, or A.S.S. for short.

 

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I keep people who suffer from A.S.S. at arm’s length or I cut them off completely. Not because I don’t care about them, but because they’re draining. Those particular folks had a tendency to create situations that in turn created drama. They kept this drama going for no reason whatsoever just so they could whine about it to whoever would listen.

I entertained it for a while because I cared about them. I wanted the vbest for them, but as you and I both know, you can’t want it for them more than they want it for themselves. They know that the drama can be resolved. However, if they resolve it, they don’t have anything else to talk about. And if they don’t have anything to talk about, folks stop paying attention to them.

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Until next time,

MsWalton

 

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday #180

Jun
07

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday #180 -- Asking yourself "What's Next?" keeps you on your toes and prevents you from getting comfortable. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

Public Service Announcement: Be Specific

Jun
05

The Recovering Pessimist: Public Service Announcement: Be Specific --If you ask for something, be specific. Otherwise, you'll get exactly what you ask for. Depending on what that is, it won't always work out in your favor. Trust me. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistYou aren’t going to go through life with everything that you need. At some point, you’re going to have to ask for something. That’s normal. However, when you ask for something, regardless of what it is, be specific.

Did ya’ll catch that up there in the nosebleed section? No? Don’t worry, I’ll repeat it.

When you ask for something, regardless of what it is, be specific. 

I cannot stress this enough. If you want a new job with more money, ask for a job with more money. If you just ask for a new job, that’s what you’ll get…a new job with the same money you make now.

For example, if you want a new job with more money, ask for a job with more money. If you just ask for a new job, that’s what you’ll get…a new job with the same money you make now. Or, if you ask for a boyfriend/girlfriend, don’t be shocked with you end up with an asshole. You didn’t ask for a boyfriend/girlfriend that treated you like royalty.

Or, if you ask for a boyfriend/girlfriend, don’t be shocked with you end up with an asshole. You didn’t ask for a boyfriend/girlfriend that treated you like royalty.

You get exactly what you ask for (or don't ask for) in life. Be wise with how you word your request. Click To Tweet

Until next time,

MsWalton

 

 

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday #179

May
31

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday 179 -- Enough said. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

A Few Thoughts on Blessings

May
29

The Recovering Pessimist: A Few Thoughts on Blessings -- Blessings come in all forms with varying degrees of significance. Take care of the blessing and the blessing will take care of you. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistI believe the Universe (or whatever you wish to call it if you wish to call it anything) blesses people every day. These blessings can be tangible or intangible, significant or insignificant.

What’s important about blessings is the understanding that blessings come with an expectation:

Do right by the blessing.

For example, if you come into money (regardless of the sum), spend it wisely. If you meet someone who can enrich your life, learn from them. So forth and so on.

Take care of the blessing and the blessing will take care of you. Click To Tweet

When you know better, you do better right?

Until next time,

MsWalton

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday #178

May
24

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday 178 -- Don't announce every move you make. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

How Much Longer?

May
22

The Recovering Pessimist: How Much Longer? -- Planning is great and all, but at some point you have to execute. Otherwise, you miss out and find yourself with a case of the "what ifs". | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistIf I had the opportunity to go back 10 years ago and ask myself one question, I would ask myself this:

How much longer?

If I allow myself, I’ll spend a lot of time planning with no execution. I would love to say it’s a blessing, but for me, it’s a curse. I can plan something with all of the possible contingencies, but I’ll never implement the plan.

Not good.

Dreams and goals aren't fulfilled if you spend all your time planning and not executing. Click To Tweet

If you knew how much I missed out on because of this…just thinking about it gives me a headache. Eventually, I got tired of getting in my own way.

I got tired of missing out on opportunities to advance in life. Got annoyed with asking myself “What if?” because I knew I could be out here prospering. Don’t be like me. There’s nothing wrong with planning, but understand that the point of planning is to implement the plans. Remember that.

Until next time,

MsWalton

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday #177

May
17

The Recovering Pessimist: Wisdom Wednesday 177 -- You can want to help someone with all the good intentions in the world, but if they don't want your help, there's very little you can do. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #wisdomwednesday

3 Things I Don’t Apologize For In My 30s

May
15

The Recovering Pessimist: 3 Things I Don't Apologize for In My 30s -- Prior to entering my 30s, I lived life according to how others wanted me to live. I cared too much about how my decisions would make others feel. Now that I'm in my 30s, I could care less about how others feel about me and my decisions. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #optimisticpessimist #recoveringpessimistOne of the biggest things that I occurred when I entered my 30s is that I stopped caring about hurting people’s feelings. For the record, I didn’t hurt people’s feelings with the intention to be spiteful. I got tired of being concerned about how people felt when I decided not to do what was expected of me. There’s something freeing about giving deserving people the imaginary middle finger.

Here are a few of the things that I stopped apologizing for in my 30s:

 1. Being honest with my thoughts and feelings.

I have always been the person that kept their deepest thoughts and feelings to themselves. Why? Because I didn’t want to hurt people’s feelings. The problem with that is that it weighs you down. Nowadays, I release those thoughts and feelings out in a rational way. Keeping all of that in does nothing but create disaster down the road.

2. Not wasting my time.

I’ve never liked wasting my time. When I was in my 20s and younger, I wouldn’t say no to doing things that I didn’t want to do because I didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. Now, I am more protective of “MY” time.

Even when I have nothing to do, if I don't want to hang out, go to an event, etc., I won't. Click To Tweet

Time is too valuable to be wasted.

3. Who I am.

I’m well aware that I can come off as sarcastic, funny, and a bit of an asshole. All of these things and more make up who I am. At this point in the game, I am who I am. I’m not going to be everyone’s favorite and that’s fine.

Those are the three things I don’t apologize for in my 30s. What are some things that you aren’t apologetic for in your life? Let’s discuss in the comments and/or social media.

Until next time,

MsWalton

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