The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

Switching Up My Mental


The Recovering Pessimist: Switching Up My Mental -- When goals that I've established don't work out as expected, I had to figure out what's the problem. When I realized that the steps I was using weren't the problem, I realized that I needed to switch up my mental approach. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistThroughout this year, I’ve been working on several goals. I’ve accomplished some of my goals. However, I’m not making the progress that I want to make on other goals. It’s frustrating to say the least.

So I had a moment with myself to figure out where things were going wrong. My mental approach to these goals was all wrong. And because it was all wrong, I couldn’t make the progress that I wanted to make.

For example, I would tell myself the following:

I want a new job.

I want to travel to ____________.

I want more money.

I switched my mindset to the following:

I’m getting a new job.

I’m traveling to ____________.

I’m getting more money.

Turning those wants into manifestations just might get me closer to accomplishing all of my goals. It’s worth a try. Can’t keep doing the same things expecting different results. Besides, the worst that can happen is that I get the same results. But I won’t know that if I didn’t try something new to begin with.

If you find yourself hitting a wall with something you’re trying to do, try changing your mindset. Sometimes, that’s all that’s needed to get things back in action.

Be good to yourself,




What I Really Love About Halloween

The Recovering Pessimist: What I Really Love About Halloween -- Halloween is one of my favorite non-holiday holidays (other than my birthday). Besides dressing up and acting a fool for a day, there's one more thing that really makes me excited about Halloween. Check out the blog to find out what it is:) | #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

Halloween /

I love Halloween. It gives me an opportunity to allow my inner child to come out and act a fool for one day. I get to wear outfits that would otherwise get me charged with indecent exposure (don’t judge me).

However, there’s one thing about Halloween that I absolutely LOVE:


Happy Halloween!!!

The Beauty of a Brain Dump


The Recovering Pessimist: The Beauty of a Brain Dump -- Dumping everything out  provides so much clarity. | #amwriting #recoveringpessimistAs a writer, not being able to focus is a nightmare. One way to relieve myself of mental congestion is by doing a brain dump. I grab good ol’ pen and paper (or open a blank Google Doc), then I unload everything that’s been taking up residency in my mind.

I can feel the stress and anxiety escape from my fingers as I write (or type) everything out. In addition, I’ve observed that brain dumps help resolve problems that I previously struggled to find a solution to. There’s something about writing everything down that makes it easier to sort through things. Which in turn makes it easier to work towards a solution. A definite win-win for me.

If you ever find yourself mentally congested, try doing a brain dump. What’s the worst that can happen? It won’t work? Here’s the catch: you have to try it to find out.

28,835 Days of Being Present


My weekday consists of going to work, working, and going home. Weekends consists of errands, spending time with friends, and relaxing.  I definitely don’t make good use of my free time.

Then I saw the video below on my timeline that reminded me that I need to be more present:

After I watched the video, I legit reprimanded myself for wasting so much time over the years. Yes, naps are awesome, but those minutes could be spent doing something that would help me accomplish my goals.

How did you feel after watching the video? Share your thoughts in the comments and let’s chat!

The Best Part of Halloween…


…is when the candy goes on sale.


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…falling leaves




…Fall’s official color.

Do You Remember The Time?


While working on a potential post for today, I kept singing Michael Jackson’s “Remember The Time”. I’ve said in a previous post how inspiration tends to appear in the strangest of places. Today is no different. While singing, I thought about the last time I was in love. The song is a reminder of good memories and I wanted to share it with you.

Do you remember the last time you were in love?





Thank You!!!!!


I unexpectedly accomplished something pretty big for this blog yesterday.

I hit 100 follows. One-hundred friggin’ follows.

It means a lot. Please continue to support and share the awesomeness that is this blog.



Joy in Cleaning?

Cleaning Supplies for Spring Cleaning

Cleaning Supplies for Spring Cleaning (Photo credit: Chiot’s Run)

Do you enjoy cleaning? Why or why not?

Not really. I do it because I have to do it. Once I start it, I’m fine. Motivating myself to start cleaning is the problem.

Fresh Air and Evaluation


Green Thumb Dreams


Do you own a garden? What do you grow?

I currently don’t own a garden, but I want to grow an herb garden. I’m forcing myself to cook more so I want to embrace fresh herbs. My future herb garden will have mint, basil, thyme, and rosemary.

Guess I should start shopping for supplies.

Delayed Blossoming


 Discuss this famous Anais Nin quote: “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”

When you live your life based on the expectations of others,  you slowly suffocate. Emotional duct tape is applied. Your dreams, wants, fears are silenced.

The worst feeling is to look in the mirror and not recognize the face staring back at you. That’s the moment when you take your life back.

Duct tape has to go. Your voice needs to be heard. Your life needs to be lived the way you want to live it.

Rosa pomifera - wolley dod's rose - desc-flowe...

Rosa pomifera – wolley dod’s rose – desc-flower bud (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

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