The Recovering Pessimist

Helping pessimists see the bright side of life without losing their "half empty" roots.

5 Ways to Recover From a Bad Day

Mar
27

The Recovering Pessimist: 5 Ways to Recover From a Bad Day -- Life has been hectic. Knowing how to handle bad days is the key. I'm sharing five ways I recover from a bad day. Enjoy! | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist Life has been hectic lately. Oftentimes, I get home too tired to do anything writing-related. After coming home and doing little to nothing besides go to sleep, I had to switch it up. I needed to create a plan for recovering from these bad days. Here are a few things that worked for me:

Here are a few things that worked for me:

Having a Decompression Period

I’m a huge fan of having a decompression period. I usually decompress during my 20-minute drive home from work. I play some good music, call a friend/family member and enjoy the ride. By the time I get home, I’m relaxed.

Writing It Out

There are some instances where I have to put my thoughts/feelings on paper. Doing this helps me work through my thoughts/feelings and removes the burden(s) from my mind. After a good writing session, I tend to feel better.

Be Quiet

Being quiet for a set amount of time is soothing. I usually sit in my living room in silence for a few minutes to an hour. To get through this, I will be quiet for a few minutes to an hour. Once I finish a quiet session, my mood is way better.

Treat Yo Self!

My favorite way to recover from a bad day is to treat myself. My standard treats are a drink from Starbucks, a burrito bowl from Chipotle, or a cinnamon roll from a local bakery. Treating myself to one of these things after a rough day always puts a smile on my face.

Remind Yourself that Tomorrow is Coming

It’s easy to feel that a bad day won’t end at the end of that day. I have to remind myself of the following:

One bad day doesn't need to become one bad week, one bad month, and so on. Tomorrow the slate is clean. Click To Tweet

Tell me, how do you recover from bad days? I would love to read about what works for you in the comments.

Until next time,

MsWalton

#Love is Necessary

Feb
27

The Recovering Pessimist: #Love is Necessary -- Each time I encountered Love, I emerged as a better person. Love helped me grow as a person. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #mytruthaboutloveThere are two things that come to mind when I think of Love: Happiness and Heartache.

Happiness is an awesome feeling. It feels calming; like a glass of smooth whiskey or a comfy blanket on a chilly evening.

My experiences with heartache ranged from devastation to sad understanding. Heartache hurts, and while I don’t want to experience it, I know that it’s necessary.

Both happiness and heartache are necessary aspects of Love. They taught me lessons which made me a better person.

Love softens me. 

Love gives me hope.

Love humbled me.

I wouldn't be who I am without Love. Click To Tweet

 

Until next time,

MsWalton

#Love is Unexpected

Feb
20

The Recovering Pessimist: #Love is Unexpected -- It's been my experience that Love needs to come to me versus me looking for Love. I learned to appreciate the unexpectedness of Love, and I'm grateful for that. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #optimisticpessimist #recoveringpessimist #mytruthaboutlove

While working on the Dear #Love Letter series and #Love: A Musical Retrospective, I realized that there was a recurring theme:

Love works on its own schedule.

You would think this be a “duh” moment, but like many things in my life, I had to figure this one out. I fought Love. I tried so hard to make Love work on my own terms. I planned for it. I did all the work required to invite Love in.

In return, Love laughed at me and delivered a well-needed life lesson:

What you want and what the Universe wants for you aren't going to line up all the time. Click To Tweet

 

Praise/Giphy.com

Praise/Giphy.com

 

When you know better, you do better right?

Until next time,

MsWalton

 

 

 

#Love + Pride = Disaster

Feb
13

 

The Recovering Pessimist: #Love + Pride = Disaster -- Several things have ruined my relationships in the past (e.g., jealousy, lack of trust, etc.). None of those things were as disastrous as pride. You can sense jealousy and lac of trust, but pride is hard to detect. And by the time you detect it, it may be too late. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #mytruthaboutlove #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist

When people enter into a relationship, a few things should beare understood:

1. Someone else’s wants and needs should be considered as well as yours.

2. You aren’t always going to be right.

3. Your thoughts are feelings aren’t more important than the other party.

Having an understanding of those three things is crucial to the success of the relationship. In addition, pride can ruin your understanding of these things.

There were a few times where I let pride get the best of me. I was so selfish. If it wasn’t about me first, I wasn’t hearing it. I didn’t care about my boyfriend’s feelings enough to make them a priority. When arguments would occur, I was always right…even when I was dead ass wrong.

My selfishness was responsible for many failed relationships. There were a few times where I managed to check myself before things took a hard left, but it was too late to salvage the relationship.

Pride will destroy everything in its path, including your relationship. Click To Tweet

Ain’t that the truth.

Those lessons on pride’s place in relationships were hard, but they were necessary. I have to humble myself when it comes to relationships if I want my future relationship(s) to prosper.

Until next time,

MsWalton

#Love is a Winning AND Losing Game

Feb
06

The Recovering Pessimist: Love is a Winning AND Losing Game -- As in life, there are winners and losers when it comes to love, and that is okay. I learned to live in moment versus worrying about when the other shoe in the relationship would fall. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #mytruthaboutloveAmy Winehouse was on to something with “Love Is a Losing Game”.

Allow me to explain.

In life, there are losers and winners. The same applies to love.

There are moments where I was a winner in love. Everything was going well in the relationship, I couldn’t stop smiling, and my heart was full of happiness.

At some point, those winning moments turned sour. Frowns and sadness replaced smiles and happiness. The relationship ended. All was not well in my world. I lost.

But it’s okay.

Heartache is an unwanted necessity of life. Instead of wallowing in my broken heart, I learned to remember those moments where I was a winner.

Sometimes losing is inevitable, even in love. Click To Tweet

Until next time,

MsWalton

My Truth About #Love

Jan
30

The Recovering Pessimist: My Truth About Love (Intro) -- I don't participate in Valentine's Day (it's a retail holiday, but I digress), however, I wanted to create a themed series about the truths I learned (the hard way) about love. I hope you enjoy! | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimist #mytruthaboutlove

I love writing about love and all of its complexities. Back in 2014 and 2016 I did a themed February series on love. I enjoyed creating the themes and wanted to do it again for 2017.

During my brainstorming sessions, I wanted to do things a bit simpler this year. When I was jotting down my lessons learned for 2016, many of those lessons centered around love.

Which brings me to the “My Truth About #Love” series. This series consists of four truths posted each Monday in February.

I hope you enjoy the series!

 

 

 

 

“Keep Swinging” Through Life

Jan
16

There are times where no matter how far I’ve progressed, I find myself falling back a step (or five). It’s discouraging and I have moments when I just want to quit. But I can’t let that happen…and Denzel Washington doesn’t want you to either.

I love Denzel Washington not only as an accomplished actor but for his wisdom (click here for that post). During an interview with BlogXilla of Global Grind to discuss his film Fences, Denzel drops a nugget of wisdom once again.

Check out the video below:

Sometimes you need to be reminded that what you're going through is part of the journey. Click To Tweet

Don’t get discouraged when you find yourself a few steps back from where you started. Use that to motivate you. Make note of that moment to use a reflection point in the future.

You got this.

Staying Ready in 2017

Jan
02
The Recovering Pessimist: Staying Ready in 2017 -- While doing my prepping for 2017, finding a theme was pretty easy. I decided to use a simple, but profound phrase that I have been reciting all of 2016. | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #optimisticpessimist #recoveringpessimist

Image via Chaitra of ItsPinkPot.com

Happy 2017!!!

To continue my tradition of creating yearly themes, I come to you with my theme for 2017 (click here and here for past years’ posts).

This year’s theme began as a joke between my friends and I because I hate surprises. Over time, this phrase evolved into a personal mantra.

Fast forward to Q3 of 2016. I sat down to write some ideas, and the only one that made the list was the joke that became my mantra:

 

STAY READY

I spent a good part of 2016 worrying about the “what ifs”; the inspirations and opportunities that I missed out on. I was thisclose to potential greatness, but of course, I messed up and missed out on them.

How did I miss out on them?

My mindset wasn’t in the right place. I was so worried about what everyone else was doing that I got in my own way. What I should’ve focused on was myself, my goals, and how I was going to accomplish them.

Lesson learned.

In 2017, my hopes, dreams, wants, and desires are big. I refuse to get in my own way this year. I have too much to do and accomplish. What are you promising not to do this year? I’d love to hear about it.

Happy New Year!

My 2016 Wrap Up

Dec
26

The Recovering Pessimist: My 2016 Wrap Up -- This year has been a huge learning experience. I've made progress with this blog as well as my personal life and wanted to chronicle these moments. Enjoy! | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #optimisticpessimist #recoveringpessimistI love writing end of year wrap-up posts (see here for last year’s). It’s a way for me to chronicle all of my ups (and downs) from the year. It also reminds me of accomplishments I have forgotten. Last year’s wrap up post wasn’t as organized as I would like, so this year, I wanted to split the post into two sections: blog and personal life.

Enjoy!

 

BLOG

Top 10 Blogs of 2016 (As of 12/10/2016)
 Highlights
Lessons Learned
  • Getting wrapped up in everyone else’s success blocks my own potential success. Don’t get sucked into that matrix.
  • Everyone has their own journey, including me.
  • Make use of small nuggets of time. I can get more work done in 30 minutes than I can in 8 hours.

 

PERSONAL

 Highlights
  • I won tickets to 2015 Richmond Jazz Festival. The bestie and I went on Sunday night, so we could experience the greatness that is Morris Day & the Time, Tamia, and The Roots. Yes, all of that in one day/night.
  • Saw Alabama Shakes and Corinne Bailey Rae in concert with the bestie at the Portsmouth Pavilion. Perfect weather for a soul-stirring outdoor concert.
  • Reconnected with old friends via Facebook.
  • Took more selfies of myself.
    • For the record, I didn’t post 90% of the selfies I took in 2016. These selfies were mostly for personal memories and documentation of my wellness journey.
Lessons Learned
  • Be open to the unexpectedness of life. Oftentimes these curveballs aren’t as bad as I think they are.
  • Just because I can’t see it happening, doesn’t mean things aren’t working behind the scenes.
  • It’s okay to miss the past. However, remember why the past is the past.

 

That’s 2016 for me in a nutshell. What were your highs (and lows) of 2016? Do you document them (blog post, journal, video, etc.)? I’d love to hear about it.

Until next time,

MsWalton

 

How I’m Prepping for 2017

Dec
19

The Recovering Pessimist: How I'm Prepping for 2017 -- I love going through the process of planning for the upcoming year. It allows me to reflect on the current year and make the necessary adjustments. Some of the things mentioned in this year's blog post are similar to last year's with some new things added. Do you plan for the upcoming year? What is your process? | www.therecoveringpessimist.me #amwriting #recoveringpessimist #optimisticpessimistI love writing about my preparation process for the upcoming year. Many of the things in this year’s post were mentioned in last year’s post. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it right?

Without further adieu, let’s begin, shall we?

Create theme for 2017

Having a theme really sets the tone for how I approach the upcoming year. Throughout the year I’ve repeated the same phrase over and over as a reminder to myself and friends when life threw us a curve ball.

Then I had a lightbulb moment. I could make this phrase my theme for 2017 (I”ll disclose the theme in a later post). One less thing for me to work on. Yay!

Vision Board

I created my first vision board last year after hearing folks talk about how vision boards helped them with the manifestation of their goals, aspirations, etc. They were spot on. Many of the things I posted on my vision board actually happened.

Questlove/Giphy.com

Questlove/Giphy.com

This year, I want to take things up a notch with my vision board. I want to take a photo of my vision board, print the photo, and put the photo on the inside cover of my Inkwell Press liveWELL planner. That way, I can keep my vision board with me and stay on task. Genius!

Planning Blog Content Ahead of Time

This year, I finally decided to create an editorial calendar using Google Sheets. I have a place to keep track of all the blog posts (and their permalinks) I’ve written for the year broken down by month. Planning blog posts that are part of a series (e.g., Back to Center, Wisdom Wednesday, etc.) is way easier for me. If you don’t already have some sort of content calendar in place, get one and save yourself the stress.

Write Goals Down

Each year, I have major goals that I want to accomplish. Last year, I used MindMeister to create a visual for all of my goals. It was really pretty to look at, but it wasn’t effective. I also made goal cards for my major goals, which worked initially. However, I stopped looking at them regularly, so that ended up not being too effective.

The whole point of making goals is to accomplish them right?

Exactly!

This year, I decided to keep track of my goals using my 2017 Inkwell Press liveWELL planner. This weekly planner has a lot of areas throughout the planner to keep track of my goals on a yearly and monthly basis. And since I look at my planner several times a day, housing my goals in the planner would be a win-win situation for me.

That’s my planning process for 2017. Tell me, do you plan for the upcoming year? If so, what’s your process? I’d love to hear about it.

Until next time,

MsWalton

 

 

 

 

 

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