The Recovering Pessimist

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Don’t Lay Your Burdens on My Shoulders

Oct
02

The Recovering Pessimist: Don't Lay Your Burdens On My Shoulders -- When you decide to share your burdens with someone, ask them. It's only fair. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistWe all have things that weigh on us. Those things may affect us in various ways. Burdens can be difficult to deal with alone, so oftentimes, we talk about our burdens with others.

This is where things get dicey.

There’s a difference between just talking about your burdens and laying your burdens on someone’s shoulders. You can have a discussion about your burdens just to get it off your chest. No expectations from the other person, other than to listen.

But when you dump your burdens on people expecting them to fix it for you, there’s an issue. It’s not fair to the other person to be your emotional dumping ground. You’re not resolving anything. Instead, you’re creating another issue: you put your burdens on another person’s shoulders to carry. That’s a lot, especially when the other person didn’t ask for it.

How can this be avoided?

Ask for permission beforehand. Some people absorb your problems and/or energy and can’t get rid of it like they want. It’s as simple as that.

Until next time,

MsWalton

 

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