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I’m Featured on “Oh Hey, Nina”
There are things that I want to talk about that I don’t aren’t necessarily a good fit for this blog. So I decided that Oh Hey, Nina would be the perfect place for my guest blog post entitled “Pardon Your Manners: First Impressions of Online Dating”. That’s right, I’m a guest blogger pats self on back. I’m pretty excited and would love it if you would take a few minutes to show Nina some love. She’s pretty awesome and her blog is dope as hell.
Oh, and one more thing. If you don’t mind, let me know what you think about my guest blog post. I would really appreciate the feedback.
Thanks!
Updated March 5, 2015
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Flawed Perfection
When you truly love someone, you love ALL of them, flaws included.
Under no circumstances do you get to take all of the good characteristics of an individual and leave the flaws behind. Nor do you love someone and try to mold them into the person you want them to be. That’s not how love works. You are to love that person as they are now, not what they could be over time.
Makes sense right?
Instead of searching for something that doesn’t exist, it would make more sense to look for someone that’s suitable for you. A person who will love and accept all of you, just as you would love and accept all of them. Both of you should bring out the best in one another while challenging each other to be the best version of themselves.
That, ladies and gentlemen, is how love works.
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Wisdom Wednesday #30
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A Renegade in an Eggshell Society
I never understood how sensitive people were until I took a look at my Facebook timeline. So many people posting their life stories for the masses to read and comment on. The comments section is where the sensitivity lies.
If you’re going to post about your cheating mate, understand that not everyone is going to offer you tissues and hugs. ESPECIALLY if this mate has a history of cheating and you have a track record of taking them back.
Nope, not gonna happen here.
What I am going to tell you in the comment section is that you look extremely stupid telling your friends that once again, he/she has cheated on you and once again, you took them back. Perhaps you should look within to figure out why your self-esteem is so very low.
Over-sharing parental units, you’re next.
I get that you’re proud of your children, however, I don’t need to see 45 posts of your children’s actions from the time they wake up until they go to bed. Then you follow-up by saying that you couldn’t get anything done that day. Of course you couldn’t get anything done insert eye roll here.
If I comment that if you put the phone down and I don’t know, tried to do something that day, you’d be surprised at how much you could get done. Makes sense right? Evidently not, because I get the following responses:
You’re rude.
You don’t have children, so you shouldn’t comment.
That’s where you’re wrong. I’m going to comment because you put it on your timeline, which gives me the green light to comment. I understand that some people are (overly) sensitive, but there’s no reason to get in your feelings every time someone disagrees with you.
If it bothers you that much, stay off of social media.
Sincerely,
A renegade in an eggshell society
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Wisdom Wednesday #29
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Believe in the Possibility
There are times when I can’t see my way out of a situation. While considering possible outcomes, I end up creating more roadblocks for myself. It gets so frustrating I would just rather wallow in my misery than face another roadblock. Misery breeds negativity and I’m trying so hard not to find comfort in my pessimistic nature. Here’s the thing. Negativity won’t get me anywhere. What will get me out of that situation is so simple and requires absolutely no manual work.
Believe that it’s possible.
That’s it. The hardest part is believing in the possibility that a positive outcome can happen. Once I adopted a positive mindset, the roadblocks dissipated. A positive mindset gives way to a clear mind and that is the driving force behind finding a solution. Sounds like a no-brainer, but when you’re a pessimist, this feels damn near impossible. All you have to do is try…
…then stand back and watch shit happen.
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Wisdom Wednesday #28
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The Necessity of Sacrifice
Oftentimes, people will talk about all the things that they want to accomplish in life.
I want a promotion.
I want to own a home.
I need to finish my requirements for my degree.
Blah, blah, blah.
In some cases, what you don’t hear is how they plan to achieve these goals. See, some people want things out of life, but they don’t want to do the necessary work. Getting a promotion is great, but understand that you have to put in the work to get that promotion. Buying a home requires budgeting and saving. Earning a degree requires that you pass the required coursework.
All of these examples have one thing in common…SACRIFICE.
Sacrifice is a necessity. Working overtime for that promotion. Forgoing a vacation to save for the down payment on the home. Not going out with friends so you can finish that paper on time. All of these examples required some sort of sacrifice.
Rarely is anything in life handed just given to you. In most cases, you work for them and while working for them, you’ll find that you will sacrifice something to get it. In order to get, you have to give, or get nothing. The choice is yours to make.
Choose wisely.
Updated: April 9, 2015
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Wisdom Wednesday #27