The past has a way of reappearing when you’re doing good for yourself.
For example, when you’re over someone, you may exile them from your life. You block their number so they can’t call/text you and you unfriend them on social media. That exiled person is now a part of your past, and until further notice, the past is where they will stay.
In the meantime, life moves on. You’re out here in the world, being awesome and whatnot. Then one random day, the past reappears.
It could be a text/call from an unknown number, in-person, etc. Regardless of the way the past reappeared, it’s awkward as hell. You cared about that person. You both had some good memories. You may feel a way about how things ended. Then there’s the desire…to reconnect with that person. sighs That desire makes a huge difference in how you decide to react.
Despite these feelings, you remind myself that I’m done with that person for a reason. And while it might not be a bad thing to consider making them part of your life now, you don’t want to risk it.
[bctt tweet=”The what-ifs aren’t worth the emotional rollercoaster.” username=”MsWalton”]
Until next time,
When I enter into a relationship after being single for some time, It’s exciting. I can get caught up in the newness of it all, that I forget the components that comprise the fine print in relationships. I consider these components to be communication, sympathy, etc.:
Relationship participants agree to keep lines of communication open. Participants also agree to be sympathetic to the needs of other participants. Failure to comply with these terms may result in termination of the relationship. Other terms and agreements may apply.
Making the adjustment in your mindset from single to a relationship participant is crucial. I had to change my mindset to meet the needs of my partner. These components create a foundation that’s a requirement for relationship success.
[bctt tweet=”Having a boo thang is cute, but if you want to keep that boo thang, do the work.” username=”MsWalton”]
The moment you disregard the foundation of a relationship is when the relationship fails. And you end up back where you started…single. Keep that in mind.
This is where things get dicey.
There’s a difference between just talking about your burdens and laying your burdens on someone’s shoulders. You can have a discussion about your burdens just to get it off your chest. No expectations from the other person, other than to listen.
But when you dump your burdens on people expecting them to fix it for you, there’s an issue. It’s not fair to the other person to be your emotional dumping ground. You’re not resolving anything. Instead, you’re creating another issue: you put your burdens on another person’s shoulders to carry. That’s a lot, especially when the other person didn’t ask for it.
How can this be avoided?
Ask for permission beforehand. Some people absorb your problems and/or energy and can’t get rid of it like they want. It’s as simple as that.
Until next time,
This post originated from an observation I had while driving on the interstate: People don’t pay attention when they’re driving. This observation applies beyond driving. In general, people just don’t pay attention. All of the information, signs, etc. are there right in front of them, but they lack the foresight to see what’s to come.
It’s interesting to say the least.
I wonder if foresight is one of those skills that people either have it or they don’t. Similar to common sense. If that’s not the case, I can’t explain how people can’t see what’s going to happen when it’s in plain view.
What if foresight is one of those things where they can see what’s in front of them, but they don’t know what to do?
What if foresight is one of those things when they know what’s in front of them and they know what’s going to happen, but they don’t want to deal with the situation?
If you ever find yourself sitting in traffic, check out your surroundings. There’s a driver or two who doesn’t pay attention to lane closures, sudden braking, etc.
[bctt tweet=”If you feel that something is about to happen, do you prepare yourself or do you ignore it?” username=”MsWalton”]
Care to share your answer? Let me know in the comments and/or social media.
Be good to yourself.